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I will not pee in the woods

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kphmitten, on April 2, 2016 at 9:00 PM

I just saw a FB post for a friend's wedding. The post states that their invitations will be post cards that will go out next week but since people keep asking, they're just posting their wedding website to FB for people to go to RSVP now. On the website, they say it's a "backyard wedding" on a 10 acre property owned by family. There is "primitive camping" on sight. No mention of restrooms anywhere and I have a lack of hope if its "primitive camping." Dress code is semi-formal because "even though this is a backyard affair, it'll still be classy." I'm going to be upset about peeing in the woods with a dress on. I have to assume since she posted about the wedding website on FB and tagged her FH that all 600+ of their friends are invited or they'll have some awkward conversations. I doubt a house restroom can handle even 100 people. The wedding is at 5, dinner at 6 and there is no end time. How do I politely inquire about restroom facilities?

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Along10 · on April 3, 2016 at 8:04 AM
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Agree with @JamieLynn that it would be an easy decline for me. I literally can't comprehend this wedding.... Semi formal is weird for a backyard wedding of this type. It doesn't sound classy at all. Peeing in the woods is scary and gross. For the love of God I hope they at least have port-o-potties but even those are usually gross. Unless I was 16, I would never make my wedding a "drunk rager." Especially when children are invited. And 600+ people?! That's crazy! But... If you're set on going, just politely ask! And good luck at that one! You'll have to let us know how it goes!
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EllisMai · on April 3, 2016 at 8:16 AM
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If it is visible to only the invited friends, it won't show up as a group. It isn't obvious at all unless the post says "If you can see this, you're invited."
But I can also see how having an outdoor thing like that would make them feel comfortable with an open invite ... But then why even send invites?
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Jennifer · on April 3, 2016 at 10:42 AM
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I wouldn't go to a wedding or any party without a bathroom. I would think they would provide porta pottys.
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Becoming a Mrs · on April 3, 2016 at 10:45 AM
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Hopefully if they have enough sense to have an open bar they will have enough to rent some Pottys!
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bellamae · on April 3, 2016 at 11:13 AM
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That sounds horrible. I would make FH ask about it. That whole situation would give me anxiety. Not much of a primitive camping/ drunk rager type of girl so I would pass and I don't think FH would even question as to why.
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mandybeth · on April 3, 2016 at 11:21 AM
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I would honestly go because I'd be so intrigued... But if it worries you, have fh reach out and ask a few questions.
Drunk rager is something you go to in high school. Not sure why they want to have that be a phrase to label their wedding.
Also, I'm having a backyard wedding and I would never ever ever expect guests to pee in the woods. I was going to do traditional porta potties and then with more thought and the advice of ladies on here I decided to get the trailer style ones. They are so nice inside!! And flush! So maybe, just maybe, this couple decided something similar?
If not, with that many guests, that will be one hell of an experience. Nothing like pissing next to someone's grandma and uncle bill watching. Cringe.
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FormerUser · on April 3, 2016 at 11:26 AM
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I had a backyard wedding but didn't specify that we had rented toilets. I didn't realize that I had to?
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mandybeth · on April 3, 2016 at 11:32 AM
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@cats I feel the same way. I'm not going to be specifying anywhere about toilets. I think in her case she's concerned more so because the way they are presenting the wedding- drunk rager and primitive... I would still assume they would know to have restrooms. But I can see where she might be doubting it.
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Hot Like Bea · on April 3, 2016 at 11:37 AM
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"I will not pee in the woods." Every time I read the title of this thread I giggle. LOL
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Carly · on April 3, 2016 at 11:56 AM
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On one hand, if I had a backyard wedding like this, I wouldn't think to specify "Yes! You can pee behind closed doors!" because it's such common sense to provide bathroom facilities.

On the other, tagging 600+ Facebook friends in your drunk rager Facebook post wedding invite makes it sound like common sense/good hosting is seriously lacking in this couple, so I get the concern.

Good luck!
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