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Invitation Goofs - What Did You Do or Not Do?

mrsaj2b, on June 4, 2015 at 8:06 PM Posted in Planning 0 48

I just realized I forgot to put the dress code on my invitations. To compensate I am adding it to my website but gosh darn I don't know how I forgot to do that.

What did you do or didn't do that made you say "doh!" after the fact?


48 Comments

Latest activity by rica, on January 5, 2018 at 3:26 PM
  • Mrs. Nicole
    Master May 2016
    Mrs. Nicole ·
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    You know, I honestly don't ever remember being told a dress code for a wedding ever. I think you're fine, honestly!

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  • M
    Super August 2015
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    Im still working on mine, but also haven't added dress code info. where would you even include that?

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  • Janeen
    Master January 2015
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    Unless it's black tie, I don't think this is a problem.

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  • Monica SC
    Master October 2015
    Monica SC ·
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    Dress code???

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  • mrsaj2b
    Master October 2019
    mrsaj2b ·
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    Every invitation I've gotten has had the dress code on it whether black tie or not. It is typically on the invitation itself and can say formal attire requested, semi-formal, casual, etc. Here are some examples.




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  • Amanda
    VIP September 2015
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    I forgot that my great aunt was remarried and sent her no plus one!! Argh! I was planning in sitting her with her adult kids so didn't think it would be an issue. She typically doesn't attend events w her husband so it's hard to remember him! Such a blonde move though!

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  • Amanda
    VIP September 2015
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    That and fh didn't think to look at the stamps he bought at the post office. Our $1.20 stamps have goats on them and our RSVP have metallic dinosaurs! Haha! Doh!

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  • mrsaj2b
    Master October 2019
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    @Amanda - The stamps! LOL!

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    Master October 2013
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    You've gotten a lot of rude invitations then. The only acceptable dress code is black tie or white tie (for a legit black or white tie wedding). So you avoided being rude by not doing it!

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  • Paradise
    Devoted November 2015
    Paradise ·
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    I forgot to / didn't put the line about how many seats were reserved

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  • FinallyMrsT
    Master October 2015
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    I think you're fine...I've received a few invites that specified dress code, but like Janeen said, if it's not black tie, people will assume cocktail. I always expect to find that kind of info on the website, anyway. I don't think it's a particularly nice detail to include on the invite, anyway, like that's not what I would want framed, you know?

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  • Margaret
    Master September 2015
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    I've never seen dress code on a wedding invitation. Its actually recommended that you not unless its black tie. Listing it on the website is perfect.

    We forgot to put a decline line. Just one that says "number attending". I'm hoping people will be smart enough to just put 0 if they can't come. Also no number of seats reserved so km hoping we don't have anyone rude enough to add people.

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  • annakay511
    Master July 2015
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    You only put dress code if its black tie or black tie optional so I agree with @Stephanie, it's a good thing you forgot!

    I forgot to invite my cousin lol. I invited his brother and his wife; my aunt and uncle; and totally forgot to put my cousin's name on the invitation! He is close to my age and technically still lives at home, but is kind of nomadic, which is why his name was planned to be on the invite with my aunt and uncle. I didn't realize it until they sent their RSVP back without his name on it....and then I realized my mistake!! Luckily caught it in time haha. My aunt and uncle probably assumed I got his address and sent it to where he's staying now, which is what I did after the fact Smiley smile

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  • Snarky
    Master September 2014
    Snarky ·
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    Don't worry, most people know how to dress for a wedding.

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  • Mrs.T
    VIP February 2015
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    I put the wrong time on mine. It was difficult though as we were coordinating water taxi and ferry hire to get everyone to the island. I sent a detailed email out a few days before so no hiccups.

    Worst I did was actually put the wrong name on one of mine. The girlfriend of one of DH's friends. I put her sisters name instead of her name (on instruction from DH!) and was MORTIFIED when I found out what we had done. Had a laugh about it with her at the wedding though.

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  • kalamityjen
    VIP August 2015
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    My parent's got a wedding invite that had the wrong time on it. The couple had crossed out the time that was printed on it and penciled in the correct time. They are a very laid back couple but I'm sure the bride was kicking herself a bit.

    My cousin had the best typo ever though. Her's said, "We request the honor of your presents at our wedding." So, as long as I send a gift, I don't have to go?

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  • FutureMrsD
    Super October 2015
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    The only time I got told a dress code it was "casual chic" I had no idea WTF to wear... I think you are better off this way! No worries!

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  • Happy In Hawaii
    Master July 2015
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    I think it's fine you left it off, that's more for the website anyway!!

    I put together my parents' invitation first just to see how it would all look and they told me that I didn't put a stamp on their RSVP envelope! Oops! They tease me about it now! Also I sent an invite to my cousin, then my dad emailed me and asked if I still invited her (originally she wasn't planning on coming but changed her mind). I said I sent her an invitation, then I messaged my cousin to make sure I had the right address...apparently she had moved from that address two years ago! So I quickly threw another invitation together for her, and what do you know?? I forgot to put the stamp on the RSVP envelope again! Ugh! Luckily she sent it back still. I did put stamps on everyone else's though!

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  • mrsaj2b
    Master October 2019
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    @Happy in Hawaii - I caught myself a couple of times with forgetting to put stamps on the RSVP envelopes. LOL! As I am addressing the invites I am making sure not to seal them just for that reason. I plan to check each one before I put them in the mail.

    @Stephanie - It actually is ok to put the dress code on invitations. It is not incorrect to do so. I've never been offended at any invite I've received with this information. I agree that most people do know how to dress for a wedding but typically will not wear formal or black tie apparel unless specifically told to do so. Thus, I guess my "doh" isn't such a "doh" after all at the end of the day as many replies have said.

    Also, not everyone is savvy with computers so having the dress code on the website doesn't get across to everyone especially with the older/elder wedding guests.

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  • mrsaj2b
    Master October 2019
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    How many envelopes did everyone mess up if you addressed your envelopes yourself? I've messed up six so far. I'd get to the zip code and enter too many digits or forget one. Drives me crazy!!!

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