Is anyone else having this issue with their bridesmaid/maid of honor??

That's terrible! i don't understand people like that. i really don't have any advice except to lay down the law with her. Pick her dress, hair, and makeup for her, and tell her tough sh*t if she protests. Just tell her, "so you want to wear a long white dress, with a veil, and wear the same hair and make-up as me? on my wedding?". Maybe if you're blunt with her she'll realize how crazy she's being.

I'm not having any issues like that, and normally I'd say to let the BMs wear hair/makeup however they feel comfortable, but it's pretty odd she wants the exact same style as you. The long ivory dress and baby birdcage veil requests feel odd to me as well. How good of a friend is this gal? Can you have a talk with her about how you want her to feel comfortable and happy, but that you don't want guests seeing double? I think that's what I would do.

Sounds like she is jealous of brides in general. I wouldn't pay any attn to the makeup but the exact same hair and a long white dress and a veil is insane. Tell her no and move on. Don't waste your energy with drama if you can avoid it

The white dress and veil is strange.

The make-up… eh. I know my face, my colors, my style and I wouldn't want someone telling me how to wear my make-up. Same with hair. But I didn't dictate my girls' hair and make-up.

No. And if I did, I would ask her to step down.

If you're paying for her make up I wouldn't see why she just doesn't comply. I would understand if it was something she was just not comfortable wearing, but that doesn't seem to be the case and wear a birdcage veil, and a long white dress! Wow!! Usually, jealousy is the total opposite, but she sounds like she's a serious case of jealousy! I mean, does she not get that the bride, most of the time would like to look different then her Bms. I would just be flat out with her and ask her if she is joking, acting that way for a certain reason, or is there ANY issue she has that needs to be resolved as soon as possible. Weddings bring out the worst in people and I think you should talk to her about it. She is your MOH, so Im assuming you two are really close and you don't want your wedding to ruin that friendship. So, just be honest with her about how she's making you feel. It's only fair, as she seems to be extremely honest by telling you how she wants to look that day when you already asked her to have a certain look. Good Luck and I hope she realizes she sounds a little crazy and you can get back to being friends and happily planning your wedding

What the? The white dress and veil is crazy! Hell no sister.

Not okay. Your wedding, not hers. As maid of honor she should be the MOST understanding and accommodating of your wishes, not stressing you out more

I love this girl to death I really do but, I know she has issues about when the attention isn't on her. I have subtly talked with her but its like she brushes it off.

Wtf?!

you seem pretty spot on as a bride. you've given guidelines, not rules, that fit in with your wedding idea. it's your wedding and you're paying for a lot of it, you get veto power, for sure.

she gets to pick her dress from your colors instead of "here, wear this cotton candy pink, poofy dress"

you gave them a makeup and hair guideline, half up but they can choose? and more neutral makeup than you? as long as you give them a bit of wiggle room on exactly how the makeup is (different faces take makeup differently) you're fine. she's crazy. has she ever been a bm before? the veil thing would've made me snap hahaha

Here it is dear. Drop this woman from your BP. This is a friendship that will end after the wedding. Warning bells are ringing too loudly for you to ignore. Invite her as a normal guest, and don't tell her anymore details. This woman has a problem, and you're taking a big risk having her as your MOH. Tough talking ahead but you have to lock it down now. Good luck ok

All I can say is OMG-she is not the Bride!

I am not having any issues with my bridesmaids but OMG when I read your post. When I read up to the white dress part, I thought this couldn't get any worse...I was wrong. The makeup thing wouldn't bother me as much, the same hairstyle would bug me and hell no to the white dress and veil. Good luck on all this.

NO I'm not having this problem because this girl is out of line. I don't think you're asking anything unreasonable. Since you're paying for their makeup, I think it's ok to specify a look like you did. (You didn't say, "You have to wear Mac Pout and these exact shadows," you gave an idea that can work for all of them.) The dress, hair, and mini-veil put it over the edge . . . I'm with Sara, tell her just like that. Did she not get to have a wedding and is borrowing your day or is she 13 years old? I wouldn't fault you for asking her to just attend as a guest if she won't stop. At least then if she shows up in a long white dress with a veil and your hairstyle, it will be clear she's being rude.

She needs to stop that's crazy!! I have a demanding BM but none of these requests. I'd snap her back to reality and inform her she's not the bride and if she still acts this way I'd ask her to step down.

The veil is just insane lol. Makeup, I would let go since I would be o_O about someone dictating my makeup. But yeah, this is a bit much. At least she's asking you! What does she say when you say no?

I can see her wanting to do her makeup different. What looks good on one person may not look good on another. But it's strange that she wants to wear a veil.

That is very odd behavior. I say you have a serious talk with her. Shes NOT a bride. No white dress, no bird cage vail, no makeup or hairstyle that's simiar to you. No way no how! End of story. Lol Good luck and keep us posted.

I was MOH in a wedding and the bride had another BM would was mad salty about not being MOH and did everything to try to stand out. She refused to pick one of the 6 options and then tried to get the bride to let her wear a cream colored dress from a different brand entirely, the just had to put her foot down whenever she tried something wacky and eventually she is calmed down.

OMG she can't be serious. Sounds like you need to tell her like it is. You're the bride, not her. You will select what she's going to wear and she doesn't like it, she needs to be removed from the wedding.