i feel like I’m begging people to attend

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A lot of people literally cannot ask for time off this far away from a July wedding.

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When is your RSVP deadline?

Oh nooo forget those people you know who they are at your worst definitely won't dont let them be there at your best time to cutt off I get it this pandemic got them scared and all but at least give a month rvp not going to make it time to cut some people out... and pleaseee enjoy your day congratulations 💜

Fridays are tricky in general and having an additional year doesn’t guarantee a “yes”, nor does it mean that a person wants to take time off work to attend especially if they don’t have a flexible career. We also postponed a year (October 2020 to October 2021) and those who can attend will attend. But that’s what RSVPs are for. There’s a “decline” option for a reason. Of course we would love for 100% of our guests to attend our weddings. But that’s just not a realistic expectation.

View Quoted Comment I definitely agree with this. Before planning my own wedding I actually believed some of the tv/movie hype over weddings. But as you start planning your own wedding you quickly realize that the only 2 people who will be excited about the wedding is you and your significant other and some significant others aren't even very excited. However some people will be offended by not getting invited even if they never planned on attending.


I'm sorry you are dealing with this. Don't beg or worry about those people who are looking for a way out of attending those people don't matter, the people who do matter will be there no matter what. Hopefully closer to the wedding it gets much better.

I’m sorry this is happening to you. We eloped but are having a wedding late next year. It was only going to be 20-30 guests but now has grown because family want to attend something other than a funeral. I would think that for a happy occasion such as a wedding people would want to be there. Focus on those who want to share in the excitement and also express your feelings to those who you are closest to about what is happening.

View Quoted Comment I agree. When you plan everything it does sting a little extra if people don’t participate. At no cost to them especially! With the bachelorette party my sister has been pressuring me to get a big fancy suite. I’m like well I can’t even count on anyone coming let alone splitting the cost so I don’t see a reason to spend over a thousand on the room. In my opinion with the notice ahead of time I really think there’s no reason anyone wouldn’t come to a wedding. (It’s basically the best catered party, what else could they have to do with years notice?!) My fiancé’s friends also have very underwhelming participation and enthusiasm in the process. It’s not just us though. Another friend is getting married in a couple months. That friend is barely communicating about his own wedding.


I do agree that it wasn’t very nice of a friend to say that too me. However I do acknowledge that many people around me, especially within my family don’t even have weddings. Court houses and elopement are the norm. I’m trying to not get my hopes up about attendance. I don’t know if it’ll feel awkward walking down an aisle with few people in the room if that happens. But maybe I won’t even notice. And you are right. I do intend to make the absolute best out of it. And I hope you do too!

View Quoted Comment Right back at you sister soul! Sooo very thankful for WW's forums! Place where we can vent, cry, laugh & go crazy together!

We're getting married on a Friday, too! We literally had someone in the wedding party tell me that "it was annoying" for me to get married on a Friday and she didn't want to waste her PTO on it. I seriously don't understand people being so inconvenienced - it's basically a free date night. And if you give people notice, there usually is never an issue getting off of work - or leaving early, whatever they need to do. If they don't want to make the time, don't sweat it! Save the money you would spend on them and consider it their loss!

View Quoted Comment You gave me the confidence to break ties with people that ghosted me when it came time to RSVP! I literally sent out save the dates, two invites, and emails, plus, we postponed last June to this April. It’s not like they couldn’t have come up with some bs between now and then. Instead, I’m having to track people down so I can make sure they aren’t coming. One girl was a close work friend and has since ignored all my rsvp requests, the shower invites, and the bachelorette party invites. What’s even more frustrating is that she is planning her own wedding for this year! Consider yourself blocked ☺️

View Quoted Comment I’m upset for you that your brother isn’t attending! That’s absolutely ridiculous

View Quoted Comment Yasssss!!!! Block them. Clearly it’s only about them and NOT you. Like I said, it’s okay when it’s other people wedding or baby shower during Covid but how dare someone else lol. People are so self centered. People that are happy for me are coming from three different states. Those 4 terrible girls all live in Charlotte, NC within 1 hr of my venue and have no excuse to not attend. Oh and another minor detail I left out. I live in Florida and am driving 6 hrs north for my OWN wedding so that family and friends in NC don’t have to travel out of town. Can’t be any more accommodating. Enjoy your wedding and don’t let these other people make you feel guilty about when and where you’re having your wedding 😊

View Quoted Comment Thanks, Kim! You clearly are the type of person who respects others and wants to make sure others are comfortable. It’s sad that your wedding accommodates others, but I’m sure it will be lovely!


