Is your wedding the most important day of your life?

FutureMrsOhler-Let's just say that my 20's have been full of important milestones. I feel like the day FH proposed is more important than the wedding day. I'm like another PP. The wedding day is just a celebration and reaffirmation of that commitment.

The day I had my daughter is more important. The day I decided to quit cocaine cold turkey and have a healthy pregnancy is more important. The day I ran out of the abortion clinic and decided to keep my baby (didn't know if I was going to be able to stop cocaine at that point) is more important than my wedding day. The day FH and I met physically for the first time is more important.

I'm sure there are going to be a lot more days in our marriage that will be more important than the day we threw the party. The day we decided that we were going to spend our lives together is more important to me than the day that we say it in front of everyone else.

I understood what you meant Tattoo, didn't understand Pumkin's reply either, I thought maybe she read it wrong or something.

If your wedding day is the most important one in your life, that's kind of sad. Most people get married around 25... So, does that mean that by 30 most of the good stuff is over?

I loved my wedding day, and it was great! But it was by far not the best day of my life. I'd rather look forward to all the other great days I have with my husband than look back thinking no day can ever be as great.

Thanks Mouche. I don't want anyone to be confused. The day you get married is important, and it's the most important day for some people.

I think what made me create this topic because I'm sick of hearing it from vendors who are trying to make more money off of my excitement. Like why not spend more on food!? It's the MOST important day of your life! You totally need the chargers! It's the MOST important day of your life! Oh? You only have a dress budget of $1000? Well let me try to talk you into blowing it on your DREAM dress for the MOST important day of your life!

LOL!!! I feel you on that on Tattoo, While some can be helpful they can over blow things, that's why I block them from SOME of my topics I post.

I totally get what you're talking about Miss Tattoo. I see that all the time on wedding shows. The day isn't any less important if you go off and elope in jeans and a sweatshirt than if you have a $10,000 dress on...

When I say the wedding is important, I don't mean the 'party' aspect of it. I mean the reason for that day, the fact that we made a promise to spend the rest of our lives together, that's what's important to me. Cause when all those other accomplishments are said and done, and you are in the last years of your life, and you look over, and see who's beside you, hopefully, it's the man you married on your wedidng day and promised forever with.

This day marks the day that everything began, the reason you have this beautiful foundation to rasie a family in. on my 50th, I'm gonna say, that my wedding day was the most important day, it was the best decsion I ever made cause when I look at my family, my husband and kids, I am going to feel so grateful. I hope.

I know that's not taking into consideration how much this world has changed, and how popular divorce is now-adays. But I was not raised to think that way. Marriage is a lifetime commitment.

I think we all agree that the wedding IS important. Just for some of us we have already had other just as (if not more) important milestones that we have reached. If I didn't think the wedding isn't important I wouldn't be doing it. I could find several other reasons to throw a party and not spend so much money!!

Maybe to some finishing high school/college wasn't that big of a deal but for others including myself it was a HUGE deal. Every accomplishment in my life has because I wanted it enough so when I finished it you know it was important to me. I didn't have the help or even family support. When I bought my first new car yep that's in the top because I did it. When I finished high school yep I did that too on my own and not under my parents roof. When I went on to college again just as important because I did that. Raising my girls on my own you know I'm proud and they are more important to me then anyone INCLUDING my FH.

You must not be Christian Miss Tattoo. For Christians, the day you marry your husband is the day you stop being two individuals and become one. You still have your own characteristics, but you live for each other and serve God as one.

And if it's not important and it's just another day it should be treated as one. I never said YOU said it's not important, just that anyone who doesn't think it's important must not understand the meaning of that day and should probably not get married. Many people get married and it's just a dress and a party to them. Those people should not get married. They should just buy a big dress and have a party.

I also stated I'm not talking about the party, but the commitment. If this commitment you are making is not one of the most important commitments you make, how serious are you really taking it? And by "you" I mean an abstract "you".

For me, yes. I think because it took us so long to find each other (I'm 47 and he's 37). I've had an awesome life so far and now, I'll have someone to share the rest of it with, and while I know we'll have some amazing moments, few will compare with saying my vows--basically announcing to the world that I have his back and he has mine -- and being able to call him husband.

I'm Buddhist. We keep our individuality.

I apologize I misunderstood. I understand that it's an important day, but it's just not the most important day. For us, we have already made that commitment. We have already decided that we were going to be a team for the rest of our lives. The wedding day, for us, is just confirming that to each other and everyone around us.

Sharron shut up! You are not 47!!!! if that's you in that photo, you look AMAZING!

My wedding day has definitely been the most important day of my life thus far. But I'll echo what Pumpkin said- not because of the white dress or the party, but because of what the day means.

I'm also sure that I'll consider the day I have a child just as important, as well as a few other milestones, but these are days that I won't rank.

Well I am a Christian, and yes when you say your vows you do become one before God. But that is not what Tattoo's post is about. As I said before even the day when my FH and I become one before God, it still will not be the MOST important day for me. The day I gave my life to Christ is, we all have different opinions on this and we are all entitle to them.

I would say that it's up there, but I don't know if it's number. To me, every day is the most important day of my life and it's my job to live each and every one to the fullest. Too many people don't get their chance to go forth in life due to ridiculous reasons.

@Miss Tattoo....awwww thanks! Yep, I am 47. Hard to believe. I just don't feel it (or act it as FH says) I told the FH that I was going to make people start guessing my age and then just tell them they're right no matter what they say. lol

And I understand the post--though not everyone seemed too--and that there wasn't any judgement or animosity in it. Perhaps a bit of frustration but I think we all get that when dealing with wedding planning and the frustration that tends to accompany it.

Go team!!

Aw, Merfy Lou that's such a great way to look at things.

Perfect Mefy

Merfy Lou- that's adorable. More people need to live like that (it's tough to do! good for you!)

I need a like button for you too Merfy, you said it all.