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Celeste
Just Said Yes November 2022

Long Engagements....?

Celeste , on November 11, 2019 at 7:03 PM

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Hello Herd, I'm new to the site as I just got engaged on November 5th, 2019. I am so super eager to get started on planning. My Fiance and I are planning on having a long engagement. We chose our date for November 5th, 2022. I wanted to get other people's opinions on having a long engagement. Is...

Hello Herd,

I'm new to the site as I just got engaged on November 5th, 2019. I am so super eager to get started on planning.

My Fiance and I are planning on having a long engagement. We chose our date for November 5th, 2022. I wanted to get other people's opinions on having a long engagement. Is three years considered long? How early is too early to beginning planning and booking vendors. Would love to hear any words or advice or inspirations on just about anything when it comes to planning a wedding. Thanks in advance!

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  • Leighanne
    Beginner October 2021
    Leighanne ·
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    Totally love the long engagement! We got engaged July 26, 2019 and chose June 11th, 2022 has our goal date! I feel hopeful that this can work with vendors! It’s all about what works for the couple! I think it’s more common to have long engagements. My FH and I have been living together and seriously committed to each other for a long time. For us, we just don’t feel the need to rush to the wedding. Rather we wanted to give ourselves time to plan and enjoy this time!
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  • M
    Just Said Yes October 2020
    Megan ·
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    I’m planning a year out and some of the venues are already booked for the weekend so I wanted. Just saying… I say go for it as long as the venue will except reservations that early.
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  • J
    Savvy June 2021
    Jacklyn ·
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    To me it seems a bit too long but it's your choice. I know I got engaged in early October and will be getting married in June 2021 which is 20 months. I know I'm very excited and know I have time to plan but can't help myself. I can't imagine having 3 years.

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  • Courtney
    Just Said Yes January 2021
    Courtney ·
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    My wedding is January 2021, I just got engaged this past September. Do what’s best for you all. I know a lot of people will ask why is it so far out, just ignore them and continue to celebrate your engagement.


    I would say start looking and planning around June or July of next year.
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  • Alexis
    Savvy March 2021
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    That is pretty long. We got engaged August 2019, and getting married March 6th, 2021. My engagement seems long for me, but we wanted a certain venue. We couldn't afford to have it next year since we just bought a house. But, hey, do what is best for you both! (:

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  • Chelsea
    Expert July 2021
    Chelsea ·
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    Congrats!

    We got engaged June 8th 2019 and we are getting married July 10th 2021. Its been a process already but its nice to slowly take your time and do research on everything. I enjoyed my engagement till September and started looking at halls. I had 3 already booked for my date. So book you venue as soon as you hit your 2 years. We finally booked in October and now onto catering company but its nice to take one month at a time to plan. However, I get annoyed with family saying oh its in 2 years you have time. Okay well im not pushing it back to plan everything at the last second so one thing at a time.

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  • S
    Expert October 2020
    Shaina ·
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    FH proposed to me 7/03/2018 and our date is 10/10/2020. Long engagements can feel like they are dragging but you can use this time to really research what you want for your big day, enjoy your engagement, and clean up any debt or budgets. When you finally hit 365 it will be worth it

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  • Crystal
    Devoted August 2021
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    We were engaged on 8/21/19 and our wedding date is 8/13/21. I have a key family member getting married next july 2020 so I don't want to take away from their day, so I scheduled it a ways out. Many factors come into play. My eldest daughter visits her dad all summer so I needed an august date to work with when she will be home and i won't take time from her dad. We also don't want to be stressed or go wedding broke early on. We still have a life and children so we aren't about blowing all our money so fast when we can do it over time and still live. Smiley smile

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  • Kazandra
    Just Said Yes December 2021
    Kazandra ·
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    I just got engaged on November 16, 2019! We're also planning a long engagement, set for January 2022. I think long engagements have less stress and more time to plan everything to make the big day special!

    Congratulations on your engagement!

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  • Mrscase2022
    Devoted March 2022
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    I'm one of those kind people who likes to be a head of the game so I started right away even though I got engaged in February 2018. I just started the initial looking at different styles of dresses and looking at ideas for venues.

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  • Jmz
    Expert July 2022
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    CONGRATS! Our engagement will be 2 years and 6 days by the end because we live abroad but are having the US wedding near my family in the States. Straight after getting engaged I got to researching venues and along with that oftentimes comes specific caterers. Our venue accepted 5 different ones, but sometimes it was only 1 or 2 so you'd only know whether or not you can afford the venue if you contact the caterer as well! I think you could get started on that slowly within the next half year if you want to guarantee your #1 choice of date. We signed in September/October so that was about 2/3 months into the engagement.

