Kid friendly or Adult only wedding?

View Quoted Comment Yea. Lucky us lol

View Quoted Comment Same to you!

View Quoted Comment Either was fine with me.

I love weddings with children, so we invited children too.

My husband and I opted for no children at all, we chose that because we let our close family and friends know asap so that they could make arrangements or decline. No one in my immediate family has very young children and those that did were excited to have an adult night out. Our wedding was on a Sunday evening also and most of them stayed until 11ish, about an hour before it ended. Our venue was on a hilltop with various terraces and huge balconies just hanging off the side of the mountain. It was beautiful but also hazardous if children were to go out to the terraces alone. We did make an exception for my husbands best friend who had a 3 week old at the time however, they even made arrangements and left when they needed to. You know whats funny the only people who thought that might be a problem was my mil, they had some young children on their side but most of those family members just didn't make it on to my husbands list. We had 100 adults and the youngest people there were 17 and 18, everyone had a blast! We got compliments for doing it this way and still get them today!

View Quoted Comment Yeah if we didn’t have our son I probably would’ve said no kids at all as well. But I can’t get married without my baby there, I’m actually more excited to see him in a little suit lol. It’ll be our son, my step son, my niece & nephew & that’s it!

We're doing no kids with the exception of our flower girl.

Both myself and my FH have quite a few aunts/uncles who didn't have children, leaving us with relatively few cousins and few people in our age bracket. Only a handful of my friends have young children. When I polled them, the consensus is that they look forward to adults-only events like weddings - it gives them a chance to stow the kids away safely with Grandma and have a fun night out! So we will likely go the adults-only route unless our siblings have kids in the interim. If that's the case, we plan on getting married at a Marriott property (FH travels and has high status with them), so we'd likely include their kids in the ceremony and hire a babysitter to keep an eye on them at the hotel during the reception. My recollection of attending weddings as a child was that they weren't much fun and went on too long, so I don't think it will be a huge deal that they don't hang out.

View Quoted Comment Ours is at a hotel so that’s similar to what we will be doing. Except we won’t have to hire a babysitter my older nephew will keep an eye on them.

We initially said we would include kids but the wedding is on a Sunday evening and we have so many children in our families, it would inflate the guest list quite a bit. Only children in the ceremony will be attending including our sons & Godchildren (about 8 in total).


We also want the adults to enjoy themselves without the kids there lol. I’m really excited about it tbh lol.

View Quoted Comment Sameeee lol

I am also doing an adult only wedding with exception to my son and my 2 nieces & 2 nephews because they are in the wedding party. I also chose this route because we are having an intimate wedding only a 30 minute church ceremony and then I rented a private room for the reception at a restaurant and the restaurant gave me a max of 50 guests and there are a lot of kids within friends and family so if I allowed everyone to bring their kids I would have mostly kids at my reception rather than adults. It was a tough decision but it was a necessary decision. Thankfully nobody got offended or upset because that usually occurs when people are told to leave the kids behind.

View Quoted Comment I definitely understand! I’m sure everyone will enjoy their night without the extra kids!

Like several others have said, we are planning to have an adult reception except for the little ones in our bridal party. I am also inviting my DIL's youngest daughter who will be 17 by that time but to us, that's close enough. The flower girl and ring bearer will be included in the reception, obviously, but once they are fed and most likely tuckered out, I am planning to offer to have a sitter for them while the parents enjoy the rest of the evening. This will be made easier since our reception is at a hotel and they little ones can just go to our room, or maybe my son and DIL's room and chill there with a sitter while their parents are just downstairs partying away. Having an adult reception is easier for us since we are a bit older than most couples and our the bulk of our friends and family have adult children and won't even give it another thought.

View Quoted Comment Yes ours is at a hotel as well so the bridal kids can go straight upstairs once it gets later!

We did adults only bc there are SO many kids on both sides so cost was a big factor. Kids also change the atmosphere of an event, and we wanted an adult-only vibe. It was wonderful! A couple people complained, but at the end of the day it’s your decision!

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I definitely agree that the atmosphere changes! We recently decided that we will have a minimony in October and allow kids to come to that. But for the big wedding only our son, my stepson, and my niece and nephew because they are all in the wedding party.

Our wedding will be adult only with the exception of immediate family (our niece and nephew is in the wedding party)

We decided to do kid friendly. That is the only way that my family would attend and I do want the majority of them there. But I do see the appeal of an adult only wedding.


However maybe it's the circles I've been in or the etiquette I was raised with but kids are an all or nothing thing with no exceptions for anyone. Don't play favorites unless you want to offend everyone and be blacklisted from future events. That includes if you're having an adult wedding don't invite babies, the couple's children and a lone flowergirl..because it does offend them even if no one says a word.

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Maybe its an etiquette thing to you but isn't to us! We knew what we wanted so that's how we planned it. We did allow kids at our minimony but besides our son, my stepson, my niece, and my nephew were not allowing any other kids for the big wedding. Not to sound harsh but it doesn't matter to me/us if anyone is offended by that or not because its our big day and its not like its an uncommon thing. Also, I would never have a wedding without my son/kids, that would be weird to me!