Jack and Jill's? Stag and doe's ?

Are you talking about the wedding fundraiser or a co Ed Bach party?

Huh?

I'm referring to the wedding fundraiser.

What the?? Lol never heard of this.... thought was his and hers combined bach parties!

Who the fuck throws wedding fundraisers? Like a fundraiser to help pay for your wedding?

How tacky.

Is that really a thing?!

Yeah. Don't do that. They are tacky. If you can't afford to host a wedding then go to a courthouse and get married.

I seriously can't even understand why one would think a wedding fundraiser is ok...

That is a thing and fairly common where I live. Worse people do that and still have a bachelor party. I don't get it at all. Where I'm from stags have raffles and entrance fees and the money collected pays off the cost of the event and any extra goes to the wedding.

I would never attend. The stories we've heard hear are all about the BP paying boatloads of money and being forced to work. No thanks. Plus, why the fuck would I panhandle for my wedding? Why would you panhandle for your wedding?!

@MTMA I'm with you. Idk what planet people live on that they think this is even REMOTELY okay

Wedding fundraiser....it's called work and save it yourself.

I saw on this site - maybe it can help to clear it up for you

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/what-is-jack-jill-exactly/65036f1517c6021c.html

I had never heard of a fundraiser for a wedding until WW. I thought Jack and Jill shower would be cute because FH wedding too.

Fundraisers are for charities.

My brother lives in Mass and told me about this, he got invited to one once. It's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard.

Like a carwash? (Kidding. obviously). Don't do it.

Never heard of it. Not a good idea if you ask me.

@catlady-the BP is also required to supply the food and booze, sell tickets and get raffle prizes. There could also be a 50/50 draw.

That's great for a charity. A wedding is not a charity.

That's repulsive. Don't ask people to pay for your damn wedding.

Is this a MA thing? I'm in western MA and I hear about Jack and Jill's all the time, but it seems like not many other people have?

It's basically a giant wedding fundraiser. You sell tickets to attend, and there are raffles, door prizes, etc. It's normally a big nighttime party with a DJ and drinks. Not like a shower, really.

ETA- Just to clarify, I'm not having one. I've just been invited (ie. solicited to buy tickets to) some.