July 18th 2020 Wedding

Hello,

Same here. Our wedding is July 10th in Cali. We're taking it week by week until May 15th. My fiance and I are being patient and making sure we don't hire any other vendors until then. We reach out to our venue and so far they aren't rescheduling summer weddings. It's tough with everything being closed and not knowing if family & friends will feel comfortable coming to your big day. I suggest you wait 2-3 more weeks to make sure you've made the right decision!

We're August 15, postponed from April 4th, so yes I feel you. My father in law - we eloped on our day anyway because we picked that day for a reason - is a doctor, and he feels like we'll taper off in the summer months. Now that doesn't mean you'll be able to have your wedding with 100+ people- idk the restrictions in Pennsylvania, but you will probably have a limit of 50 people. Basically, if you're ok with a smaller event and taking precautions like masks, then you should be ok. Also expect that a lot of people might hang back because of fear for their health, and that's ok too.

View Quoted Comment My invite list is roughly 180 guests! One minute we thing we will be okay and the next we don't know what to think!

View Quoted Comment Its tough bc my fiancé s family is HUGE. Our guest list is approx 180 people. And July 18th is such an important date for me. If anything we may have to just get married that day and have our reception at a later time. Its so crazy!

Yes I’m so nervous too, my wedding is 8/21/2020, people that are not getting married are telling me I would have to reschedule, but I’m staying positive through all of it in hoping I can get married. Stay positive & good luck!

View Quoted Comment Yeah, I would start leaving that way if everybody has to be there. Wait a bit and see what Pennsylvania does in terms of event restrictions, but maybe start talking to your vendors about moving your big wedding. For us, we just want it done. We were so close! Like 20 days out. So we're telling family to take their health into account and going ahead if the venue is fine, and they should be.

Our date was July 18, 2020. We postponed to August 2021. We live in PA, but we are getting married in NY with a good amount of out of town and elderly guests. We just couldn't imagine a world where people would feel comfortable coming to our wedding and having a good time this July. My family is huge, so paring down the guest list was not an option (also I don't know if my venue would allow it). I feel sad, yet relieved to have a new plan. You'll figure out what works best for you . Have you checked in with your venue yet? They may have a policy for postponements due to the coronavirus, which may include a hold on a back-up date.

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Mine is 180-200 guests. We're estimating that only 140 will show because of traveling or health concerns. I will be advising all my guests as kindly as possible to stay home if they aren't feeling well. We'll be figuring out how to live stream for those who can't make it. Plan B is to have a civil wedding and reception will be postponed

View Quoted Comment We have a back up daye of October 23rd 2020 for the reception but not the ceremony. We are supposed to get married in the church. Im just at a loss as to what to do. My venue won't allow us to postpone to that date unless it absolutely totally comes down to it. I already have my invites and all of my decor has the date on it!

View Quoted Comment I am so sorry this is happening to you and that your venue isn’t being flexible. I know exactly how you feel with all the decor having your original date. We are still working that out. Are you willing to do your ceremony with a small group of family members?


This is a terrible situation during what is supposed to be such a happy time. My heart breaks for all of us Coronavirus brides.

View Quoted Comment If it comes to it we will do our ceremony on the original date with just family and then just host the reception on October 23rd. I just dont know when I should make the decision by!

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I can only speak to my own experience (and granted, my venue and vendors were extremely accommodating because the situation in NY is so dire)...I was feeling really worked up, anxious, crying all the time, wondering what I should do and when, and I think it is because I knew that postponing was the right choice for us all along. I was just fighting it because it is so much work and anticipation. Once I did it, I felt really really sad for a day, but then I felt such relief.

But that's just me, and PA is different from NY. I saw on Governor Wolf's website that large gatherings would not be allowed until Phase 3, at the earliest, though it was unclear how long each phase will last and when Phase 1 would begin. And it sounds like your venue wants to wait until the government intervenes with your date.

At first, I thought maybe I would wait until right before invitations had to go out, if that is helpful to you. Then you at least save on postage!

