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Is 4 years too early to start planning?

Tomi, on June 20, 2014 at 1:34 AM Posted in Planning 0 47

My boyfriend and I have decided that we are gonna get married in 4 years, enough time for me to finish college. He's more less proposed but there's no engagement ring (He did give me a promise ring 2 months into dating). Is 4 years too early to start planning. I know I can't book anything yet, but I'm getting ideas. I'm afraid it's too soon. Advice?

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Latest activity by Private User, on June 25, 2014 at 8:12 PM
  • NewMrsWesely
    Master September 2016
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    I am planning mine that is 3 years out. Some stuff will get booked in Feb just do we get this year's prices. We have also been together almost two years and are waiting for me to finish school. The biggest thing is you need to know your date for sure. You can always get ideas but true planning can't take place until that is done.

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  • KM
    Master March 2015
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    In a nutshell...yes. There are so many "trends" with weddings and everything you like now will probably be outdated by then...from decor to dresses.

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  • Monana
    VIP May 2015
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    I would say that more then 2 years is too soon.

    Not just trends changing but because you run the risk of vendors not even being around that far down the road.

    I would be very wary of any vendor that would be jumping to get a deposit from you 4 years in advance. Even booking now I am scared that one of my vendors will contact me to say they are moving away, or something. That being said, many good vendors will provide you with a solid back-up plan in case there is a circumstance that they are unable to provide you with the agreed service.

    Wedding planning is exciting though. It wouldn't hurt to make some folders on your computer to save images of things you like. You can look through it in a year or so and see how much your opinions have changed,

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  • Happy In Hawaii
    Master July 2015
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    I had a 2 year 2 month engagement and I'd say 4 years is definitely a lot. We knew we were going to get married pretty early on and so every now and then we'd talk about things but I wouldn't call it planning. Like I'd maybe have a random idea and we'd talk about it and that was it. But the planning happened at 2 years out (we are planning a wedding long distance so earlier was better). But I think for now, I wouldn't plan much because otherwise by the time you get to the wedding you'll be sick of it! But you're welcome here to get ideas! A lot of girls plan their wedding from the age of 5 so have fun when you want but don't make any firm decisions on anything yet.

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  • Hayley
    Super July 2014
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    Too soon.

    So many things will change.

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  • KayWell
    Super July 2014
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    The above Poster is right about getting sick of it. Why would you want to put 4 years of work into 1 day? Youll be so depressed When its done! Wayyy to far out. Secure your venue 1.5 years out and Then start planning. Use this time to save!

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  • Pancakes
    Master October 2015
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    This sounds like a spammer post... But I'll respond in case it isn't. Yes. It is too soon. There isn't enough planning to occupy your time for 4 years. Start a Pinterest board, but nothing else for the next two years. Concentrate on school and save the money.

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  • OMW
    Master August 2013
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    Yes, but it's not too early to get ideas! Start a pinterest board or a scrapbook with articles and pictures from wedding magazines. But most places won't book this far in advance.

    Also, start saving money - make a budget and stick to it, putting aside X amount each paycheck. With four years to save, you can have one kick-ass wedding.

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  • Mrs.Matthews
    Master January 2015
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    Yes...OMG i am so glad that I am getting married soon. Pretty soon you will have to have over a year engagement just because everyone else is and everything will be booked years in advance.....

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  • Ashley
    Dedicated May 2014
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    I think too many things could go wrong. What if the venue you choose decides to renevate and change everything you liked about it. I planned mine in a year, and my family and friends I don't think could take me talking wedding non-stop for anytime longer than that :-)

    Congrats on your engagement though!

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  • Niecy Sparkles
    VIP August 2014
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    Start saving money now, but yes its too early.

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  • Mrs. A & J
    Master December 2014
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    Yes too early. Congrats on the engagement tho!

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  • tnovak
    Super August 2014
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    Planning yes its too early, DREAMING never too early. Alot can happen in 4 years. You grow, he grows (mentally) your ideas of what you like change, venues close and new ones open, dresses go out of style and silk flowers get dusty. There is nothing you can plan at that time.

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  • FutureMrsForbes
    Super August 2014
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    Yes, way too early. But it isn't too early to start your wedding fund! If you can start saving away now you won't have any worries about paying for things when the time comes.

    And keep in mind if you spend 4 years focusing on planning your wedding, you are going to have a lot after wedding disappointment.

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  • Shannon S.
    Master March 2011
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    Slow your roll, four years is way too early. Use the time to focus on school and your relationship, and to save money.

    However, I knew a lot of "engaged" couples in college who were playing house and never got married, so maybe that affects my view.

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  • Emily
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    Good heavens, yes. It is WAY too soon.

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  • Cricket Catering
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    I would start saving money but that's about it. If you watch the boards here, people change their minds about things as they go. In 4 years, so many things can change with businesses, prices etc. I would start a separate bank account and start putting money in it every pay. In 2-2.5 years, check the balance and start thinking about what you can do with what you saved.

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  • stevenandvictoria
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    I don't think you should start planning or booking anything yet. I agree with the others start a pintrest for ideas and save money you can save alot in 4 years. were giving ourselves 21/2 years and i'm almost done except paying for everything. besides your taste change 2 years ago I wanted a winter wonderland wedding with blue and silver now I want a travel wedding with neutral and gold tones

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  • KayDwitWill
    Master May 2015
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    To be planning...yes, to be saving for the wedding...no. Save for your future. What you see know will not be offered 4 years from now. I started 2 years out and I've made so many changes.

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  • Ashleigh
    Master November 2013
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    Yep, too early. Focus on your studies and then when you are done, focus on the wedding.

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