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Ideas: Introducing bridesmaids to one another

Natalie, on May 7, 2021 at 4:59 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 9

Hello! First time posting. I have asked four ladies to be my bridesmaids, and can't wait to plan and celebrate with them. Two are my sisters, but the other two haven't met one another or my sisters. Basically, aside from my two sisters, the ladies are starting off as strangers.

I'm going to start a group text for the five of us, where we can share plans, logistics, and so on, but I'm wondering if any other brides have been in a similar situation and have any ideas, recommendations, words-of-warning, or stories to share. I know that everyone is happy to be part of the wedding but am wondering how to move past any awkward phase where no one really knows one another too well.

Thanks!

9 Comments

Latest activity by Lady, on May 10, 2021 at 9:44 AM
  • Grace
    Super February 2022
    Grace ·
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    I was in a bridal party where I only knew the bride and maid of honor. No introductions prior to the wedding and it went just fine. All got dressed together and were joking around together.
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    Super December 2020
    Anais ·
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    I don’t think it’s necessary to do a get to know each other outing at all!
    One of my bridesmaid didn’t know any of the others and it was completely fine.
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    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    I agree that it's perfectly fine if members of bridal parties don't know each other. They will meet at any events they attend and/or at your wedding itself, and that is plenty.

    My caution is around group texts: not everyone likes them for various reasons. If you start one, I would keep the texts to a minimum unless they all start chatting. And don't take it personally if any one doesn't really participate. Just reach out to them separately however you usually communicate with them.

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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    It's perfectly fine. I had 4 ladies and 2 were close friends, 1 sort of knew those 2, and my MOH knew no one. She asked me for their email addresses so she could connect with them about bridal shower/bachelorette stuff, so I sent a group email after getting everyone's approval. We had a group chat that I sent like 4 messages in (information about dresses, price for hair and make up if interested, etc.). Otherwise, I'm not sure how much they communicated, as I just let them do their own things.
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  • KYLIE
    Super May 2019
    KYLIE ·
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    Some of my bridesmaids knew each other and some didn’t—I sent an email to everyone (I figured less annoying than a group text—I had a lot of ladies) about details regarding dresses, the wedding, etc. and at the end included everyone’s titles and how I knew them. That was enough and all the girls got along wonderfully at the bach and wedding, though the inclusions from my DH’s side (a cousin and his sister) mostly just stuck to themselves at all events.
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  • Kevin
    Super October 2021
    Kevin ·
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    I had a similar situation. Two knew each other and two didn’t know the others. I got everyone together when we picked out dresses and then we went to lunch and did an escape room for fun which was a great get to know you and wasn’t needed but I think it broke all the tension and we had a lot of fun with it. They all weren’t going to be able to come to the bachelorette or shower and two of them moved farther away since then so it was nice that they all now know each other before meeting first time at the wedding
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    Judith ·
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    First of all realize that though each of these women has a relationship with you, some may wish to become brief acquaintances of your other bridesmaids, and will resist all your efforts to foster friendships. I have been in a lot of bridal parties of strangers where a few want to meet others, like puppies, and others are friendly when the need to do anything together, may help plan events and certainly attend the wedding, but nothing else. No parties, meet you pizza nights, sleep overs, mani-pedis etc. If you push those things, they may quit. it can double their time, and they are not interested. So accommodate either kind. Offer what you like, but don't feel disappointed if they want to be your friends, not everyones. My first several wedding parties included either close family or friends. But then I was one of 3 who knew each other and three who didn't. We 3 were barely on speaking terms with the bride by the wedding. Because she insisted on setting up " blind dates" with each other and the other 3. And we very quickly discovered, none of us liked each other at all. But no matter how many earnest conversations with the bride, she sent group chats for us to do things, bought tickets in pairs
    for sows and movies. And the more pesistent she got the more resistant we got.
    I later discovered it was very common for at least 1 or 2 to be great bridesmaids while meeting others only briefly. Like a small committee of 4-8, if you focus on what needs doing and are oolite to
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    Judith ·
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    Sorry _ are polite, that is all you need. Personally, I hate group chats.
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    Lady ·
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    Group chats are the worst. They will meet at your wedding events and don't need to know each other at all. I would avoid forced "getting to know each other" stuff.

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