Let's start a List of Expectations from your Bridal Party...

Don't bitch at everything. If you have a genuine concern please let me know- but i will not stand for whining and bitching over every decision.

You are part of a bridal party. That means that yes, you will be required to wear a dress, and yes, that dress will be the color of my choosing. I completely understand not wanting to wear a dress that is very unflattering- but i am not changing the wedding colors and dress code for you. Stop bitching about it.

1. Find a dress you like

2. Come to my wedding

3. Have fun!

Help me pee, be sure I eat, and have a drink... have a great time!!

1. Buy the dress

2. Show up on time

@Shellie, I haven't come across that yet. I hope it gets better...@Jenn, I only wish it was that easy

Haha CKJL5410..help me pee..that is too funny!...I am sure those of us with big gowns will need assistance!.i know I will especially after a few cocktails

Maybe I have a warped idea of what bridesmaids and maid of honors or matron of honors are supposed to do, but I don't expect anything from them but to enjoy themselves at the party. I purchased all of their dresses, their jewelry, and still need to purchase their final gift (clutch?). I bounce ideas off of them and they have been supportive. They can do whatever they want as far as shoes (they are wearing long gowns so no one will really see their shoes), they can do their own make-up, hair, etc.

I don't really expect them to "work" my wedding. If they want to help, cool. If not, cool. They are there because they are close to me and I want them to enjoy a remarkable day. =)

Keep your word!! If you offer to help me with things, then please show up when you say you will.. otherwise dont offer! Im trying super hard not to be a bridezilla, but when people dont keep their word or even call to let me know that your cancelling, its frusterating. Its like you belive your time is worth more then mine.

@Leena- how did you get them all to decide on a dress?

Life would be so much easier if i could afford everyone's dresses. Then i could just pick something instead of worrying about their budgets.

The long and short of it: They had to pick the same color dress (from 3 I had selected) and they could pick their own style, even if it was different. I don't need/expect a lot of fuss. I know they will take care of any other "duties" without me staying on them. There are only two BM.

My mantra has been "little stress, no drama" and in my case I've learned that means keeping things between a few people instead of a lot.

My MOH and BMs all agreed they wanted to match each other so...

*Purchase your dress on or before the deadline.

*Purchase your shoes on time.

*Pay for hair.

*Show up on time to events.

*Help throw the shower (they all wanted to chip in).

*Have fun at all wedding events.

Make up and nails is optional for them.

Do what I say. This isn't about you, it's about me. It's MY day. Suck it up.

SHOW UP ON TIME

Dont bitch cause you dont like the flowers I choose

dont say you'll help with something then half ass it

help with the shower chip in money if needed

have fun and help me pee when I have to go

1. show up for me. attend showers and be at the wedding!

2. Don't complain to me about everything. But in my case I have not expected ANYTHING of them. I paid for their dress, They are doing their hair and makeup however they want. All they had to really pay for is their shoes. But if they already own cute shoes, then that's fine too. I got their jewelry as their 'Gift".

3. Have a good time at the wedding!

I am really easy going. Mostly just hate when people complain alot, and question every choice i make. Which they haven't been so bad about. I am pretty lucky.

1. Make a reasonable attempt to join me at wedding stuff such as dress shopping (including for the BM dresses), Bachelorette party, bridal showers, etc. Reasonable attempt, such as you are already in the city and don't have prior plans, not I'm going to go all Bridezilla on you because you didn't drive 4 hours after 3 days notice.

2. Order your dress by the deadline, and yes I expect them to even pay for it =) Seems like a problem other brides are having, but I just used this as a gauge of who would last as a BM. I only lost 1!

3. Buy the color accessories/shoes I want you to wear.

4. Make appropriate travel arrangements for yourself. All my BMs will be OOT.

5. Have fun!

What I don't expect is for any of them to help with actual planning or to spend ridiculous amounts of money. Everyone should know that when she agrees to be a BM she is agreeing to buy a dress she will never wear again. And I refuse to torture my friends with DIY projects.

1. Pick out a red dress that you like

2. Hold my cell phone the morning of the wedding.

3. Have a toast with me at my wedding...

4. Have fun!

@Shellie - they didn't have a choice in the matter =) And, I have a Dillard's Clearance Store about 15 minutes away from me in Iowa. Purchased $90.00 dresses for $4-$7 dollars each. So I spent around $48.00 for their dresses. I posted a picture of them below. My sister's are more conservative and are having my mother alter the straps and the back of the dresses to show less skin for my nieces (3 nieces will also be bridesmaids). Which I don't mind, 3 of the dresses will have a slightly different look than the other 5 dresses. No sweat off my back =) Besides, why argue over a petty thing like a dress? Everyone should be happy on a happy occasion!

I need some help with diys but other than that I just want them to show up. They picked their own black dresses (2 are wearing past bm dresses) and im getting them their shoes as one of their gifts.

I dont expect anything except that they show up with their dress and shoes

Be supportive of my decisions...although you may not like what color shoes I'm wearing, or that I am wanting to do breakfast the morning of, this is my wedding not yours, and you need to remember that

Also, make sure I eat and help me to not stress over the small stuff (it's just small stuff anyways)