My wedding is July 11th, 2020 in Ohio (200 guests invited but even before COVID we weren't really expecting the few out of state guests we have to come). Our venue said that we can choose a backup date two months before our date and that we'd basically keep our date and if it comes down to it, we'll have that backup date and we'll just keep guests updated on our website. I'm REALLY, REALLY holding out hope and trying not to stress about it. I hope the hot weather comes early and helps alleviate some of this so that we can have everything as planned. *fingers crossed*

We are July 25th and in the same boat. My confidence has been wavering and we finally emailed the venue asking about Plan B or postponement options. We got an email back that, while respectful, suggested that they feel confident about our date and are only cancelling early June brides. We sent the email before our governor unveiled a 3 Phase plan, where unrestricted gatherings were Phase 3. We aren't even in Phase 1 and to move in phases there are many criteria including a huge ramp up in testing (which we know isn't happening). I really want my wedding to happen as planned, but I almost feel like being able to postpone would put me out of my misery and I could grieve and move forward. It's so hard not knowing what the future holds. Best of luck to you!

Hi!!! July 17th Bride here! I feel you pain, worry, and anger! This whole situation is just stressful because it is so unknown and seems to change day by day. I am still moving forward as planned for now. I am live in Florida and I am having the wedding here, but 100% of my guests will be coming from out of state (worries me the most), my guest list is already under 50 which is a positive thing at this point, but still has me wondering what can happen before then and will these re-opening phases work and make it worse. My fiance is completely positive we are having our wedding on our date, which makes me feel good, but sometimes the news and everything I read gets me down. I am trying to place all my faith in God and just know he has a plan of how my day should go. Currently my venue along with all my vendors has been a blessing. My venue has a hold date on November 1st as a back up if need be without any extra charges. Only thing is if another bride is looking at that date I will have to make an immediate decision, so it can happen anytime. I am trying to wait and see what May and the beginning of June looks like and how things are progressing before I need to make an ultimate decision for my guest. Everyone seems ok with coming as long as they can travel. I am praying for everyone going through this and my suggestion is to have a back up plan in case and keep the faith!! Sending lots of love!

View Quoted Comment Thank you for such kind words! This is the most stressful thing I've ever encountered and then I feel guilty for being upset over my wedding when everything else is happening! Its such a Rollercoaster. Have you sent out your invites yet?

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Of course, we all could use kind words especially now. I never imagined something like this being the reason I was stressing so much over my wedding. Honestly, everything was going so smooth with wedding planning and getting things together, that I should have known something was about to happen. Nothing usually goes that smooth for me. Don't feel guilty. We all feel horrible for what is going on in the world and the struggle that many are dealing with, but that doesn't mean we don't have the right to be upset about what we are going through. This is suppose to be one of the happiest moments in our lives and it is truly being taken from us. So feel sad, cry, scream even if it makes you feel better, but its ok to feel the way we do! Yes, I sent my invites out the middle of March. 100% of my guest are coming from out of state, so I was trying to give them more time to decide and plan things. Luckily most airlines are letting people book and if things need to change, they are not charging for changing the date. We are having a wedding celebration one way or the other and that is what I told guests who feel shaky about putting money into a flight. I promised it wasn't going to be wasted that either way we would have a celebration when we could, but still praying everything works out for July! Keep holding on to faith, but have that back up plan just in case, so you don't have to stress even more then we already are! Sending lots of love your way!

Hi Courtney,

The uncertainty is brutal. You have every right to be upset! The fact that other people may have it worse than you does not make you less entitled to your feelings. Feel your feelings!

It's great that you already have a back-up date in October. So proactive! You mentioned that your back-up date is only for your reception venue; however, if it comes to postponing, I think you'll be able to find another spot for the ceremony more easily than the reception. Or, as you said, you could move forward with a family-only ceremony on your original July date and then celebrate with all 180 guests in October. At least you have options! Has your venue given you any idea of when they would need a firm decision about the July plan?

Also, as you can see from the PP, you are NOT alone. Here's a couple of discussions with July brides that may be helpful to you:

July 2020 Weddings

July Wedding

I'm hoping you can make a decision that feels right for you!

I am also getting married on July 18. I have decided it will happen as planned and it’s up to the guests if they come or not. It’s about you and your FH and nobody else. We will all get through this.

I think we all feel for each other and can use some kind words right now. I pray that this tapers down for the Summer as projected. I'm so unsure of people feeling comfortable regarding Covid. I read in a wedding article that we could all stand to lose 20-50% of guest out of fear of the unknown. Which sucks because I'm looking forward to spending the day with my loved ones.

My final decision is I'm getting married on that day even if't its only immediate family with masked and if I need to postpone my reception I will.