Kid friendly or Adult only wedding?

We are doing the same thing that you are - adults only, with the exception of kids in wedding party. First reason was that adding kids significantly increased guest count and therefore increased cost, but also because my fiance wanted to only have adults at our wedding.

In our families, weddings are family events so all ages are invited. You would be side-eyed and not invited to future events if it was adults only. Luckily all the kids are well-behaved and used to being at social events so there are no issues.

We are allowing children but mostly because if we didn't allow the children, there would be a lot of family unable to come because anyone they would normally ask to babysit would also be invited to the wedding. My fiance's family has super large families within the family, if that makes sense. It does significantly increase the guest count; like 20 on the list are just kids (remember when I said his fam was huge? 😂) We also are pretty close to the family, including the kids, so we want them to be able to celebrate the special day with us too. There will be alcohol, but we fully expect everyone attending that are bringing children to be responsible for themselves and their kids.

View Quoted Comment

Yes my fiance wanted to be able to enjoy without having to worry about a bunch of kids!

We didn’t invite children except for my niece and nephew (7 and 4). We have a lot of kids in our friends group so we wanted to limit because of that. I did tell my friends with new babies that they were welcome to bring them but no one did.

Ehhhh I am not having a full wedding but if I were no kids allowed. I honestly think kids are adorable but I do not feel free to drink and I feel like i need to filter myself and I do not want to lol. If I were doing a full wedding I would do adults only. 1 - for food cost 2 - so adults can freely enjoy their time out.

View Quoted Comment

That's good! No one has a problem with ours being "adults only", every family is different! At least you don't have to worry about kids that misbehave

View Quoted Comment

Yes as they should be able to be responsible!

View Quoted Comment

Our son, my stepson, and my niece and nephew will be the only kids at our wedding!

View Quoted Comment

Yes, we want to be able to enjoy ourselves freely and wanted our friends/family to be able to as well!

We are doing adults only with the exception of niece, nephews, and lap babies.

View Quoted Comment It's kind of odd because I've gotten...not push back but almost snarky comments from friends like, "I would NEVER allow kids at MY wedding!" And Idk I just think that's kind of a rude comment lol. Nothing wrong with the preference itself, but I just didn't expect such vehemence about it 😅

View Quoted Comment

Its you and your fiance's wedding you guys can decide what you want lol. I don't understand why people have to get so personal about other peoples decisions. Everyone is different and has different preferences lol

View Quoted Comment

That's pretty much what our rule is! There is no lap babies though unless someone has been hiding their pregnancy lol My son (who is almost 3) is the youngest in our 2 families

View Quoted Comment Exactly! I personally would have been fine with going either way but I think having the whole family there was pretty important to my fiance. My side doesn't have many children. 😊

So we are doing an adult only wedding.
I am an elementary school librarian and when there are kids around, I immediately go into educator/babysitter/keep them safe mode. I knew that if I had kids at my wedding, I would too busy worrying about the kids and I would end up not enjoying/focusing on my wedding.

View Quoted Comment

And as long as you two agree on that, that is the only thing that matters! My fiance and I made that decision before he even proposed lol we expect it to be a wildddd night lol. He jokes and says "i'm gonna have the dj warn the older people after 9 that its no filter now" lol.

View Quoted Comment I have one coworker who’s son will be 9 months old that will be coming but he should be it

View Quoted Comment

Yeah at 9 months babies don't do too much so I am sure he will be fine!

View Quoted Comment

Yes enjoy your day off and celebrate freely