Maid of honor & bridesmaids won't come to my wedding if it's a destination wedding

This is the way I see it. The decision is between you and your FH. If you two decide you want to have the wedding in PHX, that's where it is. You do not need to justify your decision to anyone. Anyone in the wedding party has to be made aware they will have to travel to PHX to be in the wedding. If that is unacceptable for any reason, that is unfortunate, but you cannot allow your wedding to be dictated by other people.

You stated you had one bridesmaid who said she would agreeable to travel to PHX? Perhaps she should be your MOH. I think either place would be beautiful to have a wedding, but from what you've said, PHX would be ideal!

I don't think their perspective counts in this instance - especially once they got together and "voted." That's BS - a drive from Tx to AZ is totally do-able - esp if they car pool.

This is NOT a destination wedding! It's in FH's hometown! Wow, maybe I've worked in business for too long. IMHO, they should have come with solutions - not problems.

LOL@ mrs joseph, your answers make me smile! :-) u rock!

That's true, it isn't even really a destination wedding because my FH lives there!!! UGH, it's so sad because they are supposed to be my closest friends!!! but they are not acting like it...I'll find replacements, you ladies have really made me realize that they shouldn't rule my wedding and make the decisions...If one of them was getting married else where I would have went. Idk I'm the first one getting married out of all of us, so maybe that has something to do with it!

I'm sorry you're going through this. I knew a lot of people wouldn't be able to come to our DW in Punta Cana, but FH and I decided that those really close to us will come (and are!). We're doing an "At Home Reception" when we get back, so that may be something you want to look into. You just have to weigh what's more important to you.

Sorry but your friends are being ridiculous. It's not like you're getting married in Egypt or something. Have your wedding where YOU want, and if they want to come, fine, and if they can't, that's fine too. Our wedding was in FL and many of our friends are in DC yet pretty much ALL of our DC friends that we invited (over 20 people) came to our wedding. I also had friend who flew from Cali and Texas and family members who came from Dominican Republic. If your friends are so selfish that they can't buy a plane ticket for your wedding (you said it's not a money issue) then in my opinion they are not being particularly good friends in the first place.

Maybe try talking to them about WHY...if it's a financial concern, maybe you can think of some ways they can save money (someone suggested carpooling, a bunch of them can share a hotel room, they can find a cheap hotel, or you could made decisions that would keep wedding party expenses down like picking cheaper dresses or whatever, etc.)...

If it's more about it being the past time you are in TX, maybe try planning some sort of "girls weekend" with them in TX as your last hurah!

I don't know...but it might be worth finding out the WHY behind their attitude and trying to see if there is anything you can do to help. I understand this may not work, but at least it will show them you are trying to understand and work with them.

Good luck

Sometimes it takes a positive change in you life to realize who are your true friends. If you are the first one getting married than they are probably jealous.

Some people don't like to see others prosper, MISERY LOVES COMPANY. And if they're single than it might be that they don't have a man that loves them like FH does, SMH!!!