Is a 19 month engagement that long?

For a significant amount (I'm thankful for what she will be don't get me wrong) but she makes me feel like I should be getting married sooner than later. None of my family had nice weddings so I don't think she fully understands the money and planning that goes into it. Theres nothing wrong with shot gun weddings and court weddings. Its up to the couple and no one else. She should respect my wishes and let me and FI plan our dream wedding. She should be on my younger sisters case (24) who is pregnant with baby #2 from daddy #2.. She doesn't even have full custody of her daughter nor does she work, go to school, or even have her own place. Im 27, live on my own, work, and going to school for my BS in Human Services.

Im sorry I just needed to vent. My mom is always on my case. I honestly can say I give her no reason. I just want to scream sometimes!!! Thanks for listening!

Well when I get married this year we would have been engaged 31 months. We got engaged Feb 2010. It goes by so fast and before you know you will be trying to figure out to pay for everything lol. I remember when we had over 1000 something days left and now we are down to 46. There really is not a time limit on when to get married. You do what is best for you and FH. Good luck and congrats!

We were engaged Sept 2011 and our wedding isn't until April 2013...that's also 19 months. We did have a civil ceremony here in Germany in Dec 2011 (it's required here in Germany to have a civil separate from your wedding) and at first I felt like our wedding day would be forever away but now that it's almost only 9 months away it seems that time has flown by! It has allowed me plenty of time to research and us to save to be able to have the wedding we truly want and a great party for our guest. It is hard to not listen to everyone else but do not let that discourage you. Your day will be worth it.

Nope, our engagement is longer (24 mos) and we're "living in sin"!! Sounds like you have your priorities where you want them, and it doesn't matter what other people think your priorities should be. The time will sometimes feel slow but I promise when you're within a few months, you're going to wonder where the planning time went. Enjoy being engaged, it is a time to celebrate and be happy!

Ours was a little over 2 years, but I don't think anything is wrong with 19 months...Ignore those who tell you otherwise. 19 months give you time to plan without stress!

No not at all! It's what works for you and your FH (what you want and what you can afford- it's your day, not anyone elses). When FH and I get married we'll have been engaged for 18 months- so I'm not far behind you (and we're already down to almost 14 months away, so it does certainly fly by!)

Although my engagement was short, I have several cousins whose engagements lasted 3+ years. So don't worry.

Heck I have been with my FH for almost 11 years and will have been engaged 19 months on my wedding day The best part about that is you can find the best deals and have lots of time to make sure everything is perfect. Down fall from experience is it takes so much time and energy out of your life and at about the 14 month mark you can't waite for this day to come and be over

We got engaged May 15 and were originally set on a November 2013 wedding but after pricing venues we found February to be alot cheaper. We are already together 6 years so we figured whats another couple of months to save thousands!

Our engagement was less than 6 months long. I really don't see how it makes a difference to anyone, one way or the other?

When we get married ours will have been 21 months

It goes so fast and there is so much to do and save for you are going to wonder what happened to those 19 months! We were engaged Nov 2010, pushed the date back from June to August to get the venue we wanted, so that's 20 months and with everything else going on in our lives I don't know how we could have done it sooner.

No - it's not. (19 monther here myself ) People seem to not understand that if you want a full-blown wedding anymore, you can't just throw things together in 4 months like they did when our parents got married. I had a lot of people say something about the length too, and the best part was, they were ALL people who also had 18/19 month engagements. I think the problem is when you say 2014 - people automatically do math in their heads and think 2 years which does seem like a long time for anything else. Planning a wedding though? Not so much. And the time goes pretty quickly. It feels like 2 weeks ago we were announcing our engagement at our annual Halloween party, and here we are, starting to plan this year's Halloween bash, less than a year away from our wedding date!

My engagement length is 19 months long and all I have to say is TIME FLIES, we are already under 5 months. I don't think its too long at all.

I've been engaged over 3 years! Just didn't feel like planning a wedding! (now I know why.)

I got engaged in May 2011 and we're getting married in Aug. 2013 -- over two years difference.

I don't think it's that long, but I've had to field a lot of comments like, "Why did you get engaged if you're not getting married for two years?" and "If you're waiting so long, it seems like you're not even ready to get married." In reality, I just didn't want to plan a wedding at the same time as a cross-country move, but people will be judge-y no matter what the reasoning is.

I'm on the "do what makes you happy" boat -- if waiting will get you your dream venue with a dreamy amount of time to save for it -- DO IT!!

Our engagement will be 21 months, you need to do whats comfortable for you and if you can afford things better making it a long engagement then there is nothing wrong with that. I was 9 months pregnant when we got engaged so I know I would need a lot of time to plan the wedding, and afford it, and not be super stressed while taking care of my baby

I'll be engaged for 14 months when I get married. But the reason I'm responding is because we're getting married on a holiday weekend and my cousin recently asked me to change the date because it will be expensive for her to fly into town. She has got to be kidding me, right?! Why would you change your day for your dream wedding to make someone else happy? I think if your heart is set on that venue and that's the next time they have it available, you should do it on that day. You have to be happy with your wedding, not everyone else.

We have a 17 month engagement. I don't think there is anything wrong with long engagements. People will judge you no matter what. If it is too short, they will say you are rushing things, if it is long then you must have doubts. There will always be someone trying to pee in your cheerios. In the end, you need to do what is right for the both of you.

I don't think so at all!