Is a 19 month engagement that long?

We got engaged January 3, 2011 and will be getting married September 28, 2013.

I'm enjoying the time being engaged, I don't feel rushed at all. It is nice to have time to think about wedding planning, and make the right decisions the first time. I've known a lot of people who had short engagement say they wish they had a longer engagement just to enjoy and do several things differently.

Its better than trying to do a rushed a 6 month engagement (ours is due to my grandfather being quite ill, and I want him to be able to attend our wedding!).

We got engaged in January 2011 & will be getting married September 2012 [read: 60 days !]! That's about 17 months. It's been perfect for us :].

19 months is perfect! Gives you plenty of time to plan without rushing. Hubby and I were engaged for 15 months. I was so glad I had that time.

We got engaged June 26! Ours is a 16 month engagement. It was the available date for our venue but I was planning on September anyway. Nick's sister is getting married in July and he wouldn't get married before her and I wasn't going to get married right after her either.

We actually have a group of 2014 brides on fb.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/Team2014/

we've been together and engaged for 3 years, and have 4 kids together (2 are mutual). when we get married we'll have been engaged for 5 years. we're paying for it ourselves so we need to save. My FH's family is the same way though. They all had weddings done at their church, for free, then had all the people from the church do a potluck at someone's house. Then went on a honeymoon over the state border. He's the first of his family, like ever, to not get married in a church and have a nice wedding.

I think it may have something to do with that aspect of it though. If no one is used to doing anything nice, they make the world feel wrong for doing it that way. Maybe bring up the points about your sister. My mom was the same with me about my brother and sister, but they were older. Trust me, you start saying things outright like that she'll either answer you, or leave you alone about it.

We are going to save money for one year before we set a date. It will prob be a 24 month engagement at least.

Our engagement will be about 17 months so I don't think it's too long!

People are going to talk shit no matter what. I know it is different when it is your mom because she should always have your back but oh well. What if your engagement was 19 days, it would probably cause a commotion too so who cares. Go with your heart and plan the wedding of your dreams, as long as you and your FH are happy that is all that matters.

I have been engaged since 2007! That is long. I didn't want to rush it cause we had alot of things going on. We had a baby during our engagement which made things a little more difficult to deal with, but now we are ready to take it to the next level! Do what is right for you. She will have to conform to what you decide to do because it is your wedding- not her's.

It is your business, I say have the wedding of your dreams! And all the ladies are right, the time flies by!

FH proposed on christmas of 2010 and now the date has been (reset) for aug 2013!! we've (more me than him but this last time was mutual) changed the dates like 3 times. by the time we get married (assuming we dont postpone it agan) he will have been my boyfriend for 9months, my fiance for 2 and half years and my husband for the rest of my life. i know it seems like waiting on forever, and that itll be like drops in the bucket compared to the lifetime of spending with each other. his mother wants it sooner than that. shes just anxious for grand babies. LOL!! do it in your own time. who cares what people think?

FH proposed in August of 2010 and we are at just 100 days now for our wedding, so our engagement will be just over 2 years as well. Now we are a little older than most of the gals on here, so as you can age really isn't a factor either. So take your time and enjoy your egagement you will have lifetime to be together. As long as the two of you are happy with what you are doing then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

Thank you all for the support! I agree 100% with everything you all said. I should probably trick my mom and tell her we moved up the date because she told me it was too long of an engagement! Hahaha. That would be so mean, but I think it would give her a good reality of check. She would hopefully realize time is essence when you have to save for and plan your dream wedding!

According to my faith we have been engaged since December 2008 (he got my engagement ring August of last year - so you can define it either way), our wedding is next year March 2013. So you can tell her that there is nothing unusual about that.

So depending on how you want to look at it we have been engaged for either 4 years, 4 months - or - I started planning when I got the ring which is 19 months.

(In fact, most couples in my faith usually have several kids when they get married. They are engaged the first time they have sex and the weddings are done when the couple is financially settled.)

We got engaged Dec 2011 and our wedding isn't until September 2013. We both work in the middle east & have set some goals we want to complete before getting married. We are planning a large wedding and don't want any debt. So, what does it matter as long as you & your FH are happy and love each other.

We will be engaged 16 months by the time we get married. We knew money was going to be an issue as well so we wanted to give ourselves enough time to save. I also already live with FH and have a child with him. I think you should have the wedding you want, and you are obviously smart enough to plan to take care of it yourself instead of expecting it to be given to you. I think you are doing the right thing.

We were engaged in December of 2010 and married in June 2012...so that's 18 months? And it went by so fast! I feel like that's pretty average, actually. Plus we got engaged in winter and I wanted a summer wedding, yet there was no way I was planning a full wedding in six months. And we moved our date up a year, originally we were planning for June of *next* year!