Is ok to propose without a ring??

Ian proposed to me on February 13, 2009, in my college dorm room, with a RING POP. Did that matter to me? No, it didn't. I didn't need a ring to know that he was serious or that he had thought about it because he'd gotten an aquamarine gemstone and told me that he was going to ask me an important question. I was getting impatient that night and looked at him and said "When are you going to ask me?" So he did it while we laid in my dorm room bed on Friday the 13th. As you can see, we're married now, and we're happy. We went to pick out my ring together and I love it. The proposal wasn't about a ring for us. It was about wanting to spend our lives together.

@Cris I was kinda the same way except I absolutely did not want to pick out my own ring. He showed me a bunch of pics and I told him what I liked and didn't like about each of them. But I know DH really likes unique jewelry and deep on the inside I was very afraid he would pick out something I wouldn't feel safe wearing alone in public lol. He told me he scaled back from what he originally had in mind.

I think Felisha's story is adorable! I just think that something tangible, whether it's a 5 carat diamond or a piece of candy, is what makes it "official". Most couples talk about marriage long before actually getting engaged. I think it's important to have the symbolto differentiate between just talking about it and actually making it happen. I'm a bit surprised at myself for this opinion, actually. I consider myself very non-traditional, but I guess deep-down I like the tradition.

@ ms. darling- thats a cute story! are they still together?

I didnt really want to pick out my own ring either. I had even gone to a store with my BFF and tried on rings and told her which ones I liked and which ones I didnt like so that if he asked her for help she would know my size and what I liked...lol but he didnt take that route.

sheeesh after 6 years Im just finally glad that I can officially call him my husband. We sometimes told people we were husband and wife and I really just cant wait to say it and it be true..love that man!

@mrs J did you know he wasnt serious because he didnt have a ring or was there something else tied to you feeling he wasnt serious

I think the ring is very much tradition but i gues i wonder why do we have to have a ring or "something to symbolize that we are "really" serious about getting married?? I mean you can have that ring but it wont stop him from cheating if he wants. Also just because you have the ring does that mean he is serious, have we not seen engagements get broken?? I would like to state THIS IS SOLELY MY OPINION NOT TO OFFEND ANYONE & THERE IS NO REAL REASON FOR THIS POST JUST TO PICK EACH OTHERS BRAIN

Lol @ Felisha that's cute. I think I would have been very tempted to eat the ring pop b/c i love candy so much lol!

Like Maybe a Mrs said, most people DO talk about marriage beforehand and we certainly discussed it a LOT lol. We were sitting in a restaurant one night and DH asked me "Can you really see yourself getting old with me?" and I said "Yes. So can I have my ring now?" lol. He took his straw wrapper and tied it around my finger and made a ring. I still have it in my jewelry box.

@Maybe a Mrs.- Thanks. I told him before that night that I didn't care if he proposed with a ring pop, I just wanted him to do it. Lol. He told me that if I had been more patient he was going to go to Build A Bear and have a bear in a tux with Ian's voice recorded to ask me to marry him. I like our way better. Not too many people can say they had that kinda of proposal.

@ladylee & felisha see i can get with those little things yes the ring is nice but sometimes its the smaller things that say hey i want you with me no matter what our situation is. Also for men because i have asked a few of them this question the response i got was they sometimes feel pressured to make sure their woman had a bigger & better ring because they knew all eyes were gonna be on the ring which sometimes lead to not asking at all because they couldnt afford it.

@Michelle - I knew he wasn't serious because there was no ring. Thats the kind of man he is(can't speak for anyone elses). I feel LadyLee's situation was different, her DH was in his process, but the important part IS the process. When you were a kid and had to read a book, you couldn't go to school and say "I read that." You had to turn in a book report or a paragraph. There needs to be an end result. It could have been a plain gold band or a string tied around my finger - but HE needed to think things through. My answer was the same from the first time he asked me to the last time he asked me and all the times in between. But he and we weren't serious until we got to that point. I don't think the ring changes the man (if hes a cheater he's still a cheater) but it does signify intention. We can talk about marriage all day long - but how do you know he's serious?

Lol @ Michelle yes i have seen some of my male friends buy "engagement" rings knowing full well they had no intentions of getting married. I call them "Shut the fck up rings". (I know. Such a lady. lol) My sister had gotten engaged about a year before me but they never set a date and eventually broke up. So when DH and I started discussing concrete plans, I was talking to my sister to see if they had discussed a date yet. And she says to me "Well where is your ring?" ummm where is your DATE?!

@mrsJ i love that response see you can tell the difference in wanting a "ring" & wanting something to show you that they are serious. I feel the same way it dosent have to be a diamond ring but show me something that will prove you are serious. My first marriage proposal was with out a ring but what he brought me was the application for a marriage license. Not because he couldnt afford a ring but because he wanted to do something diff. As for how do you know he is serious you dont you go with your heart( my first husband & i were married for 8 years have 5 beautiful daughters together & our marriage ended because he cheated & got another girl pregnant while i was pregnant with our youngest daughter, her child & mine are only 5 months apart)

Ouch!

I was proposed to without a ring because he could not afford it and he felt it was the perfect moment is to propose to me right before he left to deployment for seven months. When he got his deployment pay, I got my ring a month later :-). The ring is just the bonus to the proposal

@ladylee girl thats a whole diff post

My grandmother didn't get her diamond ring until their 25th wedding anniversary when they finally had the money for one. They were married for 56 years.

DH jokingly proposed the night we met and I jokingly accepted. He had an engagement ring when he proposed for real exactly a year later. DH has good taste, so I do like it.

@ LL- thanks! I did end up eating the ring pop. It was even my favorite flavor. The blue ones.

@Michelle , That's a good question buddy. Actually it is all are our individual thinking.

According to me If i was going to propose , i will surly find a good ring already. Because if for d one, who is going to be so special to me, if i am not even able to manage a good Ring. Than it means i am making her importance down dud.

She always interested to have a ring , which always represent the true spirit of love. If i am not even able to make her ambition fulfilled, than how can i say that i love her as much as.