i have a question about vowels

Sharon I creep on here every so often. :] I missed a few weeks and I suddenly have no idea who anybody is!

Ha ha ha ha ha ha..... you gals crack me up - I am literally in tears... thanks for making my night..

Anren..I'm right there with ya..lol

We're writing love letters to each other and exchanging them the night before. We promised each other we wouldn't read them until right before the ceremony. We're both too nervous about speaking in front of groups of people that we decided to this instead of writing our own vows.

I think you should probably stick with the basics and like Jackilyn suggested- maybe writing something private and personal, not to be shared. If he isn't comfortable- you writing them won't make him any more comfortable repeating them.

Your FH may have a similar personality to mine. I have to play the devil's advocate here. We get so involved in planning that we forget how big a day it is for HIM. Making it uncomfortable isn't fair. I fantasized about us sharing vows we both wrote and my FH reluctantly agreed when I asked if he would do it, but after thinking about his personality and how uncomfortable he would feel saying such personal things in front of a huge audience, I decided to plan without.

This is one option that I'm doing that you may like:

We're preparing letters to our future selves (me to my future self). The letters will go in a wooden box along with a bottle of wine and two wine glasses. The idea is, if either of you finds a trying time in the future where your marriage needs attention, sit down, prepare a glass of wine, and read why you love your FH at present and why you married him. If this moment never comes, pop it open for a 25th anniversary celebration!

The winebox ceremony! We did that.. it sits onour coffee table. WE put other things in with it!

I think if you write his vows, it wont come from him, thats what you want right? Don't force him to do something and end up disappointed. Good luck!!

I think you can buy them online. That way, it'll sound a lot better.

If you are scared he won't say anything nice (though I don't know why he wouldn't) then I would stick to traditional vows or slight variations of those.