Lynnie
WeddingWire Administrator October 2016

Keep or Cancel: Reception Speeches?

Lynnie, on July 16, 2019 at 11:05 AM

Posted in Wedding Reception 200

Reception toasts from your father, maid of honor, and best man can be incredibly moving and bring everyone to happy tears! 馃槶 That is, when the speeches are done well! On the other hand, they can also be awkward, embarrassing, and totally cringe-worthy when done poorly. What's your vote? Should we...

Reception toasts from your father, maid of honor, and best man can be incredibly moving and bring everyone to happy tears! 馃槶 That is, when the speeches are done well! On the other hand, they can also be awkward, embarrassing, and totally cringe-worthy when done poorly.

What's your vote? Should we put everyone out of their misery and cancel reception speeches? Or keep this personal and emotional toast tradition?


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200 Comments

  • Laura
    Rockstar November 2019
    Laura
    • Flag
    *Dad-jeez, I can鈥檛 type
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  • Katelyn
    Dedicated June 2021
    Katelyn
    • Flag

    Keep. They are very important to both of us.

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  • Jennifer
    Super September 2020
    Jennifer
    • Flag
    Keeping...but would happily cancel. We are giving a max time for each person to avoid the lengthy sleep inducing types...will let the DJ handle that.
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  • Paula
    Super September 2019
    Paula
    • Flag
    We're not allotting any time for speeches other than the one we will give. My sister is my MOH who thinks she's funny but is actually borderline rude and his brother is kind of long winded so we're just not having them speak at all.
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  • K
    Expert February 2020
    Kristina
    • Flag

    Keep, I love to hear friends stories about our pasts. However my MOH will be in charge of making sure the BM doesn't go of the rails on his, lol

    • Reply
  • Marlena
    Expert June 2020
    Marlena
    • Flag
    We are leaving it up to the BM and MOH to decide. We don't want to make anyone do a speech if they aren't comfortable.
    • Reply
  • CourtneyBrittain
    Master August 2019
    CourtneyBrittain
    • Flag

    Keep! We will have 6 speeches, which is a LOT, but we will let everyone know that we'd like their speeches to be less than 3 minutes each. We have

    Brides Dad

    Grooms Mom

    Grooms Dad

    Matron of Honor

    Best Man

    Maid of Honor


    The Matron and Maid are my sisters though so maybe they'll combine theirs, I'm not sure.

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  • Katie
    VIP November 2019
    Katie
    • Flag
    Only from the maid of honor and best man
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  • Jessie
    Devoted September 2020
    Jessie
    • Flag
    Keep. I'm really looking forward to see what our parents come up with!
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  • Fenja
    Rockstar June 2020
    Fenja
    • Flag
    Keep. But only for people of whom I know that they give good speeches!
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  • Rebecca
    Super August 2019
    Rebecca
    • Flag

    I guess we're keeping. My father, who both hates public speaking and does it as part of his job, said he was working on something that wouldn't make him cry.

    So, we'll figure it out, because I'm a daddy's girl, and if he wants to speak, he gets the mic.

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  • Allycia
    Dedicated March 2020
    Allycia
    • Flag
    Keep wanna hear what the maid of honor and best men have to say馃槉
    • Reply
  • Kirstin
    Just Said Yes December 2019
    Kirstin
    • Flag
    Cancel, they tend to be drawn out and some of the groomsmen I know would try to embarrass us...
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  • Megan
    Expert June 2021
    Megan
    • Flag
    I would prefer to skip it, my MoH, ughhh I think she could go on for days and it might be too much, his best man would be short and sweet but I'm sure he rather not give a speech.
    • Reply
  • M.W.
    VIP June 2019
    M.W.
    • Flag

    We had no speeches we just did a toast

    • Reply
  • Emily
    Expert May 2019
    Emily
    • Flag
    Keep!! I loved my maid of honor鈥檚 speech, it was one of the highlights of our reception
    • Reply
  • Tamika
    Expert October 2019
    Tamika
    • Flag

    We are doing an "Open Mic" so everyone can have a moment.

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  • S
    Just Said Yes October 2019
    Shellie
    • Flag

    Can be fun, worth keeping

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  • Mrs. H
    Master September 2019
    Mrs. H
    • Flag

    We're keeping two toasts - Best Man and MOH

    • Reply
  • Jennifer
    Expert October 2020
    Jennifer
    • Flag

    Keep, but limit the number of speeches!

    • Reply

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