In Michigan, because of Covid guidelines, we can’t even have our reception at the point. Unless things get better, we will have to cancel our reception . Fingers crossed it gets better by 4.24.21!

View Quoted Comment So YOU are going out of your way to make it easy on THEM??.. people are unbelievable. Like I stated earlier, if I see that you’re going to all these other big events and vacationing and going out to bars every weekend, then it’s not that you don’t feel safe coming to a small wedding of a close friend/family member.. it’s that you just don’t want to. I get it, some people don’t like weddings but they forget that their presence requested there means they’re important to the couple obviously and if they don’t care enough to at least show their love back, then come for free food and drinks and party favors. I can’t with people sometimes

View Quoted Comment Friday wedding buddies!! And you’re absolutely right.. I know that for some, maybe it really is an issue taking time off of work but having known about this for over a year, I don’t see any reason why someone couldn’t get two hours off early to be there. If they really wanted to, they would make it happen because they genuinely care, and if not? Well I just saved money and now have peace of mind knowing the friendship isn’t strong enough for either of us to be there for big events in the future. I hope your Friday wedding (just your wedding in general) turns out exactly like you dreamed of regardless of those letting you down.. I know it will be magical!

View Quoted Comment Oh, this app has helped me so much! You feel so alone on how you’re feeling or maybe just not having anyone to talk about things with but then we get to come across each other and share our experiences and frustrations and it’s sooooo helpful! You’re always welcome to come to me to vent and share!

View Quoted Comment Kelli, Your fiancé and you are in the same boat as my fiancé and I am. We’re always thinking of others and going above and beyond hoping that people will recognize our kindness but they don’t. It has not been reciprocated one bit.
It’s just sad that it took our wedding for us to see people’s true colors. We’re not going to be mean but we are definitely not going out of our way to be kind anymore. Relationships works both way it just sucks some people don’t see that and chooses a life event like a wedding to act this way. Be kind but to a limit that’s something I’m learning this year, sadly. Good luck! I hope more people are excited and happy for you on your big day than downers, leave the downers at home 😂

View Quoted Comment 😂😂😂 the two sisters had no problem having a wedding in December 2020’dueinf the peak of Corona. But a month later I sent out my invitation to my April wedding and now they scared of Corona and being possibly pregnant 😂🤷🏻‍♀️. It’s ridiculous and I don’t need that sort of lame excuse. Honestly I should of listen to my fiancé about them but I thought these girls would prove us wrong but they didn’t. And the pregnant one had no problem having a baby shower during corona but has a problem with my wedding? Ehhh, bye felecia to all of them. Lol

Oh I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I got married this Feb, on Valentines Day, and we had a LOT of people bail on us, giving us the crappiest of reasons for not going. Like, COVID is one thing, but we had a "friend" bail on us after he had RSVPed yes, saying, "Oh I really need to study for a test", but like our wedding was literally on a three day weekend. A lot of stupid reasons altogether. Despite that, I wouldn't change my wedding for the world.

Lately I've been wanting to get a feel for what people really think of our Nov. 2021 wedding with the current world around us. Though the answers arent completely NO I am sensing doubt and that includes some bridal party. What is most important, and my fiancee and I stand by this, is that those who want to come will not miss it no matter what happens. The others, you will have to do without. But, there should be a core group that will mask up, get tested, make arrangements with work to be there. Those who do not do what is necessary to attend may not be the true friends or family you thought they were.