    Assuming you live in the area you'll be getting married in, you probably don't want to do much more than that for a while. Otherwise, your personal choice could change in 3 years! In that same vein, don't fall into the trap of buying a bunch of items "because they're on saaale" too far out because you might end up deciding you're not into them anymore or they don't even make sense in the wedding by the time you get there. It's easier for me because I physically can't bring all that stuff back to the US anyway. Smiley tongue

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  • Myka
    Just Said Yes August 2020
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    By the time we get married we will have been engaged for four years. So. Freaking. Long. I have hated it. We finally have the ability to get married. F.I.N.A.L.L.Y
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  • Jennifer
    VIP October 2021
    Jennifer ·
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    I am going to say this: 2 years seems long but it flies with the planning. That is the length my fiancé and I have.


    We have been together 8yrs, almost 9 by the time we marry. And I’ve been planning this wedding since year one!! Lol
    But, seriously, I am panicking because of the feeling like I am forgetting things. I know I’m not, my list of completion of booked & deposited vendors is everyone- but photographer, and I hope to rectify that ASAP! He knows about the date and that I want him, so I think I’m ok.
    I feel with life in general it can get in the way of planning, lol... I have a house I am trying to declutter if my crap, and construction nightmare. I’ve gone back to school online and my semester ends March 17- Yup, St Patties Day! My health, My parents health.... I cannot imagine trying to do this in a year or less. ESPECIALLY given 150-250 guests, who expect lavish and elegant- whimsical and fun!!!
    Do not let people tell you it’s too long. Do what is right for YOU as a couple. Shorten it if you need or want to, but don’t be bullied into it!
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  • Eyonna
    Devoted May 2021
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    Congratulations Celeste! Nothing wrong at all with a long engagement. I'm a firm believer in you have to do what you have to do for yourselves. Stressing trying to plan is also out of the question. I want to have fun with it.You can't predict life and sometimes things come up that are out of our control; that's life. I got engaged in May of this year and am getting married in May of 2021. FH and I are paying for our wedding and we want to have the wedding we envisioned (well I envisioned Smiley smile and if that means adding on additional time to be engaged, so be it. We're fine with our timeline and if you and your FH are fine with that timeline, that's awesome! Don't let anyone put a time stamp on what you have to do for yourselves. Its your day and your lives. We have our venue booked (did that in August) and so far, I would like to buy everything but am being realistic as I know my mind could change, so I started my own vision board with cut outs of things that I want and that has satisfied me. We are going to look at photographers next month and takings tasks as they come. WW has a great checklist you should check out; its super helpful. Good luck in the planning and have fun!

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  • BRIYELL
    Savvy September 2020
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    I don't think it's too long at all. We have been together since 3/2014, we were engaged 5/2017 and we are getting married 9/2020! I was a single mother of 2 children and court things came up every time we would start planning. We decided to use our extra money to go to the kids until everything was settled. I now have full custody so we can start planning, we could have done something small but be both never have been married before. So excited to be in the planning stage finally! Smiley ring

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  • April
    Dedicated September 2021
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    We got engaged on August 4, 2018 and we're getting married August 8th, 2020. We choose our venue about a month after our engagement. The venue said they didn't start booking that far our, but they told me the date they started, so we got first dibs. I recommended starting with the venue, because it's so far out you'll get your date, and then start with the rest of your vendors. Ours feels like a long engagement too, but I'm so thankful for it because its sooooo expensive. I'm now starting to think of all of the weird things like a dog sitter that costs money too! Save save save and buy things as go so it doesn't feel so bad in the end!!

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  • Sara
    Dedicated September 2021
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    We are getting married in March 2021. We moved to another state away from our families last year, so I automatically knew I'd want a longish engagement to give me time to plan from afar. We are also getting married back in our home state, so most planning is through Skype which is kinda crazy!


    I told my mother and sister I would not start planning until January back in September. That DID NOT last lol I have spent a few weekends planning and already have our guest list. I have also lined up 3 of our vendors and will be having my parents view our top choice venue in two weeks. I'm happy I didn't wait and most of my vendors have mentioned how on top of things I am. It's really never too early to plan your big day!

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  • Azzie
    Savvy May 2022
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    I got engaged 2015 on my birthday, and we are finally getting married July 2020. We've been together since in high school over 10+ years. We weren't really financially ready just yet then and we were expecting our daughter at the time, we didn't feel the need to rush.


    Now we've been engaged 4yrs and change, and we are still in love and the same people. We already felt like we were married, now its officially time to seal the deal. Plus, I'm getting an upgrade ring since the last engagement. Hey a girl deserves it! ahahaha.


    Anyways, good luck and take your time.

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  • FutureMrs.C
    Dedicated August 2020
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    Just shy of two years for my engagement as well! (21 months). Personally, it's been great because I feel like I have enough time to plan and save up Smiley smile If you feel you'd benefit from a long engagement, go for it. Marriage is forever, so might as well soak up being engaged!

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  • SierraToBeMull
    Dedicated May 2021
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    My FH purposed Dec 2017 and we are getting married May 2020! we have been together for 6 years now. We are paying for everything on our own so its helped to have time to save up money and really think about what we want for our dream day. We started to book vendors little over a year before hand but I was also doing lots or research to see who/where was best. Its been lots of fun to enjoy our engagement and plan over time to not get stressed out lol Smiley star

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