Is it ok to ask friends who live really far away to be BMs?

My BFF is coming from Sweden on Friday to be in my wedding!! We haven't seen each other in 7 years. I'm so excited i could explode. So yes, you should ask the women who mean the most to you regardless of distance. I would just make sure to let her know there's no pressure and keep reminding yourself to not take it personally if she can't come. I also bought her dress and she's staying with. I want to keep her costs down as much as possible. Also, flights from Sweden to here are unusually cheap right now. might be the same with UK

Almost all of my bridesmaids live out of state.

I agree! You should def ask!!!

I've said yes to being a BM when I lived across the country from the bride. All of my BMs live scattered across the country and all have agreed to be my BMs.

I am in Texas and I have a bridesmaid in Nebraska, one in Illinois, one in Massachusetts, and one in Scotland.

It doesn't really matter.

Of course it's ok to ask them! Just know that it may be more expensive for them to attend.

My wedding was in Massachusetts and I had BMs in Vermont, Georgia, Idaho and the Czech Republic.

You can definitely ask them. However, you may want to consider just specifying a color and length of dress, instead of trying to get them all into matching dresses. That way, you don't have to find bridal salons with international stores.

I live in Arizona, and my MOH lives in Maryland, bridesmaids live in California and Illinois. They are the people I'm closest with and I couldn't imagine choosing anyone else.

Of course it is fine! Two of my BMs live across the country from me.

Absolutely OKAY!! I was in Atlanta, 1 BM was in DC, 1 in Toronto and 3 in LA area . Just be prepared for the one oversees to say she isn't able to make it to your wedding. It is a HUGE expense to fly oversees as well as time off... that some people may just not have-even if they do still care about you.

So, please tell her you would be okay if she said no.

As far as BM dresses go, we decided through group email. David's Bridal is great for OOT BM's since they're all over.

Absolutely OKAY!! I was in Atlanta, 1 BM was in DC, 1 in Toronto and 3 in LA area . Just be prepared for the one oversees to say she isn't able to make it to your wedding. It is a HUGE expense to fly oversees as well as time off... that some people may just not have-even if they do still care about you.

So, please tell her you would be okay if she said no.

As far as BM dresses go, we decided through group email. David's Bridal is great for OOT BM's since they're all over.

Only 1 of 6 of my BM's lived in my state!

You just need to have realistic expectations. I'm extremely laid back, and didn't have a lot of the traditional trappings of wedding planning/events, so really all my girls had to do was wear the dress (that they all picked out!) and come to the event. A few days before the wedding, we went to the spa and just spent a few days hanging out. It was perfect.

Nothing wrong with it, just don't expect them to fly in for every event you have.

For example, my "bachelorette" was thrown by a few of my local girlfriends. It was still perfect to me. Of course I wish a few of the BM's had been there,but that's ok!

My wedding is in VA, where i live. 2/8 of my bridesmaids live in MA and one lives in Ohio. The best man lives in Seattle and the other 7 GMs live in MA. Its fine to ask them, but have no expectations other than buy the dress and show up

It really depends on what you want/expect your BMs to do-- if you'll be happy that they just show up and stand with you, then distance should be no problem. If you really want them to go shopping, plan and attend your shower and your bachelorette, make favors, etc., then you should pick someone else. My MOH was from NY (I live in CA). She flew in the day before, made it to the rehearsal and dinner, came to the wedding, then flew out the next day. I was just glad to have her there.

My MOH goes to school in GA. I live in NJ. Distance doesn't matter at all! I still call her and complain about wedding stuff just like I would if she was here. Lol. If they're close to you, it'll still all work out. As people before said though, you just have to be okay that they won't be there for any of the pre-marriage parties.

Do it! Every single one of my bridesmaids live in a different state, none of which being the one I live.

It's fine to ask. I would ask them to please be honest with you in their response. That you understand that it is a lot of travel. But when you considered your wedding day, you wanted to have them stand with you.

I have 5 bridesmaids. One is my sister, 2 are fsil & my other two both are long distance. One just by a 3 hour drive, the other lives across country. Couldn't imagine doing it without those girls & they would be hurt if I didn't have them up there just bc of distance.

I have four bridesmaids. One is currently in New Zealand and the other is in S.C. So it's a struggle but seriously love them to death and want them to be a big part of my day. Just make sure they know that there isn't any pressure to be all that involved due to the distance.