Let's start a List of Expectations from your Bridal Party...

In my opnion, Bridesmaids are supposed to be there for you throughout the process of the wedding, maybe you dont want them making every little decision, which I prefered to plan my own wedding. But the way I see it, I'm paying for everything and all they do is stand there and look pretty. These bridesmaids you choose are supposed to be friends who you care about and they care about you and want to help you with anything to make things a little less stressful. Why have them as a bridesmaid and not as a guest if theyre just going to show up that day and not be involved in anything?

That's true. I always end up shopping on my own for decorations, vendors and things,like that. My FH is unable to help since he just opened up a business. I was just wondering if my expectations were too high. I thought bridrsmaids go shopping, lend support not just over the phone but we live in the same city. Idk. We go bridesmaid shopping next month so I will discuss it with them then.

I just need my girls to show up.... my DOC, friend, she'll be the one i'll need to reign in, she is the one who will want to "Contribute" her own idea of things..

Buy your dress, buy your shoes, be there for the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner, get ready with me the day of, and have fun at the wedding! My MOH has three extra duties - hold my bouquet, pick up my train, and help me make bouquets and centerpieces with all the bulk flowers I am buying. She's my little sister, so she doesn't mind

Hmm... Help me pick out my dress (check) try on bm dresses (today) be there for rehearsal/dinner as well. help with the showers/party. get ready together day of, drink mimosas, sing dance while we get ready (kills the nerves) go to the location make sure everything looks great! MOH duties is also to take care of the rsvp count and what meals, hold bouquet, make sure things are happening in a timely matter, to dance the night away, also all girls will help clean up a bit after(just the gift table and card box, and the flowers and cake) thats it lol... their great so they help out every party i've ever had... )

1. Show up

2. Smile for the photographs

3. Please help me pee

4. Eat drink, and be merry

1) Be nice to each other!

2) Show up in your dress and have fun

3) Remind me that I'm not going crazy, just getting married

4) Def help me pee...good one!

1. Get along, or even if you don't fake it so I don't have to know about it

2. Buy your dress

3. Get to Maryland (all of them are OOT)

4. Even if I'm crazy, participate in the crazy, I'm only doing this once

5. Know that you were picked for a reason, because I love you.

@ Shileta I like your number 4.

@ Kimber your number 3 is a good one.

Our list was pretty much the same as Jen H.'s, except that since one of ours was male, his was, "Find a suit that you like." In both cases, the finding was in their own closets.

There is no way that I'd expect that, "These bridesmaids you choose are supposed to be friends who you care about and they care about you and want to help you with anything to make things a little less stressful." I assume that all of my friends would like my life to be less stressful. But what they volunteer to help with is up to them. A lot of friends helped with things at my wedding. But they did so when they volunteered, and they did what they volunteered to do. They didn't show up at my convenience, and help with with "anything."

1. Buy whatever dress/skirt/top/shoe ensemble you want in the right color.

2. Keep being the exact same friend you've always been.

3. Show up on Friday at 5:30 for the rehearsal.

4. Show up on wedding day at 12:30 and have fun.