Is it selfish to not want someone to propose at your wedding?

That would be SERIOUSLY uncool...

I am I the only one who would be happy that they did get engaged during my wedding, I would be very happy for them.

I'm with Fun bride; I think it would be cool to get to share in their joy when I certainly have more than enough to go around.

WTH, that would be HIGHLY inappropriate! I can't believe your FH thinks you're selfish, show him this thread! lol. The toast is honoring the couple, well plus the whole entire reception, to steal that thunder and make the celebration about you and your new fiance, now thaaat is selfish!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol if you can't tell I feel strongly about this :-P Maybe he could do it a few days before the wedding? even so..

I think I am with fun Bride and Ryan S. The main part of your wedding would be complete at the reception you would be in the celebration stage. I think the whole day would be a celebration of love and I would be extremely happy for the couple. I don't think during the toast would be appropriate but during the last dance or toward the end of the night would be fine IMO.

I would be very upset too... It's your day and theirs...

No, its not selfish. It reminds me of that "Friends" episode. I wouldn't want to share the day with anyone else either. If that makes me selfish, so be it.

Depending on who it was, if it was my MOH & her boyfriend I would be THRILLED that he proposed to her just because I have been hoping for it for a long time. I would be a little upset if it was anyone else just because it is supposed to be my day, however, if it was my MOH I would probably get up & Make an announcement, have everyone applaud then tell them to bring their attention back around lol

The same way your FH planned for him to propose and for the two of you to have your own special night and plan towards your wedding, then he should do the same. I'm not saying it has to be this magnificent proposal but to make it their own. Don't get me wrong, I'm always happy for when things happen for others but what if you were to turn this around on them? Everyone deserves a day for it to be just about them as a couple.

Not at all.... Very tacky!

I'd be irrate if someone proposed at my wedding!!! That is just not cool and soooo disrespectful. That is where I would turn into a bridezilla! You are not being selfish in the least. This is YOUR day! You get to do it one time and one time only. They have 364 other days to pick from for a proposal.

Not this least bit selfish. Its a special day for you and FH.

Not selfish! Make sure someone else (another man) tells him that isn't the place. I heard of a real life situation the other day where a guy proposed at a wedding (she said yes). People just are clueless so make sure they know it's not a "selfish" thing, it's a respect issue.

Not only are you NOT being selfish to feel this way, but it seems like that kind of proposal wouldn't do his potential fiancee much justice either. He needs to consider how SHE would feel being proposed to at a wedding full of YOUR family and friends. I hope he would be able to come up with something more personal and intimate for themselves. What a forgettable proposal that would be: "Here's a toast, and will you marry me???"

WHAT???? That is SELFISH!!!! DO NOT let them do that at YOUR wedding! How can they even consider doing that? Its your big day! Dont feel bad about not letting them do that. Ok, let me reprase that, it is selfish, selfish on their part!

For some people it would be special, for some it wouldn't. I think it depends on the person. FS has cousins that are brother/sister. The sister was getting married, and the brother asked the sister for her permission and she loved the idea, mainly because she and her brother were really close, and she LOVED the girl he was proposing to. At the time I remember thinking "Hm, I wouldn't want something like that to take away from my big day!" But the siblings had planned it and were totally okay with it. So, to each their own.

For the record, it was towards the end of the night when people were dancing. And he asked for the mic and asked for everyone's attention and did it then. So, everyone gave them their congrats later as they left. But at the time the bride and groom had done all the toasts, cake cutting, dancing, etc. So it didn't take away from those moments.

I don't think you're being selfish. But hopefully your FSIL's BF will be smart enough to know it's not acceptable. Plus not only will it take away from your day, it would take away from her moment since all attention is on the bridal couple. Just put it out of your mind and don't stress on it hun. There is already so much stress in wedding planning.. You don't need any more.

Um, yeah- no, far from selfish! You have spent months (if not years) of your life planning that day. Your best man is supposed to be giving a toast to celebrate YOUR relationship- not his own.

I'd grab the damn mic out his hand and beat him senseless with it!

It's pretty selfish of him to even consider doing it at your wedding- without asking anyway.

That is your special day, and shouldn't be overshadowed by someone else's special event.

You're not selfish ONE bit by not wanting that to happen on your day!

I think girls are much more aware of others' feelings concerning proposals and all, so it's possible that your sis asked her guy not to do what was said before. Some guys are totally "with it" when it comes to the importance of proposals, but I remember I had to have a serious convo. with my FH and tell him what would make me uncomfortable in a proposal situation (in front of family, at a sporting event, at someone else's birthday/wedding/other event, etc.).

I'll keep my fingers tightly crossed that he uses his head and doesn't do that on your wedding day and chooses a more special/meaningful moment to propose to your little sister.

It is soooo not selfish of you! Heck I would be highly annoyed if someone decided to do that at my wedding. It is a day when all eyes and attention should be on you! I totally understand where you are coming from. I can see why you would think that it may come off as selfish............BUT trust me IT'S NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!