i have a question about vowels

What kind of vowels? A E I O U? lol sorry I had to be the first. lol

The Vows are entirely up to the couple. If he is okay with you writing the vows it shouldn't be a problem though it would definitely mean more if on the big day he said very meaningful and original words that you weren't expecting.

I found some vowels online that worked for both of us. we both repeted the same vowels, but they were meaningful. I think if you right diffent wons for you than the wons you are righting for him, that is kinda lame imo. to me it is almost like righting your self a love poem. but i don't see anything rong with righting the same vowels for each other or to say together

I'm not sure it is a great idea to write his. The idea of personal vows is that it comes from the person saying them.

I think Mellojean has a good idea of writing them together that way you can help him but at the same time it will be his thoughts and not yours.

I just want him to say nice things about me but he wont

I think they are being funny (its vows not vowels). A good place to start would be to look online for some ideas, then work with the samples to write the vows you want.

And so it begins.

*looking forward to the meltdown from the grammar nazis*

Come on, give her a break, she's new! Damn ya'll, she already said she was scared to post in her intro.

What about sitting down, and writing them together?

I would love to hear why it is he won't say nice things to you.

Jessica - Maybe he is shy, and doesn't like public speaking. Does he ever write personal messages in cards he gives you for holidays or special occasions? If he doesn't write you love letters/notes, I wouldn't expect him to want to write his own vows. Perhaps you two can look at a bunch of examples on line and mix and match your favorites to make one special just for you two. And tell him, if he is too shy to want to write his own, you would still appreciate to know how he feels about you (In private) either spoken or written.

Happy planning.

Hes embarassed

Omfg.

Could he read a poem instead of writing his own vows? He can pick one that describes how he feels about you.

Gotcha, I think if it's an issue of comfort maybe you should stick with the traditional vows. I know that I am a fairly confident public speaker where my FH is not at all. I would love to write my own vows, but he's totally against the idea. I just think that it's as important of a day for you as it is for him, and if he's going to feel so uncomfortable doing it, then it won't be a very pleasant time for him, when it should be the opposit.

I know my FH loves me, and I know how he feels because he tells me all the time, and he asked me to marry him. That's all I need.

If he's embarrassed to say his personal vows during the ceremony maybe you could both exchange a love letter the day before [if you're traditional and won't see eachother send them with bm, moh, or parents] and then say the same vows during the ceremony instead. So that way you know how he feels and he doesn't feel embarrassed.

I agree with AP. If he gets nervous speaking in public then sticking with the traditional vows is probabally the way to go. Besides, they became a tradition for good reason. They say everything you need to say.

If you'd like something more personal, I'd suggest you each hand write a note to each other to exchange on that day and slip away for a few minutes either before or after the ceremony to exchange and read them. That will not only give you the personal declaration you're wanting but, also give you something to cherish forever and read many times.

Miss Me- I have nooooo idea what you mean.

Jessica - spend time working on them together. Maybe you can help him verbalize his feelings in a way that is "him"... and is not you telling him what to say. He should also start practicing and get comfortable speaking. It's a skill like anything else.

@Mellojean! HAHHA. That was painful for me to get through, really. But I did chuckle quite a bit :]

Anren - have you been lurking or have i just not been paying attention good to see you're still around

I loved JackilynC's idea of writing a love letter to each other and then saying traditional vows. Though, one of my bridesmaids wrote vows, and they both just said the same thing to each other.