July 2020

Ladies, is this a good proposal idea: Personalized Bench with Written Proposal ?

Allan, on August 21, 2019 at 10:28 PM Posted in Community Conversations 1 16
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Hi there,

I'm actually not engaged yet, but I want to propose to my girlfriend soon. She knows I will be proposing soon and she always says "You better make it special, haha".

My town offers this Personalized Park Bench Dedication program where I can pay $350 and write anything on a bench. I'm planning to write:

[Name], my Everything,

Will You Marry Me?

(I'm limited to 2 lines, and 22 characters per line including spaces)

I''m also buying her her dream car, and she knows about it but does not know when I'll give it to her. So I'm thinking of combining the car surprise with the "bench proposal".

So far this is the plan:

1) Park the dream car next to the bench a day before proposing.

2) The next day, take her on a nice date. Before sunset, go to the park and BLINDFOLD her eyes. Then walk towards to the bench.

3) Surprise her with the car first.

4) At the peak of her joy, tell her that this is only the smaller surprise. Then take her to the bench, let her read the words written on it, then kneel down and propose!

So to all ladies out there:

Do you think it's a romantic, special proposal idea?

Any suggestions on what to write on the bench? Should I decorate the bench with flowers, pictures, etc?

Any suggestions on how to better combine the car surprise with the bench proposal?

Any suggestions on how to have it recorded (photos/videos)? She definitely does not want to have friends involved though...

Any suggestion is HIGHLY appreciated!!!

Thank you!


  • Yam
    VIP September 2019
    Yam Online ·
    I think it’s cute. Someday when you’re old and gray you can still come visit that bench and sit on it together. It’s kind of a lifelong proposal.
  • Cher Horowitz
    Rockstar December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·

    That would be a sweet proposal! I'd suggest some of her favorite flowers to decorate the bench. For recording, see if you could possibly hire a videographer that could go incognito. Good luck!

  • Megan
    Devoted March 2021
    Megan ·
    So thoughtful if you don't get a videographer ( I mean you are buying a car, ring and personalized bench- it could get a bit expensive although I'm sure she is worth it 😉) since she will be bindfolded maybe invite some friends and family and ask them to take pictures and videos of the WHOLE thing!
  • A
    Expert August 2019
    Ami ·
    I think the bench is a fantastic idea, uts something you two can visit over and over again.
    If she doesn't want friends and family involved you can hire a photographer to hide out and wait for the right moment.
  • Caytlyn
    Champion November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
    I think the bench is a very sweet idea, but combining it with a new car seems a little...I don’t know, bribe-y? Hiring a photographer or a videographer is a great idea!
  • Mandi
    Rockstar March 2020
    Mandi ·
    I'd settle for a card in a new Jeep Wrangler. But that's just me.
  • B
    Dedicated October 2020
    brandi ·
    I think the bench sounds like a very sweet and timeless idea. I however don’t think that a new car belongs in a proposal. It seems materialistic and not particularly romantic.
  • Monique
    Rockstar December 2019
    Monique ·
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    I agree with this as well. The new car is great but it doesn’t really scream sentimentality to me. It would be out of place with the proposal.
  • Jeanie
    Super February 2020
    Jeanie ·
    I love the bench idea. I was trying to count characters but lost count. Would you be able to fit the date on there? Clearly you would have to make sure you got there that day, but I think it would be an extra special touch. I am not sure about the car being involved though. It seems almost too much. If you want to do both the same day, give her the car in the morning, have a nice date day, and end it with a walk in the park where you end up at the bench. Good luck!!
  • Andrea
    Devoted May 2020
    Andrea ·
    I love the idea of the bench, covered with gorgeous flowers. I think the car will take away from the ring and the whole moment. If my fiancé gave me a car I’d be excited to look at that, I’m not going to want to go look at a bench. Keep them separate so she can remember the beautiful ring and the special moment. A car is an amazing gift, but it’s not romantic or meaningful in the way a proposal and ring is. Make that the center of the day and give her the car another time. Get it videotaped. Make sure it’s a day when she’s dressed up and has her nails done! Good luck!
  • Andrea
    Devoted May 2020
    Andrea ·
    Sorry I meant to add, hire a professional videographer/photographer, it’s a public park it would be totally normal for other people to be around. Honestly she’ll get so caught up in the moment she won’t notice someone is filming (I didn’t haha) and then once she says “yes” your photographer can take pictures of you guys.
  • Melanie
    Savvy October 2019
    Melanie ·
    My man set up a go pro and put it in video mode. I had no idea. Pretend like you’re taking a time lapse of the sun setting and voila! It’s you and her being recorded for something you will always have.

    And for for everything else, I just love it all. It’s intimate and it sounds like it’s you guys. If this is a park that means something to you both, even better. We got engaged at the first place I told my fiancé I loved him, so even though we don’t frequent the harbor often, it always holds a special place. She wants you to “go big” but when you bring sentimental moments to it, nothing else matters.

    And congratulations!
  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
    Chandra ·
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    I agree the car there seems a bit much.
    Give it to her before the proposal and maybe have her drive it to the area where the bench is as a test/first drive?
  • IvyAndKris
    Rockstar October 2019
    IvyAndKris ·
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    I was thinking the same thing.

  • Courtney
    Beginner April 2020
    Courtney ·

    I love all of it! I do agree the car at the bench seems like a lot of BIG presents all at once. I think you should do the car the day before, then go for a drive to get ice cream or something the next night, and park near the bench and walk to it, and boom! Flowers and proposal. Definitely arrange for some sort of photos/video to be done, whether you set it up, friends do it or you hire. You are a very thoughtful guy - what a lucky lady!

  • Courtney
    Rockstar December 2019
    Courtney ·

    This is so cute! I say surprise her with the car by picking her up to go on your picnic. And then show her the bench, something that will be there forever.

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