Lame excuse for not attending the wedding....

Sorry, that is NO friend!

My sister is taking her family salmon fishing. She just got the invite to go salmon fishing. We have been planning the wedding for 6 months.

LMAO @ Congratualion.

She needs to be studying basic grammar!

*Basic spelling. Aww hell...study grammar too!

Yeah I just couldn't believe that she would do that though. 20 yrs of friendship goes down the drain

Weddings let you know who your true friends are that is for sure.

Lol teedub that may have been me lol I'm on an iPhone soooo haha no excuse but yeah

@ TeeDub4Evr...they have spell check now too..lol sad when you can't even get that right...on another point I agree with Brian. Seems like your friendship was one-sided and she isn't a friend anyhow.

Thanks Brian. She was raised in a "dysfunctional" family so ive always given her the benefit of the doubt and never even given a second thought in helping her.

I think its better that people like that don't show up on your wedding day, then for them to do something the day of to upset you. Look at it as a blessing in disguise. I had two of my closest friends (we've been friends since 3-4 grade) who didn't show up for the ceremony AT ALL because they wanted to sleep in and then left the reception after 1.5-2 hours. I would have rather they not come at all, then to come and act like that.

Yea that is not a true friend. I was amazed that my four friends from Nor cal are willing to come to Seattle for my wedding. That is a true friend.

Oh I would if I could pin down where she is. The last time we talked she said she moved in w her new bf. I tried calling her when I needed to get all my RSVP in place her number was disc. She deleted her fb acct. So email was my last resort.

Don't blame a dysfunctional family that is no excuse. People turn out how they want to turn out. I don't know my father and have lived with every member of my family because my mom can't stay off drugs.

@sekasorto I'm sorry about the sister family not attending apparently salmon fishing season is also once in a lifetime event like a wedding---your sister's wedding.

If that was my sis my mom would have chewed her out and not let her hear the end of it

I don't know it's hard for me to ignore when someone need help...I always feel like the one time I say no maybe the time that they really needed the help.

We all have other things to do, and most of the time we see through excuses; yeah it's too expensive, can't get off work, its too far away, I'm very busy, can't find a babysitter; most of us know our friends well enough to see through the difference between a real situation and an excuse.

Part (2) and true friends deserve better than an excuse, if that's the best your friend can offer up, truly she doesn't deserve your friendship.

She sounds selfish, like someone who is used to whining about her life, comparing, and/or feeling sorry for herself.

So I feel like you could give it one last try (if you like and if you think she can behave well at your wedding i.e. smiling and wishing you well).

If you do meet up with her or leave her a vm, let her know exactly why you are disappointed, what you were hoping from her, and also definitely how much she has meant to you over these last years....and ask what's going on with her...let her know how you are feeling though!!!

Oh here is one of my "excuses"; yeah, friend can't attend wedding, it's too expensive to travel (an excuse), but she is going to another wedding IN MY TOWN in a few months, want to meet up?( Eh no, think I'll make an excuse to be busy that day.)

I'm gonna play the devil's advocate here; we only know part of the story..does sound like a sucky friend, i just hate to judge based on a lil info..but anywho, tram have you talked to her in person yet about the reason to feel her out a little more; or just going off the email (first of all she should have called you in person rather than the email). I'd hate to write off a 20 year friendship (no matter how rocky) over an email interpretation..if you have talked to her, then well nevermind! :-)