LDS bridesmaid

Honestly, since my best friend is Mormon, I would suggest let her wear a shawl or a bolero. Exposing the skin as much as a strapless dress does really doesn't go over well in the Mormon community. Dressing in immodest fashion is considered very inappropriate.

@Erin, I agree, but even then, there is the trouble of how OP is going to make sure that none of the guests take pictures of this BM and post those to FB. Even if she is just in the background, it can get around. Technology is great, but not always helpful.

Gryffinbride- I agree which is why i and said at first that she should just let her friend wear it.

Putting your friend on a position to be shunned by friends and family in the church is the last thing you want to do to her.

Oh, I must have missed that comment Erin! My mistake!

Yes, you should allow her to cover herself. She's not a photo prop, and in her religion being that uncovered is considered very inappropriate. You're basically wanting her to look really bad and immoral in front of her entire church because you want your bridesmaids to be "uniform." That's just wrong.

I'd let her wear a shawl

Gryffinbride- I am clearly offended and heartbroken.

Erin- clearly, lol!

Definitely let her wear a shawl. That religion is very strict and you don't want her to feel uncomfortable.

Definitely let her wear a shawl. That religion is very strict and you don't want her to feel uncomfortable.

Does it matter if it's now because she's nervous about her church friends? Religion is a big part of her life. If you care about her, accommodate. Bridesmaids aren't props to look uniform for your pictures. They're people.

Let her wear a shawl and have her pay for it. Everyone will still look uniform. Don't make it into a bigger deal than it needs to be.

You said you don't feel friends should judge other friends, so why is this even a question? You put your friends worry and religious beliefs below your desire for uniformity in your bridal party.

I completely understand frustration in her agreeing and then changing her mind and, she may have originally been okay with going against beliefs but, whatever the reason is now it does come down to religious beliefs. Are "uniformed" pictures really that important? I'd not make it a big deal and just let her wear a shawl, and of course she'll pay for it.

I would respect her concerns and let her wear the shawl.

Let her wear the shawl. She's your friend try to understand her point of view. If she's more comfortable with it be a good friend and let her wear it. I would bet not of your guests will care if they even notice. She can buy the shawl she wants to wear.

Well she said that she won't wear a shawl, she'll only wear it when she takes pic for her personal self for FB so people dont say anything, she was honest and said that she doesnt care to wear a shawl or not, she just wants to wear one so she can post pics on FB about it. Which I'm completely okay about it but it just confuses me because I'm okay with her wearing it, not a huge deal but she said she won't wear it until she wants to post pics on FB then she will put it on.

You've changed your story. You're clearly not ok with the shawl, likely because you don't want your photos to deviate from what you planned. It became quite clear when you asked if you need to pay for the shawl, now that she's mentioned the issue.

When you have bridesmaids, you're not getting props. You're getting real people, your friends, who may have feelings or beliefs that are not the same as your own. You need to accept the fact that either she is not comfortable with the dress because of her religion, or that while she might be ok with the dress, she is uncomfortable being advertised wearing it on social media because of more conservative members in her church.

Sometime I wonder what people would do if they knew their friends or family could see what they write on these boards.

Uniformity is not as important as your friends convictions and religious beliefs.

Let her wear some kind of coverup, because i know with my bridesmaids i want them to be comfortable, so if wearing something to cover themselves, then i would let them wear it. Or maybe let her alter it to where she has sleeves.

Oh social media. If she is truly comfortable with the dress but worried about her friends seeing the pictures then do not tag her and as a courtesy set your privacy settings to "friends only" for that album. If she's all of a sudden uncomfortable then let her wear a shawl, or I've seen really cute little lace jackets (borello). Maybe get one for everyone so they are all the same if you're concerned about the pictures. If you're adding straps maybe you can have those type of "convertible straps" added, its more like a piece of fabric that allows you to tie it in different ways? Sounds like you're going to have to go to a seamstress anyways, this way all the DRESSES are the same but the girls can be a little unique and then she wouldn't totally stand out. Check out the link below, maybe a seamstress could do this to the dress you picked out! And she could cover her shoulders this way

https://www.jennyyoo.com/convertible_straps