Long Engagements....?

I have been engaged for almost a year ( since December 2018) and we aren't looking at actually getting married until 2021 sometime maybe 2022 if we can't get the venue we love.

You should do whatever works for you and your FH!

I could not wait that long! We are 6 months into a 1 year engagement and I am so so so ready for the wedding! If I could have had a shorter engagement, I would have, but we are getting married in Omaha and a lot of people are flying. I didn't want to have to worry about people getting snowed out of our wedding.

Congratulations!

Long engagements can be wonderful! We will have been engaged for two and a half years by the time we get married next year. Having a 2+ year engagement gives you time to save up to have the wedding of your dreams and lets you plan more leisurely. You'll be able to do a lot of research on vendors and have first pick of all of the great ones in your area. And a lot of vendors may not have 2022 pricing available yet so you can lock in a cheaper rate! As far as booking goes - I think you can book your venue two years before the wedding (1.5 years is fine too), and then start booking other vendors 1.5 years in advance.

Long engagements are worth it!! You have more time to plan, more time to pay, and more tune to enjoy it. Do what is best for you!

I don't think you can put a label on time. FH proposed Dec. of 2017 and we are getting married in April 2020. I think whatever works for you. Life happens all to fast now a days and we didn't really realize it's been that long until our family vacation that happened in March. Most venues allow booking almost 2 years out so I think you'll be fine

Mine is two years and some change, so I don't think that's too long! We were the first to book for 2020 at my venue back in 2018, so you could start scouting venues now if you wanted! Start getting an idea of what decor you would like, and stock up at end of season sales!

Congratulations! It's whatever works for you! FH and I are both 30 (feeling old) and didn't want to wait too long. We are also both teachers so we knew a summer wedding was ideal for us so we decided on a 10 month engagement. And let me tell you, available dates were hard to come by! So longer may be more ideal to get everything you want. We know we want to start a family and since we aren't super young any more we wanted to get the ball rolling quickly.

Our engagement will be just shy of two and a half years. There's nothing wrong with it and it gives you a lot more time to save! I booked our venue and photographer about two years out, but waited until about a year and half to start really looking into anything else.

3 years is perfectly fine! We have been engaged for a month shy of 3 years (12/13/16) and are getting married 4/25/20. At times it has felt like it was never going to get here, but at 5 months out I am a little panicked LOL. We booked our venue about 13 months in advance, and I bought my first dress 14 months early (ended up not loving it), and bought my second dress 7 months in advance. I think the long engagement was super helpful. It gave us plenty of time to change our minds and firmly set the image we want our wedding to take shape around.

My FH specifically stated no more than a year but we had only been together officially 3 months before engagement so for our families, we wanted to give a little extra time (though it seems quite unnecessary from how they've taken to us now). We were engaged in the early part of April this year and will marry 2 weeks short of a year later.

That said, I don't think anyone has a right to say your engagement is too long. Like most of this, it is best to do what works best for you and your intended. I would start figuring out a decorating scheme, colors and the like so you can get a sense of if you'll want things like candles or items that you would want to ask about when you do venue tours. I didn't do this first and really wish I had since there are some things I really wanted and cannot have. Make a list of your must haves for a venue and carry on from there. if you have those things done in advance, it will be much easier to book your venue and other big vendors which should probably happen about a year to a year and a half out. Also knowing this far in advance will give you a chance to tour your venue during the same time of year to make sure you have a clearer idea of what the landscape will look like (we toured in the summer but the trees will be bare in feb for our wedding).

Hi! Our engagement will be 2 years long, which everyone has told me is "sooooo long". We were able to book all of our vendors 2 years in advance. We're paying for the wedding ourselves and this was our best budgeting option. Just a couple months until we're officially one year out!

I don't think it matters how long you're engaged. I personally think people rush into marriage. When I'm married in May, it will have been 3.5 years since he proposed & 6 years since we started dating. It's a personal choice. There's no such thing as too long or too short of an engagement.

I got engaged Dec. 2017 and we are getting married Oct, 2020 so also a 3 year engagement. The reason for us is we needed to be able to save for the wedding. While we are having some help we will be paying for most of it ourselves so that's the reason for our long engagement. We wanted to try and push it to this year but unfortunately it would have been too much of a rush. The great thing about long engagements is you have time to really look into different vendors, create wedding boards, and just get a better idea of how you envision your day. I booked our venue last year and then didn't start booking other vendors until summer this year but still have a few other things left. Good luck and enjoy your engagement!

We got engaged in March of 2019 and are getting married in November of 2020 and we ran into things getting booked super early so I would say it’s never too early to start planning. However, some venues will only book so far in advanced, I’m super indecisive so I need every ounce of a year and a half of planning! Also enjoy this time as fiancés, more than likely you are only going to have a fiancé once! 😜

We've been engaged since July 2016 (due to school and moving to a new city) and will be getting married July 2020. We only just started planning in September so lots to do. The quicker you start, the better research you can do to get the best prices etc.

Agree with PP's. Start a pinterest board, research your vendors, start saving money. I wouldn't do anything physical (booking vendors/buying items/Selecting Bridal Party) until you are 1.5ish years from the date. At this time however you can bask in the fiance' light and get the cute shirts, coffee mugs, etc.

It’s long, but it should also give you an advantage when it comes to booking vendors! Not that we don’t love the venue we chose, but our first choice was booked 2 years out!! 😱😱


Venues and photographers book up fast!

Congratulations!!! We are planning for a wedding in November of 2020 or January 2021.. about a year!! I’m a bit pushy... so whatever is best for you all as a couple.❤️

I got engaged in December 2018, and not getting married until probably later 2021. So we have a long engagement too! It's great if you are trying to slowly save money like us. But as others said don't be scared to reach out to venders or start Pinterest boards to get ideas so when you get a bit closer it can just be putting ideas into motion without the extra research.

We started dating Feb 2017, engaged Feb 2019 and our wedding is June 2020. Fortunately for us we were able to lock down our venues and a few other vendors right away so a year and four months is turning out perfect for our engagement. Everyone varies, do what’s comfortable and best for you and your fiancé! Good luck and have fun planning!!