Is it okay to not have an open bar?

People on here call everything rude and tacky. I nominate them both for the most overused words of 2014 list! If you post a thread asking for opinions, be prepared for it.

Look what I started! Lmao

Thank you all for your responses! :-) :-)

Geez......you asked if it was okay. If YOU think it's okay, then do it, but the fact that your guests don't complain about it doesn't make it okay. It just makes them polite guests. Each guest travels, (from near or far), buys new clothes (probably), has to get childcare or pet sitters, brings a gift. They should get a glass of wine.

Most of the venues here would never even allow a cash bar.

I always prefer an open bar to favors.

How about you do beer and wine only for open bar? It's less expensive and you can at least host your guests properly. NEVER a cash bar. EVER. Do you charge friends for drinks when they come to your home for dinner?

We are doing a cash bar, and put that right on the RSVP card under menu choices! No surprises there.

We are doing a cash bar, and put that right on the RSVP card under menu choices! No surprises there.

It's fine to have a dry wedding, an open bar, beer/wine only, but never should a guest have to pay for anything at your wedding. The reception is to thank your guests for attending your wedding.

I personally don't care. I'm in Houston and I've seen both. But if it is a cash bar, please consider the following:

1) You tell people in advance

2) They accept debit/credit cards

3) They have good choices. I went to a cash bar where the only white wine was moscato. That made me sad.

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EricaTX, I totally agree with #3. Open bars are great and all, but if the best beer you got is Heineken, I will be sad and will bitch about it lol.

I still think a serve yourself beer and wine bar is the cheapest route! But I have to agree with August... Heineken is NASTY!

My partner and I are having our wedding at his brother's bar. His brother is shutting the bar down and donating 2 tickets to each guest. We have a pretty small budget. I have found only my female friends are offended by this.
My thoughts are-
*Everyone knows we have a small budget. *If you need more than two drinks for a 3 hr wedding you pay.*If having to buy your own drinks is so detrimental, don't come. With the invitation i added two drink tickets and a details page stating we dont want gifts and are covering dinner and champagne for a toast. It blows my mind that the guests, Expect this to be a thing they are owed at a wedding.