Is it ok to ask friends who live really far away to be BMs?

There is no requirement of your bridesmaids, except to basically attend the wedding. I'd reach out to your best friends that are not local and ask if they think they'd be able to come, as you'd love for them to be bridesmaids so it's not pressuring them. They most likely won't be able to attend/host pre-wedding festivities, are you fine with that? If the answer is no, just have your sister.

Sure, its worth asking! Worst she can say is no!

If she can attend, yes ask her. My MOH lives in CA and I live in WY, she would've come no matter what, her being an MOH just made it more worth it for her.

Bridesmaids are supposed to get a dress and stand up there with you. Nothing else. Given that, it is perfectly acceptable to have your bridesmaids spread out. You should pick the people you are close to!

On the flip side you need to make sure she can come. Asking someone to be in the wedding JUST to make sure they come is not ok, which is why we added GMs later because someone he wanted to be in it wasn't sure they could come.

Of Course! If you want them in your wedding ask them! My MOH live 9 hours away but I couldn't imagine anyone else standing by my side!

My wedding is in Ohio and I have BMs from Ohio, Kentucky, and Georgia. I think if it too much for her she will decline the invite. In the end it is an honor to be a BM for a friend, so at least give her the chance for that honor.

All 3 of my bridesmaids live on the other side of the country from me. I told them all (as they have to fly here for the wedding) that I understood if they couldn't make that commitment, but it would mean a lot to me for them to be standing by my side.

I am in Michigan and I have a bridesmaid who lives in Massachusetts. Just let them know that there is no pressure if traveling will be too expensive for them!

My MOH lives in Vegas, I live in NH. Distance hasn't come between our friendship.

I can't think of a single reason why that wouldn't be OK.

You can totally ask them. All my BMs and my MOH were out of state (all between 10-15 hours of driving away). 3 out of the 4 flew to the wedding and the other drove because she had her 4 month old. They all wanted to help with planning but I told them that I just wanted them here that day (as that's what was important to me). They ended up all deciding to come a few days earlier (my MOH/sister, a week earlier) to help with any last minute things.

We made a Facebook group and a group text, to talk about wedding (as they wanted to be kept updated) and non-wedding things.

Let them know in advance, but 3 of my BMs are out of state and 3 of FHs GMs are out of state as well!! As long as they have advanced notice, and if you ask them if they'll be able to travel before asking them to be in the wedding (so it's not like you're pressuring them) then you're fine!

I live in Alaska and I asked my best friend from Australia to be a BM, she was very happy to! I would have totally understood if she couldn't because its a big expensive trip, but no harm seeing if they can.

My cousin Ostrich already answered above (first comment) with pretty much what I'd say too!

I have a MOH and two BM's. I live in PA and they live in MD, NJ and NY, so the closest one is 1.5 hrs away from me.

Going into this I knew I wouldn't be asking them too many questions about planning and we wouldn't be going to dress shops to look at BM dresses. the one in MD (also FH's sister) will be holding a bridal shower for me and the other two are invited but if they don't come I won't be mad at them. basically all I ask of them is to show up that day and look good doing it. you need to be ok with that. they are still only a phone call or text away if you're having a bad day or need advice.

Of course it's OK! Just make sure they know that their only expectation is to get there by the rehearsal with their dress, and be really understanding if they say no now, or even when it gets closer. I was at a wedding over the weekend where one of the groomsmen dropped out 2 weeks before because he lived on the other side of the US and finally realized that no matter how hard he tried, he wouldn't make it.

It's absolutely alright to ask them if they would like to be a BM, but don't expect or pressure them to say yes since it will be a commitment to travel to the wedding.

5 of my 7 BMs are out of state. I see no reason why not to ask them if they are who you want.

Honestly, I'd ask them! My wedding is in Michigan, and I have bridesmaids coming from Arizona, Tennessee, Illinois, and (possibly) Germany if she moves before my wedding!

I'm in a wedding in April 2017 in North Carolina, and I have no problem traveling!

All my BMs live out of state from me and the wedding. I still asked. But I asked ppl who would be there regardless, even if they weren't BMs. I understand your concern bc an oot BM has more responsibility than just show up in a dress, they also have to pay for travel and hotel. This is why I paid for my BMs hotel, dresses, hair and makeup. So their only expense was getting there.

I've a bm from Ireland, Virginia and California - we live in Florida . I'm not expecting anything other them to be here in a dress they pick within colour and length Id like , I just asked them were they ok with travelling when I asked them to be in bridal party