Jack and Jill's? Stag and doe's ?

It definitely hasn't made it to Illinois. I have never heard of that before in my life. That's nuts

My question is why are people saying yes to these events? If I was invited to one, that would be a hard pass for me. I'm not paying for your damn wedding.

At first I thought OP was referring to Jack and Jill as a coed shower and Stag and Doe has coed bachelor/ette parties and was going to say I like those ideas but after reading the comments I had no idea that they were fundraisers. So gross. Why should other people pay for your wedding? Talk about the sense of entitlement people have now.

Yikes. Very moochy.

Girl! I'm from western mass and Jack and Jill's are the tradition around here. To me that's normal. I'm having one for sure. It all depends on where you're from I guess. I'm actually invited to two of them as we speak.

If I was from somewhere else I could understand the dislike toward it, but I've grown up with that being a normal thing. Instead of getting gifts at a bridal shower, everyone gets to party and have fun. It's just the way I was raised I suppose. Not that it's wrong from everyone else, just different

Angel - a shower is to help set up your house. A Jack-and-Jill is to pay for your wedding, which is basically just a big party (because most of the money spent is towards a reception).

Huge difference.

I'm living in western MA and originally from NY, I think it's super tacky when someone has to buy tickets (?!?!) and spend money at a stag&doe/jack&Jill. I've been invited to some where I was not invited to the wedding - so my money is good but my company is not? A coed engagement party is different to me, yes people will still bring gifts most likely but then it's not about the $$$. I understand you walk away with a lot of cash but I don't think that's what it should be about.

Stag parties (just for men) are common with certain groups where I live, like Portuguese-Americans and Italian-Americans. Jack and Jills seem to be rising in popularity, too. I think they're tacky AF and I feel embarrassed for people who have them. Like, why are you throwing this wedding you obviously can't afford? And if you CAN afford it, why squeeze your friends and acquaintances for cash?

Edit: One of my sister's friends threw her own Jack and Jill, and it was the most cringey thing out. At one point she was posting about it DAILY. Like, "Look at this dumb basket you could win! Buy tickets to my cash grab!" Of course I did not attend. Supposedly she ended up LOSING money on it.

That is super tacky! And raffle tickets? Buying a ticket to come? Bleh! You aren't a charity, nor are you worthy of being a charity. So tacky.

And to invite people you aren't inviting to the wedding- OMG! Like you aren't important enough to actually come to my wedding, but please help me pay for it

@Miranda, oh, yeah. The goal is to invite as many people as possible. People post Facebook events, invite coworkers, give BP and family members tickets to sell. It's really, um... something.

It sure sounds like it's "something".

Wow. Well I guess you learn new things everyday. I now know these things exist.

Yeah pretty much the equivalent of a gofundme. People seem to attend them because they are pressured into buying tickets by the bridal party. It's all so rude.

I'm in southeast MA and the only Jack & Jill's I've heard of are co-ed parties/showers. I never heard of fundraisers to pay for wedding until I came on WW. Save up your own money to pay for your wedding!

My sister got married in Ireland and I believe they call the bachelor party a stag night there but I think it is the same as a bachelor party, not a fundraiser. I totally thought that's what we were talking about before I read all the comments

I'm from Mass and people are genuinely upset we're not having a jack n jill. Everyone's wedding I have gone to, usually they have a Jack n Jill before to raise money. I HATE them. So much goes into planning one, and the whole night is taken up by calling out raffle ticket numbers for buckets of items to wash your car with. It is pretty much a way to fund your wedding, but uh why is that everyone else's responsibility??