I had to fire a bridesmaid yesterday....or, politely ask her to resign, I should say. It was a giant accumulation of things that led me to ultimately feel like I didn't want her in my bridal party. It was by no means an easy decision and it took me several months of getting upset and being stressed out and having hurt feelings to decide that it needed to be done. We will call her "A".
She couldn't commit to what I was expecting of her as a bridesmaid (attending bridal showers, bachelorette party, paying to have her hair done, having manicures/pedicures, etc.). She felt that I was asking too much of her, both financially and of her valuable time. My mother bought their dresses, I paid for their jewelry as their bridesmaid gift, and I was allowing them to all wear nude (or similar shades) of shoes that they already owned instead of having them all purchase the same shoes....continued in comments
