FutureMrsAF
Super August 2017

Is it rude to have a small cake that doesn't feed everyone?

FutureMrsAF, on February 3, 2017 at 1:28 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 69
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Should probably explain that. We WILL have cupcakes and/or macarons as well for everyone. But we are considering just a very small cake for the cutting, is that okay or should I definitely plan on getting a cake that serves all guests?

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  • SleepytheDwarf
    Master June 2017
    SleepytheDwarf ·
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    I think a cutting cake with cupcakes is fine, as long as there are more than enough cupcakes to go around.

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  • Lillian
    Devoted November 2017
    Lillian ·
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    We are getting a decorative small cake for cutting and donuts, cookies, sheet cake from Publix to feed everyone else.

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  • Amy
    Devoted October 2017
    Amy ·
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    That's what we are doing. Found it fit our budget better to have a small cutting cake and cupcakes for the guests. Also we factored in that many people on both sides of the family are not big cake eaters so we wanted to make sure everyone had something they liked.

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  • AMW
    Master September 2016
    AMW ·
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    I've been to weddings like this. It isn't rude, exactly, but I really hate it. As a guest I feel like the couple gets a cake because they want to cut it, but they cheap out on crappy cupcakes for guests.

    I've never had a good cupcake at a wedding so to me it just screams "we're cheap!" --- but I know that's not usually the reason people do it. If that makes sense.

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  • TimeLadyErika
    Master May 2017
    TimeLadyErika ·
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    As long as I get some damn cake of some kind.

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  • Lucy
    Dedicated August 2017
    Lucy ·
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    We are getting a smaller decorative cake for cutting that will only serve around 50 people, but getting a bunch of 8 inch round cakes to serve the rest of the guests. it's less expensive than doing a big cake that will serve 150 people, but everyone still gets cake!

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  • Jennifer
    Expert October 2017
    Jennifer ·
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    We are gonna be doing a cake cutting with a smaller cake and have a sheet cake back-up. The guests won't know because after the cake cutting, they'll take it into the kitchen to plate the slices then hand them out.

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  • futuremrsP
    Super April 2017
    futuremrsP ·
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    You're fine as long as there are cupcakes for everyone. I know macarons are trendy but I personally strongly dislike them and I think that if that was the only dessert choice for guests it would come of as cheap.

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  • Celia Milton
    April 2020
    Celia Milton ·
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    Personally, I hate it too. The concept of a cake is that everyone shares dessert with the couple. I'm also over cupcakes. It was cutting edge like six years ago...

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  • melanie
    Master August 2017
    melanie ·
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    As long as I get cake whether it's a slice or cupcake than I don't care either way

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  • FutureMrsQ2017
    VIP October 2017
    FutureMrsQ2017 ·
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    As long as there is enough desserts/cupcakes for everyone, I am sure you are fine!

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  • Rachel DellaPorte
    April 2020
    Rachel DellaPorte ·
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    I prefer the pretty wedding cakes that are shared with everyone, but I'm not willing to take a stand for wedding cake only. As long as the food, drink, and entertainment were good, everything else is a plus.

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    As long as there is enough dessert for everyone and everyone has the same choices, a cutting cake is totally fine!

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  • Meghan
    Savvy September 2017
    Meghan ·
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    We will be doing a small cake for just the two of us. One reason is the price of wedding cakes is absurd and we will also be having an Italian Dessert station for our guests as well as a chocolate and wine pairing station.

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  • Holly
    Master February 2017
    Holly ·
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    I'm always pro any kind of cake as long as it's good. I had a friend make the cupcakes for her wedding, she had to do it days ahead of time and by the time we ate them they were super dry and bland. So definitely still have a pro doing the work!

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  • Jay Farrell
    April 2020
    Jay Farrell ·
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    Yes, it is. Bigger cake please.

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  • AAK
    VIP September 2017
    AAK ·
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    Right now we are considering doing a cutting cake and then having donut muffins but we may just do donut muffins overall and throwing out the cake altogether because man oh man are they good.

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  • Mariah
    VIP April 2017
    Mariah ·
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    I would say if you do it like this then make sure it's a small cake for just the two of you and then cupcakes for the rest. The last wedding I went to they had a smaller cake that was very beautiful and elaborate for cutting with filling and fruit and top, and then cupcakes for the guests. However, they cut the rest of the smaller cake too so some guests got huge pieces of this really nice cake with filling and fruit, and the rest got just really small plain cupcakes.

    ETA: also, I wouldn't really side eye someone for having cupcakes for everyone else, but it is pretty disappointing compared to cake.

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  • AMW
    Master September 2016
    AMW ·
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    @Leah Cupcakes in general are never as good as cake. I've had good cupcakes before but I would take cake 10/10 times lol. If you're not going to serve cake at a wedding then just do something more interesting like fudge or creme brulee....yuuuum. Like Celia said, the point is to share dessert with the couple. If the couple wants their pretty princess cake cutting shot but won't share that with guests because the cost---well it's just plain weird. But---not like I realllllly care, this is just what I think silently at every wedding that has cupcakes, I'm just telling OP because she asked Smiley smile

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  • Jay Farrell
    April 2020
    Jay Farrell ·
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    The problem with cupcakes is they're messy, cake is a knife and fork food, people have nice clothes and aren't as appreciative of anything potentially messy.

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