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Erin
Super August 2012

Jackets or no jackets?

Erin, on April 19, 2012 at 2:06 PM Posted in Planning 0 14

So we are getting married outside in august and it will probably be about 90 degrees outside. My sister got married last august and they chose not to do jackets bc it was going to be so hot out. So we had originally planned to not have jackets bc it will be so hot out and they will be outside from 1pm-5pm.

However FMIL heard about our plan and has made a big scene about it. She thinks it will look so tacky without jackets and thinks all the groomsmen will look down dressed. She litterly talks to FH about this all the time he kinda just wants to do jackets to shut her up. She argues that all our guests will be wearing a suite with a jacket so the groomsmen should too.

Our wedding is outside on a golf course. We have even let people know that they can dress casual for our ceremony and than change for reception.

What do you guyes think? Im trying to avoid the big pit stains from being outside in the heat for so long by wearing a jacket. OR will that be tacky?


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Latest activity by Erin, on April 19, 2012 at 3:18 PM
  • Sherri
    Expert April 2012
    Sherri ·
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    I dont think its tacky at all. i mean, think about their health too. jackets get really hot..and black attracts the heat. could you imagine FH passing out? lol.

    i think it looks fine =] and if she has a problem with it, ask her to wear a suit jacket herself the entire time =]

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  • Nichole
    Super July 2012
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    I'm in Florida and getting married in July so I feel your pain! My guys will not be wearing jackets...it will be way too hot. Your wedding do it your way!

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  • Tina~Bo~Bina
    Master June 2024
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    It's not tacky and it's not her wedding.

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  • Travis's Girl
    VIP October 2012
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    Its not tacky in my opinion. We are also doing No jackets, because it will be about 85-95 in Arizona.

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  • Shianne M
    Super August 2012
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    I dont think its tacky at all. Especially since its an outdoor wedding, they tend to be a little more laid back anyways. I know our guys arent wearing jackets. Heck, they might wear khaki shorts... havent decided yet. lol

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  • Tiffany M. ( Tiffany P.)
    Master August 2012
    Tiffany M. ( Tiffany P.) ·
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    We are getting married inside a church, so the guys will be wearing jackets.

    I say rent the jackets and see how the weather is the day of the wedding. If it's cooler, go with the jackets and if it's warm, go without them. Also if you do it last minute (taking off the jackets), then your FMIL won't be able to say anything.

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  • Nancy Taussig
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    Don't torture the poor guys!

    For most of the year, my beach grooms & gm don't wear jackets; sometimes they wear a vest, sometimes not. Sometimes they wear sportshirts (Tommy Bahama style) and khaki slacks or shorts.

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  • Lee I.
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    Not tacky at all. I would ask your FMIL to wear a jacket if she thinks it's tacky to not wear one. Ask her if it would be tacky to have one of the GMs faint because he is over-heated.

    Better yet, give her an option.. jacket or pants. Which one would you rather have off?

    Hehe, sorry. I just can't believe people can be so darn opinionated about EVERYTHING. Even the smallest things..

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  • WasSoon2BMrsSmith
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    Haha Leena I. nice

    Im with Tiffany

    I think it is fine. I really like the vests, would it appease her more if they went with vests the same colour as the suite pants? If they are renting I guess they could rent the tux w the vest and then you can just not have them wear the jacket, but if it gets cool at night they will have them and maybe for a few pics.

    Personally though I think that the vests are nice, but that it would look more "formal" for her if they were black. Maybe it would also make her feel better if you don't do jackets if you some how specify that jackets are not required but shirts and ties are so that the other guys that attend don't suffer cause their wives make them wear jackets?

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  • Sara
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    No jackets is fine.

    FH was best man in his brothers wedding nearly 7 years ago. One of his more prominate memories of the wedding was how hot and unfortable it was wearing a black suit jacket outside on an above average hot July day.

    If you do give in and pick jackets, try a something lightweight, like linen and in a light color. I do think linen wrinkles easily, so maybe their is a better fabric choice...

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  • MT
    Devoted March 2012
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    Well, even if you give them jackets, no one can force them to wear it.

    guys will take it off when it gets hot. who wants sweaty groomsmen?

    it looks fine Smiley smile

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  • krisalicious
    Master April 2012
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    Well I think FMIL is being silly but I can relate that my parents all have very specific ideas of what is "nice" and what is not and they express those opinions freely. Smiley smile It's really just up to you guys and whether or not you want to indulge her this one thing - I would probably leave it up to your FH.

    Here's some pic inspiration. If you do go with jackets, I would ditch the vest and maybe even the tie, and pick a very light fabric and color - light grey, light khaki, seersucker.

    If you do vests-only, I also agree with Mrs Smith to make them black or another dark, more formal color.



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  • krisalicious
    Master April 2012
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    Maybe even go without a tie? Probably depends on how fancy your BM dresses are.


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  • Erin
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    Thanks so much for all your opinions! The jackets cost an extra 75$ to rent, so the groomsmen would be saving money! PLus if we went with jackets, the guyes would take their jackets off at the reception and sure have huge pit stains!

    FMIL really needs to stop yelling at FH about jacket but now hes leaning towards them and I really dont want them!

    These are the brideamaid dresses in yellow.

    http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Short-Strapless-Pick-Up-Dress-84091_Bridal-Party-Bridesmaids-Shop-By-Color

    Plus the girls are wearing sandals for shoes bc I didnt think we were having such a fancy dancy wedding but apperently FMIL thinks we are.

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