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April 2020

Ladies, what should i do??

Megan, on June 19, 2020 at 7:17 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 7
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Hey brides,
So as many of you are also facing the same issue as I am, I’m really looking for some advice here.
I have been planning our (my) dream wedding since January 2018, which was supposed to be a destination celebration in Puerto Rico. Our wedding was scheduled for April 20th but we were obviously forced to postpone due to COVID. We did end up eloping on our originally planned date (in order for all of our engraved wedding gifts to still be relevant) but we ended up postponing our ceremony until November-But now I’m beginning to realize that I’m not going to get the wedding I’ve been planning all this time.I realize nobody knows for sure but they’re predicting a second wave come fall/winter and because the island reopened so early, they’re currently peeking in positive cases already! Even without the second wave, we’re all living in a whole new world right now. Mandatory masks, social distancing and limited public capacities. Who the hell wants to be on a hot and humid island wearing a mask, having to sit at separate tables for a rehearsal dinner and have to distance yourself in the pool or at the beach? Obviously our group snorkeling trip is out of the question at this point.I don’t know if I can go through the emotional rollercoaster of postponing again but it’s even more devastating to think that we may need to cancel our wedding all together. I’d like to give our guests ample time to make/cancel their travel arrangements as I know this is a huge inconvenience for everybody. What should we do????

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  • Melle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I think that's a good way of figuring out if you'd wanna cancel entirely or postpone further out - if you think you can't have the wedding you'd want such as no dancing, no socializing, masks, etc and that bothers you, then i would just cancel entirely or postpone much further out. some people are ok with the idea of no dancing and no socializing and masks so they continue on with planning but if you aren't ok with it, then cancelling or postponing would make more sense

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  • Kristen
    Rockstar November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    I am on the side of marrying your partner is more important even if with a small, intimate. I get it, this all sucks and from what I read you said you do not want to go through the emotional roller coaster of postponing again and I feel you there. I feel you deserve your day even if it is just you two and few close family. It ultimately decide what is most important to you. Some brides must have the big day and are willing to postpone a year or so. If that is the most important then wait but I think you would regret canceling all together. What is most important to you?

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  • Cristy
    Master May 2021
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    This is why we postponed a whole year out, because I was afraid that a shorter postponement would result in a seriously altered wedding, or no wedding at all, and we didn't want that. We've waited too long, come too far, and overcome too many obstacles to not get what we want now. It's worth waiting for it. At least it was for us. So we went from May 2020 to May 2021. I'm hoping and praying that circumstances will allow us to have the wedding we want at that time. I'm lucky that all of my vendors were very understanding, and all of them were willing and able to move to the new date.

    Good luck to you!! We all should get the wedding we want!

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  • Nefetera
    Rockstar March 2015
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    Honestly do what makes you feel much more comfortable, I think having a wedding now and months away not knowing you will have to play it by ear which is quit frustrating and causes alot of worrying because honestly noone knows what to expect even for tomorrow with this virus. Me personal Ill say it depends on which state your end,protcols and so much more. Rescheduling is painful however it will give you alot of hope and less stressful. If you did decied to reschedule your big day next year is what majority all brides are doing and taking it that route...this is a decision its best you and your Husband decied.

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  • Nahnie2552
    Dedicated October 2020
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    I know how you feel. Constantly having to postpone is so hard to do, especially when you had something great in mind. The most important thing is you were able to honor your marriage by actually getting married. You may not get a physical wedding to enjoy with friends and family but you did get what was needed and that's an actual marriage. So happy for you. I wish you many blessings for the future.

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
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    I'm sorry Megan. This is such an emotional rollercoaster!

    Like others have said, you've just got to make the choice that's best for you! With the lingering uncertainty some couples are going ahead with modified plans now and others are postponing significantly. I think some social distancing measures will be with us for a long time, so if those would really dampen the entire celebration for you then it might be worth postponing.

    Thinking of you! Smiley heart

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  • Daniela
    Dedicated August 2020
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    Sadly there isn’t a right or wrong answer. We have been planning for 2 years and were set to get married in NY on May 30th. We postponed to Aug 22 but I have no idea what our big day will look like at this point. I want to postpone but there is SO MUCH uncertainty that we are moving ahead with the wedding right now. I have family members who are concerned but fortunately our friends have been dry supportive and have been trying to keep us excited about the wedding. We were supposed to go on our honeymoon in Hawaii - they just announced they will allow visitors but only if you have a clear test within 72 hours of arrival. It is really difficult to get a test, some tests take up to a week for results, and there is no guarantee we would be able to get tested on the exact day required before we travel. So we are postponing our honeymoon until April 2021. This whole thing really sucks, but when I think about wearing my dress and having our wedding (we got legally married in May) it still does make me happy to think about. COVID really sucked the fun out of wedding planning. Hope you find what’s best for you guys and that your day is amazing Smiley heart

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