Invite the BOSS?

I think it depends on your relationship with your boss. In a situation like that where you do not work together on a day to day basis as you would say in an office situation where you are making calls on your lunch hour, then I don't see a problem. The issue arises if you do socialize with your boss outside of the work place, then you should. Has your boss shown any interest in your up coming wedding?

Jaemi said it perfectly. the relationship status is the key to inviting someone like your boss to your wedding. I too am not inviting my boss. We have a business relationship strictly & I personally wouldn't feel comfortable having him at my wedding so we figured why up the guest list for some1 that would make the bride feel uncomfortable about.

My boss is not a genuine person, so she will ask how wedding plans are going, but I know it goes in one ear and out the other. She thinks she is everyone's "pal," and so I guess from day to day I do see her, but outside of work not so much (other than school functions).

I have to disagree somewhat. In my experience, it has just been polite to invite your boss, unless of course you are having a very small and intimate wedding. Recently, one of my coworkers was married and they decided not to invite anyone from their respective places of employment. Our boss, who is always most professional and does not really socialize with any of us outside of the office, actually pulled me aside to ask if anyone was invited to the wedding. He was slightly offended I believe.

More than likely, if you are not very close with your boss, he/she will not attend but it's just kind of like etiquette to extend an invitation, IMO.

Is this day to day a passing in the hall or a meeting say that you would have with a department head? If it is a pass in the hall on the way to the lounge I would say no, however if this women is as not genuine as you say would you also consider her vendictive, meaning she would make you and your FH live living H E double hockey sticks if she was not invited, then the cost per head might be worth all of the future headaches.

Honestly.. I agree with PP in that unless you are particularly close with your boss you don't need to invite them to the wedding.... I'm annoyed enough that FH felt as though he needed to invite his coworkers to our wedding

@amberbean-- how rude of your boss! I would NEVER expect an invite to anyone's event.... even if I was someone's semi-close friend! Odds are that if the person hasn't mentioned inviting you, you're not going. I just don't get why people ASSUME they are coming... the last day where I would want to be reminded of work would be my wedding day

If you are inviting other people from the school, i think it's a good look to invite the "boss". it's only one more person.

We are not inviting any "work people" to our wedding. We needed to keep the guest list around 100 people, and adding work people would have just added too many guests, plus we don't socialize with one another outside of work. If you feel that not inviting her really will cause hard feelings see if its in your budget to invite her, otherwise, but let it go.

Don't invite the boss, many do not do this. Since you already have valid reasons not to, stick with it. No such thing as bad work karma.

My wife invited her boss 3 years ago to our wedding when they had a great working relationship. Today, their relationship has diminished. Now she cannot stand her boss. She regrets inviting her.

I would only invite work people if you have an actual relationship with them outside of work. If you are not that close with your boss I wouldn't worry about it. If she asks, just say that you are having a very small wedding with only family and your closest friends.

An invitation extended is not always an invitation accepted.

Chancey, I know, but extending the invite doesn't mean your boss will want to come to your wedding. We intend on having a very small wedding, and I'm not planning on having anyone I work with attending; however, I will extend an invitation to my boss. No, I do not have a relationship with her outside of work, but we work well together and I will extend the invite.

When you say "extend" the invite, do you mean that you will formally invite her with an invitation, or you will invite her by word of mouth? Thanks for your reply!

Thanks for all the advice everyone! I think we will proabaly NOT invite our bosses. In education, you work with so many people. I think it was best put by "andresentertainment" and "yadayada"...We will stick to close friends from work (like people on our teaching teams, and NOT administration).

Thanks!

I love my boss! He's funny, nice, and easy to get along with. But I work in a 4 person company and I am the only woman. I am inviting all of my co-workers and their SO. I do beleive that they will come and have a great time, but that is the relationship that I have with my boss

I wouldn't invite someone who wasn't wishing me well, however.

Just to clarify: in a formal event such as a wedding, extending an invite is always done with an invitation. Word of mouth thingies get "fuzzy." Not something one wants when it comes to their wedding.

Do not invite him. If you are inviting all the teachers, then he/she should be included too. If not, then there is zero need to invite him.

Invite him. Its not like one person is going to break you and there are always a lot of regretfully declines anyway.

Dont invite them, its your day, not anybody else. I was told my my co-worker to invite my boss even if i dont invite anybody else, but there is NO way, we arent friends or close. My FH is inviting his boss even though we both hate him, i know hate is a strong word, but we really do, but we know his boss will give him hell if he isnt ivited. I am inviting 1 co-worker, everybody else will just have to get over it, its not their day.

I am inviting two of my managers. I am also inviting about 10 co-workers. I am very close with the people i work with.