Is ok to propose without a ring??

@brian lol...but true its just a piece of material

My opinion is that I would prefer to have a ring. My mom made the comment once that there's an underlying purpose for having a ring. Rings cost money . . . saving money takes time . . . therefore the time it takes him to save the money, he can think over his decision and not jump the gun. Also, I'd prefer the money to be saved and laid down at one time so we don't have a ring payment hanging over our heads. My FH did it this way, and I was very proud he did. Not that the ring has to be the nicest thing in the world, but something chosen within budget and meaning. I think it says a lot when someone goes through the trouble of saving, deciding and planning a proposal. That's my opinion.

**and with meaning

I would have been fine without one. I did get a temporary ring (not even CZ engagement) for the first 6 months and then got my ring for a Christmas present though. I don't think it makes a difference though.

@ianthe i can see your point so if he brought you a sterling silver CZ ring, would that be good enough? If he proposed without one would you have said no??

I had someone propose without one. I just thought it was tacky because, just as you are saying, I would have been happy with even a CZ. Something to show he put some effort forth, you know? It could have been a $50 with my initial in it, bought from a mall kiosk. I just think there's a lot of meaning behind the planning necessary to get the ring, even if it's not the shiniest thing in the world. Just give me SOMETHING, other wise it's just another one of our discussions. LOL!

@ianthe...lol thats well put i can def. see your point

The ring to me is proof of how commited the person is to proposing. It's not really about the perk of accepting jewelry, how big the diamond is, whether it's gold or platinum or titanium...those are just details...but if my FS had proposed without a ring, I have to admit, I'd be bummed because I would feel like he didn't try that hard because it's not as important as it should be to him. I don't know if that makes any sense. Even an inexpensive ring is better than no ring. Also..the thought of my man paying for a ring with his hard earned cash is very sexy to me cus it means he worked hard for a romantic purpose. And anytime I've ever seen someone propose without a ring, it turned into a break up.

There is something sexy about knowing he planned, saved and used his hard earned money on it. :o)

@Ianthe, I agree with you. I want to know thought was put into it. I don't need fireworks (although I did get them ), but I do want effort.

@mrs.turner2b it makes alot of sense...here is a question you guys just couldnt afford it & he wanted to propose right away would that make it ok

Very good points ladies... i think my thoughts may have been changed cause what you guys are saying makes alot of sense

If we couldn't afford it and he wanted to propose right away, it would send a big red flare into my dark night sky. :o)

I guess a proposal with no ring is like a wedding with no vows

It would suggest he is impulsive . . . and marriage is such a big decision that it would lead me to wonder about what other decisions he is or has been impulsive about. You know? I'd also wonder how those decisions have burned him/ worked out for him.

@ianthe yeah it could send a red flag

But what if he wanted a long engagement so he could get things together

I don't have my e-ring yet. But for us its also an outward symbol. We are in a committed realtionship and have been for over 4 years and that isn't changing because I wear a ring. He'll wear a symbol finally when we get married so why do I have to wear a ring for over 12 months and get comments on it from strangers and family that I don't want or need. We have talked about marrage since before our son was born. But for us the economics of real life come into play. I have two children from a previos marrage and we have our son together they take presidence when money is discussed so our rings sit at the jewlers on layaway. I might get my ring and the "offical" proposal around my b-day in december but it might ot be till feb.

There is no reason for these questions i am just picking your brains

@shdvl i totally understand that & it makes a lot of sense

Very good point brian & that could be impulsive as well based upon a situation in the relationship