i feel like I’m begging people to attend

Our wedding is on a Saturday at 5pm and I feel the same

As much as I want a celebration with everyone, in the end it's about me and my future husband.

But it's still disheartening!!

I had my wedding before COVID and there were a few people who didn't tell us until the last minute that they weren't going to come... which resulted in us having to pay for their meals which was quite a lot. That's fine, people have busy lives and forget. But one couple left on the day without a really good reason - they claimed another guest was misbehaving. But it would've been caught on video since it was during the ceremony and we had a camera going which a view of where they were sitting (from the back)... plus there would've been witnesses. But no one sitting beside them witnessed the event they claim happened which caused them to be upset and leave. The guest they accused denies it ever happened, plus of course it was long before any alcohol was served so it couldn't have been drinking that made people forget etc. The couple had agreed to take some photos for us (we did have a professional photographer but we wanted some of the guests mingling too while we were away)... so I think they just didn't want to help out but made some excuse to leave. So yeah, even without COVID, people will find excuses not to attend!

I hear ya and feel ya.

I hear ya and feel ya ladies. My wedding is on nov 2021, just sent out the recent STD and still feel like I'm getting crickets. Perhaps we need to think of this as...like a movie? we "market" our selves/lives and get people excited?? and that they could possibly have FOMO? Idk....I'm desperate lmao

I think a lot of the issue is driven by Rona. For Rona, you have those that still are not comfortable going out/don't know what the requirements/situation may be. Your venue may be strict, but since everything changes quickly (e.g. vaccinated can now go maskless), they may be waiting to see what the environment is closer to the date. On the flip side, you have those that are ready to get out and YOLO, so they may very well be planning another trip and/or vacation that is taking their PTO and not allowing them to get off in time.

You also have those that in theory had 2 years to save, but may have been unemployed due to Rona and don't have the funds because they weren't able to say.

The prior posts hit the nail on the head - the day is about you and your FH. As long as the two of you are there, nothing else will matter. AND those that do attend will be there for the right reasons and ready to celebrate, so you'll likely end up having a greater time than you ever imagined.

I'm so sorry you are going through this. We postponed our wedding seven months because of Corona. My bridal shower is next month and only half the people we invited are coming. A lot of them didn't even respond. (That's making me nervous for my wedding.) It sucks people aren't being understanding and supporting you especially when everyone knows what you've been dealing with this past year. The only advice I can give you is to not let it rain on your parade. Whoever comes, comes. I'm trying not to let it stress me out. Just know you're not alone.

Lmao, this made me chuckle! I needed that. Thank you.

Exactly. Couldn't agree more

I wouldn't get discouraged about the RSVP response rate yet. Most people wait until the RSVP deadline to respond, and it's still a month and a half until your wedding.