Less than 3 months to go and a groomsman dropped out...Uneven numbers ok?

Its kind of sad if the only reason that he dropped out is because you insisted that he skip work (I'm sure was not an option for him) or drop out. I set up everything with the rental place and gave the guys our group number, they have until August 20, to get fitted or pay additional rush order fee - they don't all have to go at the same time. He does live out of state, so I don't know exactly how much you were expecting from him, other than to get his tux, and show up at rehearsal (if that is possible-my daughter's MOH also from out of state was not able to get here until the day before the wedding due to her school schedule) and the ceremony. What has he done to be considered so flakey and or unrelliable? He's your FH's best friend, FH should have gotten the address info and you should have been Bridzilla on your FH to get that information for you. Is he even going to attend your wedding after all this?

As to your original question, you're 3 months out so if FH asks someone else to step in I don't think its an insult to the new person, just don't expect that person to drop everything to go to the fitting on the 28th.

I think it would be more of an insult to the original groomsman that he was so easily replaced.

Sorry to hear that happened Amber. We have uneven numbers as well which I didn't realize at first (poor communication on our part-I found out after asking 3 girls that FH wants to include his emcee in all the groomsmen stuff, making our numbers uneven)

For myself I felt uncomfortable asking another person after the fact...but maybe there is someone he would really like to ask that he knows would be ok about it? (I know for myself I have come even closer with people now who I didn't think to ask back then and they would not be offended if I asked now...all depends on your FH's friendship with that person and how they may take it...)

At first I was worried as well but I think it will be totally fine. I did a whole whack of google searching and found a bunch of weddings where the numbers were uneven and it looked totally fine. Maybe you could have 1 guy walk in with 2 girls into the reception (and ceremony if they are walking down together)

Lol I just showed FH those pics cuz that's exactly how ours are going to look. His best man backed out a month ago so now he'll have two "best men." He will have 7 groomsmen while I have 3 bridesmaids including my MOH. At first i was worried but now I don't care. You'll be fine

I don't think it's an insult, some of my bm dropped out and I replaced them, and I exPlained the situation to the new girls I asked and I told them I don't want you to feel second best I just couldn't have everyone I wanted without having a huge bridal party but some changes have been made so would you like to be one, they all understood

I don't think numbers count... it's the people who stand by you that matter <3

You gave an ultimatum and now the bridal party is uneven....is this going to change the legality of your marriage??? I think not. Have them all walk in alone. Trust me, no guest is going to care that the BP is not even. You photographer should be skilled enough to make the pictures beautiful regardless of numbers and look at the bright side, one less mouth to feed and gift to buy (if you are giving BP gifts)

Meta,

For the record, my MOH lives out of the country and has been more involved than this person. She won't be here until 4 days before the wedding and it's been no issue. In addition, another of my BMs lives out of state and the Best Man lives out of state as well. No one else has had problems returning phone calls or emails.

And it wasn't an ultimatum like "if you go to work you can't come to the wedding". FH planned this 2 months ago, & everyone agreed to the date. This guy has been saying all along that he "wouldn't miss it for the world", in fact, when I tracked down his address the last week of June, I reminded him of the fitting and he promised he would be there.

The "out" that FH gave him was more like "You know I would love for you to be involved, but if you can't, no hard feelings. I'd just rather you let me know now than later. But if you're still up for it, please call xxx place with your measurements by 7/28."

And the guy took the out.

Shawna,

What you said, "I know for myself I have come even closer with people now who I didn't think to ask back then and they would not be offended if I asked now...all depends on your FH's friendship with that person and how they may take it.." is pretty much EXACTLY what FH said about one person in particular that he has in mind to ask. Funny how things change...!

As a photographer, I would have to say in today's weddings go for different. Be bold and have fun with the number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. Have fun with your colors and flowers. You will look back later and be happy that you did, and don't forget the pictures. Lots and lots of pictures..

As a photographer, I would have to say in today's weddings go for different. Be bold and have fun with the number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. Have fun with your colors and flowers. You will look back later and be happy that you did, and don't forget the pictures. Lots and lots of pictures..

Definitely! We have 5 BM and 4 GM. The only time it will make a difference is during the recessional. We are having the last GM walk out with a BM on each arm

Definitely! We have 5 BM and 4 GM. The only time it will make a difference is during the recessional. We are having the last GM walk out with a BM on each arm

I don't think it matters.

My FH had to back out of two weddings now because of work. He has felt about 2 inches tall at both of them. Both times work told him it would be fine, then pretty much told him it was time off or his job. I had to sit down and tell him that as much as the weddings were important, jobs are hard to find, and after being unemployed for several months he needs to focus on keeping the job more then the wedding. (I feel like I should duck, but it wasn't personal against the weddings - until after 1 bride went bridezilla on him about it).

I personally don't think the #'s should be important, it should be about the bond that you have together. If he has 3 people that he wants to stand up with him and you have 17 then that should be how many stand up....

Sorry I sounded so harsh in the beginning, but your original post read a bit different, you really did come off sounding like you expected him to skip work or drop out. Now I see that it was more of him looking for a way out, which does happen people don"t always know how to come out and say, "I'm flattered but can't afford to commit." My daughter actually had a bridesmaid who waited until nearly the last day to order her dress to say that she couldn't afford it, I actually bought it for her because my daughter really wanted her to be there.