I need to VENT!!! People asking if they're invited to wedding!!

So rude! It's been all good up until now. We got engaged last summer. We have about 5 months until the big day and the stress is starting to settle in!

Why don't people get it??? Normally I'm upfront and would put someone in their place but I don't want people to have it come off as rude, selfish, or bridezilla like!!

Yea i had a second cousin facebook message my mom (who had nothing to do with the guest list, this isn't the 80s) complaining about not getting an invite BEFORE INVITES WERE SENT OUT. people are so rude. weddings aren't the same as they were before. Back in the day parents "hosted" them and invited everyone they have ever met. NOW, most brides pay at least a portion and it is much more focused on who the couple wants to spend their evening with...some people just don't understand that.

We're getting that too.

People we aren't even CLOSE with! "Hey can I come?"

No. I get it, we're doing a park/outdoor wedding, but we're still limited to 100 people. I have close friends I couldn't invite, and you and I haven't spoken in 2 years, and you want to come to my wedding?

NO.

I can't wait until all my aunts and uncles don't get an invitation and start wondering why. It's going to be so much fun! Where is that ostrich face?!

I am so nervous for this to happen... my family is HUGE and I know all of my second cousins, great aunts/uncles, and such. My great aunt and uncle even came out to visit us in LA about a year ago. But if we invite everyone, we will easily be at 300 people invited.

I totally understand where you're coming from. I had a cousin FB message me the other day and said. "Hey did you send out your invited yet? I was like yea. she then asked me if I sent her invitation to her grandparents house. I was like, no we had to limit our guest list due to space at our venue.

This keeps happening to me at work. I don't even know what to say anymore. I have worked here for 11 years and some people are invited because we are friends outside of work. However I know some people are going to be upset and vocal about it.

@Shannon & Joseph that is so embarrassing!! For her!!! Why would you ask that?? I had a cousin who I didn't grow up with (I grew up with his siblings he's my uncles kid from a diff marriage & much older than me) Fb me as well asking about an invite. My mother however precipitated this because she commented to him on fb that I was getting married and the date!!!! He took that as an opening I guess!! I reamed my mother and told her she better stop unless she would like to pay for the entire thing!! I'm sorry but I'm not paying 320 bucks for a cousin I see maybe once every few years and his wife who I don't know!!

I saw my landlord the other day while I was getting mail and she asked how the wedding planning was going, told her I was excited and all that, then she said, "Well make sure to give us an invitation when you have them!"

I was just like, ".... Aaahaaa... yeah ok...."

People are suuuper weird sometimes.

I don't understand why people think this is ok. Especially the ones who have been married before. My nail lady has said to me multiple times that she hopes she can "fit in my suitcase" and I've had a co-worker or two say they are waiting for their invite and I'm just like...uhh.... NO.

Now I'm thinking have I ever pre-invited myself to something??!! Lol

Most likely not bc I have manners but I'm trying to rationalize these people!!

Hi date twin! I understand what you are saying. We narrowed our list and we are at 120 (our goal is 150) and that's just immediate family and very few close friends. We are not inviting second cousins/ aunts and uncles even though they are close to us. And I'm not inviting coworkers or etc. I've had people tell me "make sure you invite me! Put me on your guest list" umm excuse me, are you helping us pay for the wedding? My only response to everyone is just laugh and say "haha yeah we will see how everything goes" and not even bring it up. It sucks that we can't invite everyone but we are not just renting a big hall and making our own food like my family usually does. It's hard for them to understand but we are just telling everyone that we are keeping it very intimate and small. Good luck!

Prepare yourself because it does not stop. We have people that we haven't seen in over ten years asking for invites. A causal acquaintance's girlfriend posted on my wall on Facebook saying that we better invite them or she's going to find out where I live. Honey, the fact that you don't know where I live should tell you your rank on my guest list. The best thing you can do is give them the standard limiting the guest list due to budget, venue limitations, etc. Those that love you will understand and those that don't understand will have to get over it.

I don't think people realize what kind of position they put you in, but I'm more than prepared to say the whole due to venue and budget restrictions we won't be able to invite everyone! Which secretly they wouldn't have been invited anyway!

I was out with 6 friends last nite. They all received their wedding invites the prior day. One told me she cannot attend; she will be in Paris. So another said "I will bring my two kids since she cant go." ah - what? One friend cannot go so you are bringing a 7 and 9 year old I've never met? UGH. Another said, "I just went on Match so if I meet someone I like I will bring him." It amazes me what people say and do as far as weddings are concerned.

Ostrich as requested. i wish they made a lot of different raptor memes. sigh.

also, some guy randomly said 'i expect an invitation' on our engagement announcement. who the fuck does that.

No one should ever say 'I better get invited' to anything- but, I really do think most of this comes from people really not understanding all that goes involved with each person attending. I told my mom how much people were paying for photography, and she thought that was for the entire wedding! They don't understand.

"In their defense many people have not been to a wedding on the scale of ours and don't realize that it's costing us approx $160 pp after tax."

Not even reading this. Just. Ostrich.

"In their defense many people have not been to a wedding on the scale of ours and don't realize that it's costing us approx $160 pp after tax."