Is anyone else having this issue with their bridesmaid/maid of honor??

She needs a reality check. I would sit her down and just be blunt. "do you realize that you want to look exactly like me etc" and see what she says. She just may not realize she is trying to be exactly like the bride.

Sorry to hear that you are going through this but I feel you need to explain to her that it's your day and if she wants to participate then she needs to get with the program because she is being plain selfish!!!

Wow. This has all of the makings for a Lifetime TV movie. LOL I'd drop her from my BP, especially after you've already talked with her on numerous occasions. But seriously, that's creepy.

When I began to read this, I was like, oh goodness. Here is another bride freaking out over nothing. But then you mentioned that she wants to wear a long white dress and wear a birdcage veil. I am very confused. Why would ANYONE think that is acceptable?! Just tell her that she cannot look like a bride on your wedding day. Only the bride wear white (or ivory, or cream, whatever) and only the bridal wears a veil. She's your MOH, so you are close enough with her to tell her straight up that was out of line.

Her behavior is bizzarre but talk to her or just be very straightforward - not suble or wishy washy- about the selected dress, and no veils. Please don't just dump her from the BP. She's your MOH so obviously you two are close. One day is not worth losing an entire friendship over. These women who would automatically "ask her to step down" are controlling and insensitive. It can be worked out.

...please tell me you said no to all that! she better not be wearing a long white dress. this is not beyonces wedding (sorry to anyone that liked her bridesmaids in white). its your day.

That is really odd. I would just talk to her, she probably doesn't know she sounds rather crazy. I am with Emily on this at the responses of "drop her now" are a really over the top, don't do that.

You can't be subtle any more, you have to be blunt with her. (you can be blunt without being mean). I agree with most of the other ladies that hair and make-up are not as big of a problem. I was MOH in a wedding and my make-up and the brides was almost identical (albeit different hair), but there was no mistaking who the bride was. She definitely shone! The dress and the birdcage however are a problem and you need to let her know, in very clear terms, that you are not okay with it. Unless every bridesmaid were wearing a birdcage (as it can be done in a stylish way that doesn't look bridal) then it would be okay... but for it to just be her, and with a white dress no less!... I agree with you that it will look like two brides are in the photos.

You have to be straight with her!

That is so strange! She does seem to want to share the attention with you instead of letting the bride shine.

I am having issues with my sister/MOH as well. I swear sometimes I feel like she just forgets I'm getting married and that she is IN the wedding. I sent all of my girls some last minute details through text on Friday. Yes, it was a wall of text, but I don't ever get to see them all at the same time and I apologized in advance for the wall coming their way, and again after it was over. I spoke to my sister about it yesterday since she never responded to it and she said, "Oh I didn't read it. Just tell me on the day of what you need me to do."

Also my mother lacks all sense of style so she sent a picture of a dress to my sister and me for approval (it was a hell no). My sister said, "I don't know what you guys are talking about. I'm busy." When she found out it was for the wedding she said it's my show and to stress ME out about it instead of her. Oh yes, because that's just what I need two months before the wedding. More stress. I finally had that huge battle with my mother and finally ordered her dresses last night, but boy was it stressful as hell.

This is very strange indeed. Hell no to the white dress and birdcage. Like said by PP, the make up I would let go, the hairstyle I understand. I would put my foot down and figure out why she thinks those things are acceptable? Good luck! Update us when you figure it out

I'm desperate to know how this ended!! The wedding is in a week? Is still MoH? Is still trying to SWF you? What happened??? (I know I don't have an avatar, I'm not a troll and haven't had time to do a proper profile)