Lame excuse for not attending the wedding....

An exam to be a esthetician? i took the test yesterday and it was so nerve wracking and hard! ease up. she should have got back to you sooner and as lame as the excuse may be wish her luck and send her on her way !

If it makes you feel better- my sister isn't coming to my ceremony because she wants to visit her best friend in our hometown of Houston, and we're getting married in Tulsa. She lives in California.

And just to rub salt into the wound- I flew from Germany to Utah for her wedding, then the next weekend- California, then the next weekend- Texas. I took 22 of my 30 days of leave for the year and gave up Christmas with my kids that year so I could go to her wedding... But I'm not bitter, no, not at all...

I'm sorry she came up with that lame excuse. DS' cousin looked right at me at his nephews b-day party and goes yeah I won't be at your wedding we have a Bills game that day! I was like are you serious?! Send the damn RSVP back with a no don't freaking sit there and insult me!

Yeah cut her loose. @Lily is right on better not to have her there at all. I am sure it will be tough, but sounds like if you are chasing her down it is not really worth your time.

DS aunt, uncle and cousins didn't come because his cousins age 17 and 12 wanted to go to the high school homecoming game....

I had a friend not attend my wedding and she gave me a really lame a*s excuse too, I was really hurt, and I told her. Finally she fessed up and told me that she didnt come because her funds were really low and she didnt have money to buy a decent outfit to wear to my wedding and also no money to buy us a gift. I felt bad still but I understood.

Point being, you can't use who comes to your wedding and doesnt as a a barometer for how they really feel about you.

@Abigail she cuts off all contact we don't have any way to get a hold of her other than the email --- I called a few friends already and none of us have any other number from her

@mrsemmerick I agree it would be alot easier if they send back the RSVP with not attending

One of my friends who RSVPed yes and was asking about the wedding shortly before it sent me a facebook message the day of the wedding. It was later in the day not the morning of when I checked my messages. But when I checked my messages that night after the wedding she had sent me a message that due to finances and problems with their car she would not be attending. So I don't know if it's because she felt bad she couldn't afford a gift kind of thing but that is still pretty lame. And really? She couldn't get a ride from someone??? Also other lameness with no excuse at all... one of DH's friends well I guess not really a friend, never responded to the RSVP and did not respond to messages we left him. This did not surprise us. Don't know why DH wanted to invite him. His old roomate RSVPed yes and then didn't even bother showing, he lives in our city! So yeah... lame...

This is the most important day in the world...to you and your FH.

I am not trying to be mean, but these people that did not come to your wedding as DannieKay pointed out may have had money problems and have been embarrassed about their situation. If everyone could walk in your shoes they would know how important it is to you to get those RSVP's back in a timely fashion,and for them to be at your wedding, but if you are dealing with your own drama it is hard to put an importance on RSVPing. The people that were at your wedding were at a place in their lives where they could be there for you. Hopefully you can appreciate them and be there for others in the future.

Not having a phone number or moving and only having a FB may tell you that she is not in a good place. Not enough money for a phone?

@tram, sorry i missed a few posts, I agree then, cutting all contact is pretty shady of her :-(

Lame excuses from parents and family is inexcusable but may be a blessing in disguise.

Make the most of your day and as one bride posted. don't sweat the small stuff.

Just enjoy your day and your DH on your day all else is just window dressing the important part is you are marring the love of your life to start the rest of your life.

SMH...

Yea agree with the other sounds like she was not a friend from the begining. Just forgive her and enjoy your day.

@tram: if she cuts off contact that much and that way, you should really evaluate if there needs to be contact again. Everyone has problems, but adults communicate instead of randomly vanishing.

Honestly I expect some of the yes's to become no's once people start buying plane tickets. The show will go on, even if a few people aren't there.

Thank you all for your input.

Yeah it kinda suck when people who you thought were close friends and or family do not show up on the one day to celebrate with you. But I have others people who will be there and we will have fun

Happy Halloween!!

Thats as lame as my father telling me he cant come to the wedding because he cant stand for too long. Which then he told his sister he didnt feel like coming.

It truly does suck, but seriously, I would move on and realize i have friends who do care who will be there. her not being there won't affect your happiness one iota . Just forgive, move on and enjoy the most important day of your life..with people how love and care about you Having a DW was ideal for me, only the people who truly cared came (except my sister who was 6 months pregnant and didn't want to travel). It was great to look at the guests and know every single one of them truly were there for us.

Now for the family members not coming, just effin BS.

I forgot to mention, I completely understood my sister, she had tried to get pregnant for 7 years and I would've stayed close to home too. No way I wou;d fly 14hours to Mexican carrying precious cargo