Maid of honor disaster

I mean is she the only one living out of state? Could be difficult for her too.

My bridesmale didn't really do anything like bachelorette or bridal shower stuff but he lived super far away out of state compared to everyone else so no one expected him to knowing he couldn't. But when it was the day of my wedding and rehearsal he definitely stepped up and helped out when I needed.

View Quoted Comment I totally understand that but for the past year have had my bridesmaids saying why doesn’t she respond this and that so it’s been a hard year dealing with her and I have been her biggest advocate but none of them have and I understand why and never responded to the wedding rsvps which were do days ago she doesn’t do anything! What would you do?

What will taking away the title of MOH do to your friendship? I think could seriously damage the friendship. I'm assuming the wedding is out of state. It may not be financially feasible for her to make multiple trips. The only requirement of a MOH is to wear the dress and support you on the day of. Yes, it would be nice for her to attend other wedding festivities, but it is not worth losing a friend over.

View Quoted Comment I totally understand where your coming from she is my cousin and has known me my whole life.. I understand flights are expensive but she told me she was coming and then in July wanted to come visit instead but that’s ok?

I removed a bridesmaid from my party completely in March and we still haven’t spoken. Long story short, being apart of my wedding wasn’t a priority to her and caused me lots of stress. I’m happy I did it but like I said we haven’t talked in months. I would be cautious with that choice especially since she is your cousin. I agree with Keri to an extent, a MOH generally has more jobs then a BM but that is really up to you and what you expect from her. From what you posted it sounds like the frustration is coming from her living far away. If your wedding date is correct on your WW profile I really would not be changing roles at this point, you are in the home stretch and just need to make it through this wedding. Good luck!

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much I really appreciate you feedback! Weddings are definitely stressful lol

View Quoted Comment Yes they are! But a lot of my stress was gone after I removed this girl. Sadly, we are no longer friends (obviously since we haven’t talked in months). But like I said she is your cousin so she is family. I would just give her a break and get through the next few weeks with the ones who are supporting you!

View Quoted Comment Did she buy a dress? Plus she she is your maid of honor so you know she is coming to the wedding. If you are wondering about if she is bringing someone call her. Maybe after all she could not afford to take a flight in July and September. Maybe she has other stuff going on. It sounds like communication got lost about the shower. I do not think it is ok that the other bridesmaids are complaining to you about her.

I’m so sorry this is happening to you! But you don’t need ANY bridesmaid/MOH stress when planning a wedding!!! I was my sisters MOH when I lived out of state... I attended and planned her bridal shower, and bachelorette party from 1,600 miles away. I took 3 special trips home and flights were $400-600. It doesn’t sound like she’s making YOU the priority.

my advice: if the wedding is within the next couple months, don’t do anything. Give your bridesmaids an extra gift, card, or anything to really show you are thankful for picking up her slack. It’s not worth the drama at this point, if it’s soon.

If you still have a while, talk to her and let her know she needs to kick it up or someone else will gladly take over her MOH duties.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much that was definitely helpful!

I understand what you are saying but they are complying because they are literally doing everything and she hasn’t done one thing

View Quoted Comment I could not afford that. Not could I take off work like that. Not everyone is in the same financial situation. This comment is unkind

Omg thank you!! You totally understand! You get it and that’s been her ... I’m glad someone else understands me and gets that everyone else has been picking up her slack and she doesn’t give 2 s**but I am a positive person and moving on those other girls definitely deserve gift cards or something! Thank!

View Quoted Comment She also never bought her dress and to this day I pray to god that she did

View Quoted Comment How is it unkind when she told me she would be at my bridal shower? And the. Lied??

If you read she was going to come out in July so she is financially stable so what you said to me is cruel I’m not making anyone come to my wedding I just hate when people say there coming and don’t that’s all

I agree with Tanya about if the wedding is close then don’t worry about it. I know with my wedding, my moh hasn’t really helped that much and my sister is annoyed and my future sil is picking up the slack. But I didn’t want to chose between my two sisters and 2 future sil. I just didn’t think that was right. Ask one of the bridesmaids that has been helping a lot and then get something extra special for her to show how much you value her. Don’t let drama/stress mess up being engaged and planning your wedding. Hopefully it only happens once and you enjoy it all!

View Quoted Comment They do t ha e to fly to get to you three flight 400 bucks is over 1000 bucks. Plus money god a gift for you. Taking time off work. Helping pay for other things. Bridesmaid dress. All of that is probably near 2000 bucks,

View Quoted Comment Maybe something happened. Did you ask her what happened why she could not make it?

View Quoted Comment Omg that totally helped!! Thank you Sara!! I totally agree with you