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June 2016

Is the bride being unreasonable?

Rosey, on June 3, 2016 at 11:08 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 73

I am the maid of honor in my high school best friend's wedding this weekend. she's always dreamed about having a perfect wedding so it's no shock that she has had specific wants/requests. She hasn't been appreciative for all the help her bridal party has been. She sends group messages to us bridesmaids with orders such as "make sure you're available all day the day before the wedding to set up the reception hall" and "drive me here, pick me up at this time." she scheduled the reheresal early in the morning but is demanding we return that evening to decorate the reception hall. I'm all for helping decorate the hall but to expect it seems unreasonable. She sent a group text to say We're going to eat pizza after but everyone is paying for their own. I am so offended that after all our help she can't show her appreciation with free pizza. She said it's because her fiancé's family is responsible for the rehearsal dinner so since they won't pay, we have to. Am I being unreasonable?

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Latest activity by Miss S., on June 14, 2016 at 7:12 PM
  • Punkin Beer
    Master October 2017
    Punkin Beer ·
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    She sounds like a total bitch. You aren't glitter slaves.

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  • Mrs. Sasswood
    Master October 2016
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    Do there happen to be cameras and a boom-mic following her around? Because I feel like I'm reading a synopsis of a Bridezillas episode.

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  • VC
    Master May 2017
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    You have every right to feel unappreciated.

    How you respond to this depends on how important it is to you. I mean if she is as close as a friend then you should be able to speak freely on her behaviour.

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  • Ashley
    Super September 2019
    Ashley ·
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    No your not unreasonable. She needs to thank you all for your help you didn't have to help with everything shes asking/ demanding. All you have to do is show up to the wedding in the dress she wants you to wear. She should be grateful that your helping do other.stuff. i feel like she should pay for the pizza you giving up your free time to help her out before the wedding.

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  • nautiwife
    VIP July 2016
    nautiwife ·
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    Wow...she is crazy, not you.


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  • S
    Master January 2017
    SnowQueen ·
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    That is insane...was she like this before the wedding? So crazy.

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  • Jen D.
    VIP May 2017
    Jen D. ·
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    Cover everything in glitter. When she gets upset "well, I mean, you know how glitter gets all over everything. And since we're clearly glitter covered slaves..."

    Ok don't really do this but damn

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  • Emily
    Master May 2014
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    She is completely out of line. Total bridezilla. I can't believe she won't even pay for pizza when you are decorating her reception hall! What a cheap ass.

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  • ShellyShoe
    Dedicated April 2017
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    Treat others how you want to be treated. She should be acting how she would want you to act. Sounds like she is really stressed. You are best friends wait till after her day and to tell her about her diva demands and hopefully you can both laugh about it. And she will treat you to pizza.

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  • Erin381
    Master September 2016
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    She seems pretty out of control.... are you getting married for real on Sunday?

    Honestly it's no one's job to pay for the RD except the bride and groom so she is confused. But that is fine. I would wait until after the wedding to tell her you were hurt. Don't make her crazy on the week before her wedding she seems high strung right now and you don't want to ruin your friendship over who pays for pizza

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  • mimitrue
    Master January 2016
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    Wow. Unappreciative is an understatement. I'm so sorry you have to deal with a bride like that.

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    Along10 ·
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    Wow. So sorry she is treating you this way. She's extremely disrespectful. I would address this after the wedding. Good luck this weekend!

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  • MrsBBR
    Super January 2017
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    Ew!! You have every right to be upset about her behavior toward you. Like PPs have said, you're not her slaves.

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  • Jay Farrell
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    I'd be telling that self important, entitled cow about herself.

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  • materantiqua
    VIP December 2016
    materantiqua ·
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    Ew. Run.

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  • JPB808
    Super August 2016
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    I'm sorry she's being like that to you and the other BMs.....totally disrespectful.

    Yes it's her day and her wedding but friend or not you just don't treat people like that. U have every right to feel the way you do.

    She should have said something like "finances parents are responsible for dinner however they are not going to be able to pay...so I was thinking pizza, but we'll have to chip in if that's okay with everyone?"

    That woulda been a lot better than "we're going to eat pizza after but you must pay for your own"

    Still snotty and totally bogus that you have to pay for your own dinner. But she could have at least come across a little better than being a total biatch about it.

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  • Natalie
    Master September 2016
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    That's pretty bad not gonna lie.

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  • MNA
    Master April 2018
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    That's a pretty bitchy, shitty thing to do. With friends like her, who needs psychopaths?

    Is she always a spoiled princess brat? The only responsibility of the bridal party is to get the clothing and show up. Period.

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  • Rashane
    Super January 2017
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    The bride is being more than unreasonable.

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  • Mrs.D
    Master July 2016
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    Yeah that's awful

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