If enough people don't rsvp would you start calling? did you start calling?

I'll definitely be calling. My RSVP date is a little under a month before the wedding. Final headcount is due 2 weeks before. 3 weeks before the wedding I'm going to call anyone I haven't heard from.

I'm calling. You hope people will come that say they will but that unfortunately is out of your control.

I gave myself time after my RSVP date to go ahead and call some folks. I had some cousins that just weren't sure if they'd have a sitter or not or be able to take off work for them to let me know. I assumed NOTHING. There have been stories of the USPS losing so many invitations and RSVP's, so it is always a good idea to at least call and find out from guests a few days after your RSVP date has passed.

And some folks wait until the last minute to send it, possibly even on your actual RSVP date, so patience is also necessary.

With our family, we had a lot of "You know we'll be there" -- we were the first more formal wedding in both our families, where we actually needed to know numbers. Sometimes it's just a lack of knowledge of why RSVPs are necessary. I'm looking forward to revenge, should anyone else have a non-backyard wedding on either side.

Luckily I only had to call 4 people out of 75, and 3 of the 4 came

I'm calling beginning the day after the due date on the RSVP. Most of our guests are from out of town, so it's unlikely they would just "show up". I have to give the caterer a headcount by the end of that week.

I'll call if it comes to that, but I know everyone RSVPd to my first wedding. Hopefully we'll be as lucky this time.

I've just sent out save the dates that include our website info and people have already started to rsvp. there will be another opportunity to rsvp when we send out the actual invites. i may call some people. i'm not sure. my dad's side of the family hasn't been invited so i don't think there should be an issue.

I think every bride tends to make at least one phone call looking for an RSVP, if not more! That is why people put a "please respond by...." date on there, so they know what date they need to start calling to confirm. It's not fun to do, but it's necessary. Good luck!

I'm calling to make sure everyone received their invite. I will let them know at that time they must rsvp. No exceptions, add-ons, or phone calls. 15 months is enough time to plan!

I'll be calling people a week after the RSVP's are due.

I will call a week after. I know most of my family will need a call they do not like to RSVP for anything.

I am worried about the same thing! most of my guest are out of town-ers. and over half of them i was lucky enough to get addresses to much less have numbers! my rsvps are due back by march 15th. thats only 2 weeks! and ive oly gotten 3rsvps!!! i sent out over 32 invites! every friday i remind people on line to rsvp!!! and come the following monday i will blow up the face book pages of those who have not! and i will call those i do have contact with.

Call.

We had 2 people who had mailed their reply cards back to us basically immediately upon receiving their invites. We didn't receive them. Their response was yes. If I would have just assumed that they weren't coming based on not receiving their RSVP card, I would have been horribly embarrassed when they showed up and I didn't have a seat for them when they RSVPed yes.

With that said, I am a huge advocate for having SOMEONE ELSE checking with the people who haven't responded yet. Sometimes people feel bad saying "no, I'm not coming" directly to the bride and groom. So instead they say yes, but then not show up on the day of the wedding. I always think you can get a more honest response by having a 3rd party ask. Enlist your mom, FMIL, MOH to check in with those people.

I will see how many people rsvp. the rsvp is being done via website to avoid mail issues however i guess there could be a very slight chance they would recieve neither the save the date nor the invite. i think if i do call i will just make sure that they received the mailings and encourage them to rsvp if they plan on attending. having a 3rd party handle the calls is a good idea.

We def called.. Luckily we only had to call 5 ppl..

We will def call. i will make it known that they cannot come if they dont rsvp. even if i leave a message, we will say there will not be a seat for you if we do not hear from you by tomorrow or something. I mean it isn't hard to check a box and put it in the pre-addressed, pre-stamped envelope.

We called, texted, Facebooked, e-mailed, and did everything but send smoke signals. LOL

I was told by my event planner that I should not call looking for responses. She suggested I send a txt/email instead. I was like bump that! Her reason was that phone calls can make the guest feel pressured and they might not feel comfortable telling you NO. An email/text is easier to let you know they are not coming. Some people don't like to feel like they are letting you down and some don't like confrontation. I guess that makes sense! Some guest will say yes to avoid that feeling, even if they know they are not coming. ( its like calling off of work lol)

I would rather them say no via email/txt than them saying yes because they feel pressured to give a response at that moment on the phone.