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Lauren
Super June 2015

"I've been thinking of my wedding since I was a little girl"

Lauren, on February 6, 2015 at 7:14 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 23

One of my co-workers said this to me. Am I the only one that has not ever been like this?! I have never thought of my wedding day, especially when I was little. I don't know, maybe because I didn't grow up with my parents talking about it, or discussing marriage. There was no wedding fund, or talk of finding a husband. It was just about getting my education, and getting a job. I seriously never thought about a wedding until I met FH. Probably because I never saw it happening before him; I was just working, dating bums, and living my life. Did a lot of you think about your wedding since you were little?

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Latest activity by McKony, on February 6, 2015 at 9:16 PM
  • N
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    natalie ·
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    I've thought and knew I wanted to eventually be married, but I haven't planned a wedding since I was little. I think it has made it easier for me...I have had 0 expectations and planning as been a breeze (fingers crossed it continues)!

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  • OMW
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    OMW ·
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    I didn't, either. My best friend had a wedding binder she started when she was in high school. To me, a wedding is a celebration of a life event, not a day when a girl is a princess.

    Plus, I got married later (36). I was ok with potentially being not married for the rest of my life. I wanted to live my life without being beholden to someone else.

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  • Della
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    Della ·
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    I thought about it some in high school (you know the first "love" puppy love romeo juliet idea), but never seriously and definitely not when I was young. I had friends in Middle school who had pictures cut out and put into a binder. Granted it was a Catholic school and their parents were much more traditional/conservative than my family.

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  • Finally mrs.jkr
    Master June 2025
    Finally mrs.jkr ·
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    I have... but just because I've always loved wedding/party planning. It definitely wasn't one wedding I always planned, I planned hundreds of "my" weddings since I was a child because I just liked it.

    I don't know how one can have a wedding vision of their real wedding as a child, I personally believe that the groom should be involved too, not the bride planning everything that she likes and he has no say... that's what those "dream" weddings seem to me. It's supposed to be about the couple, not the bride alone.

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  • Z
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    Zoe ·
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    I always wanted a wedding gown, and after I met DH in HS, I wanted to marry *him*, but that's as far as it went.

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  • Allison
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    Allison ·
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    All I ever wanted was to go to Italy and elope. FH had his mind set on a wedding where our families could be there, so that was the end of my dream.

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  • Kristen M
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    Kristen M ·
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    I didn't either... Never planned or even thought about it. In fact I never really wanted to get married until I met my FH.

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  • StitchingBride
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    StitchingBride ·
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    Not so much really. I love to make dresses and wedding gowns have been a obsession of mine for a good part of my life, but other than for fun, I never really wanted to wear one and say vows!

    my mom would bring up the idea of my wedding from time to time, but for the longest time it was all about how I was going to wear her dress. made it clear there was no question about it.

    didn't turn out that way, but that was what she had to say for a long time about any future wedding of mine :/

    I think in later years when I would attend a wedding I would wonder if I would or wouldn't do certain things like they did, but I was never dying to have my own wedding like a lot of girls I knew did.

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  • Lauren R.
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    Lauren R. ·
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    Nope. I never thought I would get married, so I had no vision. I do have friends like this, though. They balance me out. Smiley smile

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  • MrsE
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    MrsE ·
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    I'm the same as you. I never thought about my wedding either until one month before my DH proposed, and I had been engaged before to my hs sweetheart, but we planned on having a long engagement and not getting married until after college. I would still be waiting on his bum butt to finish his degree, but now he's basically majoring in alcoholism and has decided to be a club DJ for life, instead of the ambitious fighter pilot in the AF he promised me he would be. Anyway, now after my wedding I feel even more obsessed about weddings and really want to get my foot in the door for my career in event coordination.

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  • Michy
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    Michy ·
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    I never even thought about weddings until about a year after dating my FH. I was also not one of those girls. You're not alone!

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  • Cassie
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    Cassie ·
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    When I was a little girl, I wanted to grow up to be a bunny. Weddings? Farthest thing from my brain. Not hating on people that loved them at a young age, but I'm pretty sure I thought boys were gross and smelly until at least 13-14. Anyone else having a bloody mary right now? SO good. HAPPY FRIDAY!

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  • Eliza
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    Eliza ·
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    I never thought of it when I was a little girl but I have been planning my wedding since I was 17

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  • S
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    Sara ·
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    I was the same way. I never thought about my wedding or anything like that until I was a bridesmaid the first time (for my now-FSIL). I don't think there as many little girls planning their weddings as society collectively believes.

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  • Mrs Ronco
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    Mrs Ronco ·
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    I never thought about it. I always figured I was going to become the single crazy cat lady. Now I've turned into the bride to be while still being crazy cat lady. FH loves me enough to deal with my cat obsession.

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  • kalamityjen
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    kalamityjen ·
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    I never thought about it until my sister got married a few years ago and my best friend got married the year after that. It wasn't any serious thoughts, just "oh, I like this kind of dress better than that kind." I really glad I didn't have any ideas until I actually started planning because I would have never planned the wedding that's taking shape without knowing my FH's tastes. It's a totally different thing being for US than if it was just for ME. Does that make sense?

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  • annakay511
    Master July 2015
    annakay511 ·
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    Sorry, I've been dreaming about my wedding since as long as I can remember...!

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  • Lauren
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    Lauren ·
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    Glad a lot of you are the same as me!

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  • future mrs hall
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    future mrs hall ·
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    I never really thought about it much either. my ex and I were together for a qhile and everyone assumed we would get married and we were both attendants in his brothers wedding so at that point I looked at some wedding dresses and such, but not any planning. about a yr into being with fh I was on pinterest pinning wedding stuff, which I then deleted when we actually got engaged because it was all fantasy (see also: wayyy expensive) stuff and I started from scratch.

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  • Julia T
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    Julia T ·
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    I never thought about a wedding per say, but my parents did drill marriage into my head. They was hardcore with the no out of wedlock babies. And in my mind I be like you guys are divorce because you only got married because my mom was pregnant with me so how did that work for you. SMDH my parents so old school.

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