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Is it selfish to not want someone to propose at your wedding?

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Sarah, on April 3, 2011 at 11:37 PM

My FHs best man and my little sister have fallen for each other and last year the best man made a random comment about how neat it would be if things moved along quickly and he was able to propose to my sister during his toast. I told my FH later that I did NOT want that happening since the day was mine and I didn't want to share the attention with my little sister. Then he acted like I was selfish and I did feel bad about it. Anyway, things have not moved along very fast with them so that is out of the question, but now FHs sister is in a serious relationship and we know that her guy is planning to propose this year. Once again I have the fear of him choosing to do it at our wedding. I know that the chances of this aren't strong, but I just had to ask. Is this selfish to want the day to be our special day and not share it? DOn't worry. I am not afraid for you to tell me that it is selfish if you honestly think so.

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rachael · on April 8, 2011 at 11:58 AM
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I'm in between I guess if they were already engaged or something and I announced it it would be ok but. last july my FH and I went to out friends wedding and during the toast one of our long time friends for them and us made a toast to them then added that we were getting married and that I am a way better person that his first marriage. lets just say we said we were so sorry and did not know he was going to do that and so sorry, like **** times. so yeah it would suck if some one else proposed but if I announced it I'd be fine. our first wedding date 04/30/2011 which got pushed back cus we realized it was FH's bro's b-day, and didn't want to cause trouble. we were going to announce that the day after was our matron of honor's 2 yr anniversary. Any who I would not be happy I think if some one did that... I felt so bad when our friend told the world at that other wedding...
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Ashley · on April 8, 2011 at 12:15 PM
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Carole, I don't think you're wierd. I think the right person doing it and of course letting you know in advance makes all the difference. If I had children, I would be ok with their engagement being on our wedding night.
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