Is the bride being unreasonable?

Just read this update: The best man paid for the DJ??????

Wow she sounds like a peach.

That is pure insanity. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. I can't believe the best man paid for the DJ.

She can't even buy you guys pizza after you've helped set up the rehearsal hall? That's completely rude!!

Geesh - EVERYTIME I've gotten together with my bridesmaids to do things for my wedding I've fed them, it's the LEAST you could do.

The bride sounds like trash. Good luck to the groom, lol. You deserve a better friend than that, Rosey! Your kindness and willingness to still try to make her wedding nice in spite of her best efforts to make it unpleasant will come back to you, I'm sure.

Wow this is very unfair of her. I think she is being unreasonable. 1) she should ask if anyone is willing to help and 2) if she is saying your getting pizza she should be paying

I don't think it's crazy. The only thing that sounds unreasonable is hey not paying for the pizza. Pizza is not expensive, so it's the least she could do to say thanks. But unlike many brides, I think bridesmaid are supposed to help out. Bridesmaids are there for support in the process, even if that means decorating.

$10 says her marriage doesn't last.

So sorry to hear about it, but remember karma ALWAYS comes back to bite you. She will get hers.

I would talk to her about it. She is absolutely selfish!

Can I just ask...Why does everyone keep mentioning the word "slave??" Asking your BP to do a bunch of unnecessary BS is absolutely annoying but doesn't even come close to being called a slave.

Its annoying and very ignorant.

I can't understand why WW prohibits the "F" word but folks can just throw around the word slave?!?!?!?!?

And the word "glitter" in front it doesn't soften up the word at all. Nice try though!

Mind blown!

So, it sound like the drinks from the cash bar cost more than the crappy fried chicken dinner from a fast food joint.

Guests see these things. They can tell the difference between a $600 David's Bridal gown and a $2500 gown. An award winning photographer carries him/herself differently than a photography student. The extravagant decorations are what the guests were pondering as they waited for their $6 Captain Morgans at the cash bar. This wedding was about her. Her photographs will reflect an entirely different wedding than her guests experienced. In her self-centered world, that's all that's important.

I will never understand how brides convince themselves that fast food is something that belongs on a buffet line. It belongs on the drive-thru line, and guests know it. For that alone, she deserved a value card and a ten spot. An honor attendant paid for the DJ? Lovely.

I'm glad you made it through the day. Now, delete her number from your phone.

Ashante -- Are you serious? You read that entire post and you believe the only thing the bride did wrong was to charge her attendants for pizza? Her behavior was childish and horrible, and if you don't see that...well, never mind.

I've thought about bringing it up to her but I don't even know if there's a point...I'm so hurt that I don't want to put anymore effort into this friendship. We used to be inseparable (during her single years) but once she met her fiance she was soon pregnant and had complications which led to her baby being born at 27 weeks. I visited her in the hospital and bought her a gift (with no thank you note) and after that we hardly talked...I chalked it up to her being busy handling a premie. I tried to contact her a few times but her phone number changed. Once she got started seriously planning the wedding she started texting more and I was excited our friendship was "reigniting." Now that I look back on it, we were only texting more because she wanted me in her wedding since she probably doesn't have many friends. Her own sisters wouldn't even come to her wedding but I just figured it was her sisters' fault for picking on her because she always claimed they were mean to her. I have no idea why I am sharing the whole story of our friendship, I guess because I am still hurt over losing a "friend", $275 and weekend I can't get back. She immediately uploaded a bunch of wedding pictures on social media but failed to "tag" me which added insult to injury. Like I mentioned before, part of me wants to confront her but we probably won't even talk much since she doesn't need anything from me anymore. I am kind of curious if she'll send me a thank you note for being in the wedding but I am not going to hold my breath.

Thanks for the update. I'm sorry you had to endure such a horrible evening.

But the best part is now its over, and you can move on with your life. I agree its sad that she's that way, and had treated you and your friendship with her very poorly. I'm sure you're rethinking your friendship with her, as I honestly would.

Noone should ever be treated the way that she treated you. And I will say that Karma is a beotch and will definitely come back around.

You're truly a great friend and maybe one day she'll realize what a great friend she lost because of how much of a witch she was acting.

Man, fuck her! Like, seriously!

Weddings bring out the best or worst of people. That old saying - when someone shows you who they truly are, believe them. I'm sorry you had such a bad time, but it sounds like you have your life together, and this person really isn't part your future success. Cut bait.