Is it rude to include only certain members of the wedding party at the King’s Table?

I don't think it is rude to pick and choose who from the bridal party are at the head table so long as the choice has been made with the best interests of the bridal party at heart. For example, if you know that your cousin and her husband would likely prefer to sit with others at another table, that is totally fine to have them at that other table, unless of course they are the only ones from the bridal party not to be on the head table as that may possibly raise eyebrows.

I agree with mrsw. I also think it depends on if they are doing speeches or are expected to come in with you/be announced. Having them sit elsewhere might look odd, especially if they have to get up and trek across to the bridal table to give their speech or whatnot.

Could you just forgo the king’s table and do a sweetheart table? I’ll be honest, I’ve never actually seen a king’s/head table at any wedding I’ve ever attended…it’s always been a sweetheart table. Then, you can make tables that make sense for sitting your party/other guests. It would probably be less of a headache than trying to make a king’s table work for just part of your party. (You also may not hear any of their thoughts, but your party members may feel put out if they’re not “chosen” to sit at the king’s table, even if you’re doing it for the right reasons (like seating them with family/the other couple.))

Honestly in that situation it does come across as picking favorites. No one will say anything because they are polite but they will definitely feel lesser than and hurt by the decisions. Skip the head table, have a sweet heart table for you and fiancé and seat everyone else among the guests.

If someone is prepared to give toasts (they should not go into speech length which is longer than 3 minutes) they can use a portable microphone from their table and don’t need to stand in a spotlight location unless they want to. Your dj is an expert at these and can work out the logistics with everyone involved.

I would either do all or none.
If your concern is getting the other tables perfectly matched it won’t happen for all of them. You may have to split some groups or put multiple groups together and everyone will make it work.
If your concern is having your bridal party sit with people they prefer then do the sweetheart table and have them sit with their groups. I wouldn’t pick and choose.

I would think it was weird if I attended a wedding and half the bridal party was sat at the bridal party table and some others’ weren’t, so I imagine as a wedding party member I would also feel weird about it …I appreciate the idea of having some people sit where they’re a better match, in fact, it’d be my preference to sit that way, but if others were on the head table, suddenly I’d feel a little less-than. The head table is basically like being on a pedestal. Personally I’d skip it here.


For what it’s worth, couples spend so much time figuring out where they should sit, and…my husband and I probably spent maybe 10 minutes total with our butts in our own actual seats. Aside from eating, we were up and mingling the whole night. For that reason I’m glad we had a sweetheart table so I didn’t have to feel like I was neglecting any table mates by being on the move !

My husband and I did a sweetheart table just to make it easier. And I definitely suggest going with this idea if it creates too much stress or confusion lol.

From previous weddings this is what I noticed:
-Bride, Groom, Parents
-Bride, Groom, Parents, Best Man, Maid of Honor
-Bride, Groom, Best Man, Maid of Honor