Hi! I need some friendly advice from some outside perspectives. A few years back we stopped talking to my moms side of the family. A whole lot of things led us to this point but even FH (who I’ve been with for 6 years hasn’t met them.) I am still inviting my grandma, we still talk, but has from my 2 aunts, my moms sisters, I can’t decide. I just don’t know. We weren’t invited to one of my cousins weddings that happened maybe 2 years ago. I’ve talked with FH about it, and he’s basically saying whatever I’m most comfortable with. But the thing is, for one of my aunts at least, I would feel sad if she wasn’t there. Would it be rude to invite her and not the other? Or invite the them all for formality. Honestly just tell me what you think.
Honestly, you should do what you are most comfortable with and who you would look back years down the road and not feel regretful that they were there. If you think your one aunt would want to come and you really would want here there then invite her! Remember it’s you and your FSO’s day and you shouldn’t feel guilty for what YOU want or let others opinions effect your decision.
I was in a very similar situation where my mom is one of 6 kids, and I have one aunt who just always makes me a bit uncomfortable (she frequently overindulges, chastises me for not drinking as much as her, odd/inappropriate comments, etc.). Ultimately, I invited all of the aunts for the sake of keeping the peace, and knowing that her and I don't have much of a relationship, wasn't very surprised when she said she could not attend.
If you feel like your aunt can act cordially with you and your guests, and won't cause a scene or be inappropriate, I would go ahead and invite her. If you're worried about any possibility of her causing drama or behaving negatively then I would not invite her! Good luck!