Is it rude to split a couple at a wedding?

It's super rude and I wouldn't attend. I don't make small talk well, I'm not a joiner.

My bridal party are sitting with their SO and families. It's the polite and thoughtful thing to do.

Oh brother! SO has a role. You do not. Deal with it. Go. Enjoy yourself. Make new friends. Strangers are only people you haven't met.

I don't think they are being rude. Every wedding I've attended has been like that. Bus pretty standard that the wedding party sits with the bride and groom during dinner. Usually the bridal party's dates are sat together for the reception.

I think it is rude- and I love meeting new people and mingling. But a wedding reception is not the best place for that, and I would be uncomfortable. But I don't think it is a big enough thing to get upset over. Side eye them, maybe ask you SO if he can ask to sit with you instead of at the head table. There is no reason why he needs to be on display as well as the bride and groom.

Every wedding I have attended splits bridal party and SO's up. We did this as well. Everyone is an adult and there was never a problem. Besides after dinner everyone was mingling.

For those people who say adults can eat without their SOs, yes they can but why should they? I don't think the OP should be in the bridal party if that's not what the couple wants but she already stated she doesn't know anyone at the wedding. Why put your guests in an awkward position? It *is* rude to split up couples, especially at an event which is a celebration of your own coupledom.

I would feel super uncomfortable sitting at a table with no one I know. I'm an introvert though, and this would really mess up my evening

I'd be irked but I'd get over it.

Head tables and splitting up couples is rude AF. You would never split up a couple any other time, so why would you think it's okay to do it for your wedding? Sorry, no way is that acceptable.

That's super rude! This is why we did a sweetheart table. The whole ceremony was about us. I wanted my BP to relax during the reception so I put them with their SO.

Also why tf is he MCing the reception?! Isn't that what a DJ is for??

They're asking him to work the wedding and you to sit alone?

Screw it. They need to hire a DJ, an Officiant (if that's what they asked him to do) and make provisions for their bridal party to sit with their partners.

This also happened to me at a wedding. I was all alone at a table full of strangers so I made the best of it will small talk. And when they opened up the dance floor I enjoyed the remainder of the night with my SO.

Head tables are incredibly rude. You should both turn down the invitation.

Splitting for dinner is rude. My FBIL made my FH a groomsman and it was incredibly awkward for me to be alone during the ceremony, but thank goodness they had him sitting with me for dinner so it was okay. If they didn't I would have been furious.

First OP I am sorry this is even something you are having to deal with, and two I don't think you are overreacting. I NEVER agree when someone tells someone else they are overreacting or get over it. You are NOT that person and that individual is ENTITLED to THEIR feelings and how THEY handle THEIR situation. That's like asking someone who is crying on a part of a movie that you aren't, why they are crying. Obviously we are all different human beings and process feelings and situations differently.

That being said OP, I don't think not sitting with your SO during the ceremony is an issue, (they are fairly short anyway) but I think it sucks that they have not seated your SO with you for the dinner, I know the feeling of not sitting with your loved one at an event and not knowing A SINGLE OTHER PERSON. It does suck, I am all for the sweetheart table, so that all my guest can sit with their SO. I can also see why they did choose a head table, as some people are old fashioned, or may like the look of it or what have you. That being said you have your options on what you want to do. You can voice your opinion and see what comes of it, or not go, either way it is YOUR DECISION.

For those who are telling her to get over it and be an adult ect THAT IS RUDE. She obviously is bothered by it and she is allowed to be. Her sharing her hurt doesn't make her any less of an adult than you. Yes strangers are people you have not met yet, however not everyone has that "social butterfly" trait that others do. what may seem like a great opportunity to make new friends to you, may seem like a nightmare to someone else, especially at a wedding. I think we should really choose our words carefully when replying to someone's post.

I had a sweetheart table and my wedding party sat with their SOs. I asked first and everyone preferred sitting with their spouse. I don't think it's necessarily rude but inconsiderate

It is rude to split up couples especially when the newly married couple is spending about 5-10 minutes sitting down and the rest of the time greeting tables. (leaving the wedding party to sit by themselves at the head table) And the people for it are saying, they'll get through it or they'll survive. I guess I just wanted to set a higher standard for my own wedding. I actually wanted my guests to enjoy themselves and not just "get through it"

It's incredibly rude to split significant others up during dinner.

I don't know if I'd necessarily say it's rude or improper, but I can see why your feel a bit upset about not getting to sit with him at dinner. (Asking to be in the wedding party, however, you're not automatically in just cause your SO is).

I attended a wedding last year where my FH was the BM and sat at the head table with the wedding party. I literally didn't know anyone outside of the couple and my FH but I made friends with some of the other SOs of the wedding party and the couple's families and had a freaking blast. Outside of the reception dinner I was invited to join in on a lot of the stuff with the wedding party and felt overall very included. Truth be told, this was probably the best wedding I've ever been to.

It's all about how you perceive things I guess. If you go into this having a bad attitude and thinking the couple and your FH are bring hurtful then youll probably have a shitty time. I'd ask your friends to see if they can introduce you to other guests so you can make some friends while you're there.

I didn't sit by my husband when he was in a wedding. I sat with his parents for the ceremony and dinner. His friend did the same for our wedding. One of my bridesmaids didn't bring her boyfriend because he wouldn't have anyone to sit with. In my area, head tables are common and the bridal party's guests sit with other guests and not at the head table.